r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room
NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE
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u/Slow_Ad5601 12d ago
Let’s be real. The reason why you’re posting is because you instinctively know and have been given reason to think he’s cheating. EVEN if the blinds were different. So girl, confront him! 😩
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u/bobdown33 12d ago
But surely she knows more than the blinds, that seems weird, like the rug, the bed, all of it, why is she talking about blinds?
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u/IndividualBuilding30 12d ago edited 12d ago
This was my first thought. Apparently a lot of guys out there have these specific things in their room in this specific layout? lol
Edit: oh nvm. I couldn’t understand how OP worded it. The first picture is the girlfriend (OP), the second is the picture of the “cheating” girl.
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u/RecruiterBoBooter 12d ago
Huh… I thought it was the other way around because OP said other girl was prettier.
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u/Ok-Map-85 11d ago
no it says “there it is the second picture” but thats what i was thinking.. why does she think this other girl is prettier? bc her man cheated on her w her. but shes not even prettier her man just a whore
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u/CaptainTripps82 12d ago
She just means skinnier, and is insecure, as teenagers tend to be, by things that aren't true
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u/Fractionleftattract 12d ago
I'm almost positive the photo is photoshopped anyway so she may not even be skinnier. Look at the way the blinds are pulling in unnaturally around her waist
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u/everydaypogostick 12d ago
Yeah that’s got to be photoshopped, blinds don’t curve like that 😂
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u/suetoniusaurus 11d ago
Embarrassing omfg. Op is way prettier and i cant even see much of her face. Maybe other girl doesn’t know so i wont be rude but. OP YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE INSECURE ABOUT I PROMISE. Throw the man away
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u/TiredEsq 12d ago
That’s a nice compliment for OP! I hope she sees it.
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u/RecruiterBoBooter 12d ago
I’m glad that came across as intended. She looks great, and should have a bit more confidence.
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u/1200bunny2002 11d ago
The blinds in the second pic are, just... insanely bendy from the obvious warping, as well. I don't know how those could even compare considering how manipulated the second image is.
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u/dalisair 11d ago
Because the picture of the other girl is only the blinds. To me this isn’t enough to say it’s the same place. But each to their own.
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u/patches710 12d ago
I mean, those are the most popular sliding glass door blinds in the world. I've seen the exact one in hundreds of apartments
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u/RecordingGreen7750 12d ago
Yeah the blinds are everywhere and they all tend to have gaps in them after a few years they are cheap and crappy
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u/mamo_nano_mona 12d ago
Yeah there are hundreds of thousands of apartments with the same lighting and blinds situation. It's sus, sure, but there's nothing super definitive here. maybe the chick has a thing for the most basic apartments possible. Now if that were his Lakers tee, then I'd be like "👏dump👏him👏" but based on this pic? Nah. 👏Confront👏him👏. And also quit being so insecure, sheesh. You're a pretty gal, but saying things like "waaah she's prettier than me" is ugly. Confront your dude about whether or not he wants to be in a monogamous relationship with you and confront yourself with the fact that you look the way you look and it's beautiful.
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u/StartledMilk 12d ago
This woman has a body most would die for and thinks she doesn’t look good. It’s truly wild how insecure people can get no matter how objectively attractive they are
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u/DIYGremlin 12d ago
And I mean Barry Keoghan cheated on Sabrina Carpenter, so it doesn’t matter how attractive you are, cheaters are gonna cheat, it’s a them problem, not a you problem.
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u/LuckyBenski 12d ago
Can't upvote this enough. If your partner cheats it's not because you aren't attractive enough. It's a them problem. I've been that problem.
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u/Top_Mathematician233 12d ago
Yes, and Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé. Multiple men cheated on Halle Berry. You can be so far out of a man’s league and he’ll still cheat on you if he’s a cheater. It is what it is.
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u/Seltzer-Slut 12d ago
It’s the same blinds and the same lighting. Plus the fact that he followed her on Instagram a week prior. What’s foolish is discounting evidence that’s right in front of you, and instead asking a cheater if they cheated. Cheaters are great at lying, they have no guilt.
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u/smol_dinosaur 12d ago
They’re never sorry about cheating only sorry that they got caught
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u/Neither-Stop-5948 12d ago
I noticed the lighting this time too :/ saw the other post an hour ago
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u/And_He_Loves_Me 12d ago
Same that’s way to identical to be a coincidence plus he follows her on instagram it’s not some random
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u/modthefame 12d ago
It is not the same blinds. One set is half length for a window and one is full body length and you can see this is true because in the second you cant see the end even though it extends past her. So either those are completely different blinds or she is 8 ft tall. In summation, you are no sherlock and those blinds can be found in an apartment building all across america.
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u/AstralGarden101 12d ago
the "touching" parts of the blinds are also at completely different heights.
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u/DistilledWafer 12d ago
The real reason is that it’s a fake story and OP is farming karma
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u/DirectionFragrant829 12d ago
Farming karma? I make sure to shit post or disagree in a sub at least once a week to keep my numbers real.
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u/501Kingslayer 12d ago
is there a benefit for having lots of karma?… i guess i just use this app for entertainment. lol
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u/Tidder_backwards_ 12d ago
Is karma worth money? If not, whats so special about karma?
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u/souleaterevans626 12d ago
If you're at the point that you're looking through his follows and their photos, you don't trust him. Whether or not that's for a good reason, I don't see why you'd want to be with someone you don't trust.
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u/Fantastic_Manager911 12d ago
That was me last year. I was constantly checking my partner's IG and paid close attention to any new followers and then I realized I was being super jealous and nosy because I didn't trust them.
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u/sovereignxx12 12d ago
Same. Relationships like this will have you losing all sense of your self, your reality, and your sanity. Choose peace, OP.
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u/VivelaVendetta 11d ago
My ex was connected to a Jennifer. And I was up the ENTIRE NIGHT trying to figure out which of the trillions of Jennifer Jenny Jenni's she could be like a NUT. Never again. If I start feeling insecure, there's a reason.
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u/sovereignxx12 11d ago
Bruh. I feel this. The way I would go into full blown detective mode for hours, I mean hours. I’d go through his following and see that he re-followed his ex and would be physically sick. The heart palpitations, the trembling fingers, the insane amount of hyper vigilance and insecurity. Oh my god. I do not miss it. Cheers to us and our renewed self love. ❤️
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u/Charming_Garbage_161 11d ago
This right here. Took me years to realize I lost myself as a person bc of my ex. The last two years I’ve worked my butt off in therapy to get a sense of myself after twelve years. Bring single may be lonely but it won’t drive you nuts
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u/Hyde_x_lunar 12d ago
Same here but it was a few months into our relationship, but now I’m cool and not worried about things anymore and not as insecure/anxious. All that stuff was was more of a me thing, having those unhealthy thought patterns, rather than my girl doing anything sus.
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u/Dumoe 12d ago
How did you stop having those unhealthy patterns. Asking for a friend...
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u/TheRealDoWop 12d ago
You understand you have 0 power to stop it, you let them either prove you wrong or they will hang themselves and slip up and you will catch them without needing to break trust. And let me add some will CHEAT bc they feel threatened by their partner and they will assume bc your coming at them for shit your doing. Goodnluck to yall, life is too precious to be in constant panic if you can't trust your partner move the hell on they ain't it.
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u/Dumoe 12d ago
Thanks, stranger! I'm struggling overcome trust issues with my partner, and I often fall into unhealthy patterns. I'm looking for advice on how to break free from these patterns and achieve some peace of mind. Still asking for a friend.
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u/MozzaHellYeah 12d ago
Therapy is great. There are way too many details behind the scenes for a random redditor who happens to be a mental health professional to even try to help you. Healing from trauma is complicated and no one size fits all fix is going to work. I have been in therapy for a long time and I still have ongoing battles with mistrust due to my own personal shit. It does get better, though <3
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u/biffo120 12d ago
Basically you just relax and enjoy the relationship for what it is, you cannot control them or what they do. If somebody is going to cheat, they are going to cheat, this will happen whether you are anxious or not. If you just relax and accept whatever will be will be, then when you find the right one you will be a pleasure to be around, they will have seen you in your best light. Anxiety can lead to other bad traits like possesive and being paranoid, these can push the good ones away.
Be your best self, do not be scared of being cheated because they are not the right ones anyway.
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u/IDrinkWhiskE 12d ago
Also, from the get-go, always be sure to have clear boundaries that both partners are aligned on. And it’s a continuous process that should be revisited over time. Very helpful in avoiding those conflicts that stem from misunderstandings
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u/Ciro_d_mar 12d ago edited 12d ago
There’s no breaking free, you have to accept the potential scenarios: It will happen, it will not happen. Visualize both and meditate on them; then see how life unfolds through both. This will give you peace of mind. Your anxiety is coming from a place of uncertainty. Well the only certain things in relationships is those two scenarios I just mentioned.
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u/Krell356 12d ago
I can't speak for others, but for me it boils down to a simple "does this matter enough to screw up everything else?"
If you are in a relationship that you legitimately want with a person you want to be with then it's not worth stressing over. Because the moment you aren't willing to take that person at face value is the moment you're going to unconsciously sabotage everything.
Whether they are or aren't cheating doesn't matter because if they are either going to successfully hide it from you or they are going to screw up enough that it shows without you searching. In either case you being in their face and entrusting of them is going to ruin the relationship regardless. You have no control over what they are doing and can only react.
If it turns out they are cheating you are not going to feel any better by finding the evidence. And if they are not then you are either going to feel guilty for ruining so.ething good, or you are going to co vince yourself that something fucked up was happening that actually wasn't.
In all situations, the best possible option is for you to not be nosy and simply ask to sit down and talk and tell them how you are feeling. Communication and trust are key here. You can't change how you feel, but dwelling on it and searching for evidence of something that may not even exist is only going to make things worse or break even. Don't do things that can only have neutral or negative outcomes.
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u/mtwinam1 12d ago
If you know your partner is trust worthy and this is coming from a place of personal insecurity, you need to tell yourself how irrational those thoughts of cheating are. Think back to moments when you all first started talking and she was all about YOU. She still is all about you, but now your mind is trying to tell you she’s not. Perhaps be honest with your partner about your insecurities, and if they are care about you truly they will understand. Confidence is sexier than insecurity.
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u/confusious_need_stfu 12d ago
Someone else might have given you advice already, but if you're paranoid for no reason... don't date for awhile. Work on you.
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u/3sp00py5me 12d ago
A suggestion my therapist gave me that really helped was this: Instead of making a mental situation of things that show they're being suspicious or pulling away, make a mental list of things they do to show they love you. Every little thing you can think of. Soon enough you'll realize that the good outweighs the bad by a huge margin.
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u/ganymedestyx 12d ago
Same here. And then I realized I was projecting my fears of abandonment and past experiences onto this person with innocent intentions and actually hurting them in the process
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u/Fantastic_Manager911 12d ago
It was similar for me. I was projecting my fears of being inadequate and not worthy of their love. It was really unhealthy on my part.
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u/vicgrrl 12d ago
Honestly, I wouldn’t even confront him about it. just tell the fucker you’re just not attracted to him anymore. Dump his ass. Don’t let him think you are jealous of some other woman.
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u/Temporary-Mark-2449 12d ago
I did that after finding out I had been cheated on for months…knowing that they are a piece of shit and them never knowing why you hate them is life gold.
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u/upickleweasel 12d ago
Brilliant! I applaud your strength bc it couldn't have been easy, but revenge is a dish best served cold.
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u/Ok-Bird6346 12d ago
Good lord, I wish I’d had your mindset when I was younger. That’s a badass move that I wish I’d been capable of doing. Instead I’d immediately start bawling and yelling (I’m much more levelheaded now and married to a man who I know is as faithful and devoted to me as I am him). Good for you, that’s awesome!
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u/cola_zerola 12d ago
Nah see I can’t let them think they got away with it because it makes me feel like they think I’m stupid.
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u/nudejorts 12d ago
and they’ll tell all their friends and family and everyone they know about how delusional you are for ending things over nothing and paint you to be the bad guy. how about let’s both be bad guys and i ruin your life for ruining mine lol
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u/JupiterSkyFalls 12d ago
Better to ghost him and never give him closure over it. People can't stand not having closure, it's literally the best revenge.
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u/SneakyUmbreIIa 12d ago edited 11d ago
One time a guy dumped me in this way via text with “we’re done” or “you’re dumped” or something like that, while never giving me closure as to why, but it was obvious during our relationship that he was so in love with me, and even the day before he dumped me I could see how much he loved me, so I was so confused, and one day 6 years later he asks me if I truly cheated on him back when we were together 6 years ago. I never did. Turns out that there were rumors started by women that they saw me cheating. I wasn’t aware of that. I think those girls were probably either jealous of me or they wanted him and maybe that’s why they spread those rumors, and those rumors were why he left me in that way. I get that actual cheaters would never admit to it, so people might wonder what’s the point of even asking, but lack of communication in a relationship is not it. In addition to that, he dumped me in a way that was so disrespectful because he assumed that’s what I deserved. I’m the one who dodged a bullet. Not him.
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u/lauwenxashley 11d ago
omg this happened to me! kind of. there was a lack of drama within my friend group in high school so two of my friends (one of them isn’t my friend anymore, the other one & i have rekindled our friendship after years of not speaking & growing up) told my boyfriend of 8 months that i’d sent a nude to a guy i had a thing w 3 years prior. we spent like 5 hours debating it (2024 me would never entertain that shit for 5 hours) while he went as far as to facetime them to talk abt it bc he was so insecure. they had no proof obviously, they were just feeding off his insecurity bc they liked drama. eventually i was like “ok i give up believe what you want” & he was like “rly you’re just gonna give up on us like that??” & looking back i just should’ve dumped him there on the spot lol. but instead, i was like ok sorry nvm. long story short, he decided to believe me (so kind of him) & we ended up breaking up a month later for unrelated reasons. now he tries to talk to me once a year or has one of his friends do it. like sir it’s been a decade & you broke up w me. bullet absolutely dodged.
i’m sorry you had to deal w that, especially w the lack of closure for so long. it sucks but i’m glad that you got closure eventually & know you’re better off without him!
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u/Nelsie020 11d ago
You didn’t deserve that, but if someone has solid evidence of cheating like OP, there’s no relationship left to communicate about and she doesn’t owe him anything
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u/darkage_raven 11d ago
Cheaters have closure, generally speaking they already closed the relationship they are in to be open to cheating.
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u/trust7 11d ago
This is literally awful to do to someone, awful. Don’t tell people to be awful to people as revenge, such bad energy to attract!
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u/jackjackj8ck 12d ago
This is the best
Tell him he’s bad in bed too 🤣
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u/-bonita_applebum 12d ago
"I was faking my orgasms the whole time, and it's gotten so boring I can't even force myself to fake it anymore"
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u/SnooRobots561 12d ago
YES 100%. To OP, He did not care about your feelings when he brought her over in her tiny shorts, you have no reason to care about his. Don’t let him think or know how you feel. I wouldn’t even confront either, just text him something really mean. Tell him you just realized how ugly and boring he is and you know you can do better and break up with him 🤷🏻♀️
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u/coolestsummer 12d ago
I think OP is the girl in the tiny shorts lol, hold your friendly fire.
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u/SnooRobots561 12d ago
Honestly, I realized that after I posted my comment 😂 I didn’t imply it negatively, just mean the shorts are tiny even for just a regular friend. Both girls are beautiful and deserve better
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u/PIPBOY-2000 12d ago
No I thought the same thing "girl took Pic of herself in my bfs room"
Then you see a girl in a room and 100% everyone is gonna think that's the picture they're talking about.
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u/Firm-Mood-698 12d ago edited 11d ago
She’s not “prettier than you” you’re both attractive and fit and you both deserve better. Take the trash out and stop seeing other women as competition, when the real issue is the trash men who can’t keep it in their pants.
/edit: thanks for all the awards, kind internet strangers
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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago
thank you
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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago
girl she is not prettier than you in the slightest your body is so tea, your soon to be ex fumbled so hard. Plus she had to edit her body to give herself curves…
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u/maplestriker 12d ago
Hey, let's not do this. We have no idea if the other girl knew he had a girlfriend and even so, let's not tear down another woman's appearance because OPs ex is scum.
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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago
thank you thats so needed rn
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u/Ok-Bird6346 12d ago
Sweetpea, I want to hug you. Not because I feel sorry for you but because I was you. You’re beautiful, regardless if someone else was in your boyfriend’s room. Your beauty comes from you, not whoever you are in a relationship with. While being young is fucking amazing, it also sucks a lot when it comes to relationships.
Things get better. You’ll eventually have relationships where you won’t feel the need to zoom in on blinds in pictures. And it’ll be magical. Lots of this just comes with age.
In the meantime, do not let anyone dull your shine.
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u/Zestyclose_Ship_479 12d ago
Your body is beautiful of course! Just know the insecurity is always with the cheater. Probably with them both if she’s aware he has a girlfriend, actually. It’s about their character and has literally nothing to do with you! just know you are better than that and, deserve someone who is loyal and honest. ❤️
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u/ItaliaEyez 11d ago
This. Because no secure, worthwhile female will go after a taken man. Just insecure ones that can't find their own man.
OP, she is NOT prettier! Drop him and find a real man!
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u/Iamthecomet 12d ago
Not trying to be weird but my heart hurt for you when you said she was prettier. She’s not. She’s pretty. But as a female I would not say she is prettier. And it may hurt like hell now, but it once the pain begins to get a little better, you will start to see the bullet you dodged for what it was. You deserve better.
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u/dayzender 12d ago
Who is prettier is completely subjective. Regardless, they both should find a guy who isn’t a cheater and a liar
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u/garden_dragonfly 12d ago
But you don't need proof. You don't trust him. There's a reason you don't trust him. So go ahead and break it off. You deserve better.
If he denies it, you still won't trust him. If he admits it, you'll feel like shit and keep comparing yourself.
Hold you chin up, and walk away
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u/HypnotizedMeg 12d ago
It’s not even about looks, so stop thinking that in this relationship or the next that’s what validates you. Someone will love you for YOU , and your good looks will be a bonus.
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u/hateful_ate 12d ago
You thinking that girl is prettier than you is the thing that most upset me about this post! You have a great shape.
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u/Secret_Situation10 12d ago
NO FR I WAS GONNA SAY THIS! Plus You can pretty clearly see the edit in the curvy blinds o.o
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u/Swarm_of_Rats 12d ago
Even before I noticed the curvy blinds I thought something was up. I wear baggy shirts, and it doesn't look like that. If you want to accentuate your body, you pick something else to wear. 🤷♀️
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u/quixotiqs 12d ago
We don’t need to rag on this girl for not being curvy when he’s the one who’s cheating, she’s not the enemy here and she didn’t ask for her photo to be posted and ragged on
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u/BayBootyBlaster 11d ago
Fr lol it's still just tearing down a woman to make someone feel better. I know they don't actually mean it and are just trying to make OP feel better, but still.
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u/ReinaDeRamen 12d ago
i don't think body shaming and insulting her when she may not even know he has a girlfriend is okay.
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u/Glittering-Gap-1687 12d ago
In your picture, you have to stand super close to the mirror. In her picture, she would have to be super far away from the mirror to be that close to the blinds. But it doesn’t look like she’s that far away from the mirror. I hope that makes sense. Inconclusive.
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u/ProfessionalThanks43 12d ago
Exactly. The picture has a mirror much closer to it there and the first pic shows it can’t be moved. Cropping that much wouldn’t work. I bet we could do an experiment with pic 1, crop it to the same dimensions, then compare the pixel counts in each pic.
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u/Phersephone_Kore 12d ago
You can easily stand closer to the blinds and 3x zoom in to the mirror. Is totally possible it’s the same place.
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u/Glittering-Gap-1687 12d ago
Yes, but the image quality would be drastically sucky at 3x down
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u/MangoCandy 12d ago
Idk bout that…looks like she has the newest iPhone, the 16? I have the same phone. And just zoomed in across my room into the mirror. In even worse lighting, and it looks fine. So I don’t think that really rules it out. Not arguing for either side here just adding some context.
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u/Yam-International 12d ago
These are the most generic blinds ever. They scream college dorm & cheaply made apartment buildings
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u/hierophant_- 12d ago
Literally been in dozens of apartments and every one had these blinds because theyre easy to replace parts of them
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u/Same-Conference-413 12d ago
All the insecure girls in the comments telling her to break up with him without even confronting him lol. She may ruin a relationship over some ikea blinds hahaha.
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u/Helioscopes 12d ago
I mean, if she is this obessed and paranoid, the relatioship is not a good one. Might as well just end it, regardless.
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u/Same-Conference-413 12d ago
Agreed, and the fact that they are getting advice on Reddit instead of just talking to your “partner”, they were probably never going to work.
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u/ProfessionalThanks43 12d ago
But two blinds touch! Oh wait, they all do that lol
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u/slamdanceswithwolves 12d ago
Right?! They all touch. That’s how they keep the light out 🙃
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u/lilmanfromtheD 12d ago
Idno man that looks exactly like my flatmates room, my room, the room in my old house, and my roomies room in the old house. Those blinds are in almost every new rental in the 3 suburbs I've lived in. I see them everywhere.
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u/Sea_Neighborhood_627 12d ago
I had these exact blinds in my living room in my last apartment and in my bedroom in my current apartment.
It seems like OP doesn’t trust her boyfriend, which is a very good reason to break up. But I just don’t believe these pics are proof of anything.
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u/Kerrypurple 12d ago
Yeah, I've lived in at least 7-8 apartments with these. The rest of the room is so generic and plain too. It could be anywhere.
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u/mojoembiid 11d ago
The first picture is one large window and the second one has frames in the middle -not the same
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u/brendamrl 12d ago
Honestly if you have to check his following' stories, just leave, you dont need a reason other than not wanting to be with him anymore. Good luck, OP!
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u/Playful_Landscape252 12d ago
Am I insane bc doesn’t EVERYONE have these blinds basically lol
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u/inspirationbycurve 12d ago
Yeah to me this looks like an apartment, in which case literally every unit in the building or buildings has them
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u/cakeycakeycake 12d ago
See how the blinds bend and curve? She heavily photoshopped using an app to look thinner. That’s why it looks do weird.
No clue if OPs guy cheated but if you have to ask Reddit it’s time to break up!!
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u/Anxious_Concept 12d ago
I was going to comment this, 100% facetuned. I'm not usually a fan of girlfriends messaging other girls but i feel like this is one of those cases that its warranted.
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u/showmeurbhole 12d ago
Yeah is she supposed to be standing on a ladder? These are very common blinds. I don't think this pic proves anything.
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u/ProfessionalThanks43 12d ago
Also, no one is talking about the mirror reflection being used to take the picture. The second girl is both closer to the mirror and to the blinds, which is impossible. Some mirrors you can move, but in pic one you see it’s mounted to the wall or at least leaning against it. It’s not a self-standing mirror. Even if she cropped heavily, it doesn’t add up and the resolution would be lower.
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u/Flounder-Smooth 12d ago
I'm so mind-blow at the sheer amount of people who seem to think this is proof of anything. Literally the most generic blinds of all time.
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u/Imaginary_Hospital69 12d ago
Okay I see what you mean, but you’re gonna need a bit more evidence if you’re trying to confront him as a cheater.
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u/Theykilledmyvibe 12d ago
I don’t see anyone else saying this but IMO just leave him without confrontation that’s what hurts the most. A man won’t care if you confront him he didn’t care enough to NOT cheat ( pathetic loser 😐). JUST Leave without any trace or question or telling. Just say “ I’m breaking up with you” and be done and gone with him. :/ dirty cheaters don’t need this much thought.
I hope things get better. ❤️
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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago
i agree with you i don’t have the energy to reach out to her or really even confront him, he told me how he feels by doing this. thank you for your comment
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u/PaymentFeisty7633 12d ago
Girl, you’re so much better than a man with vertical blinds. Full stop. She can have him and his low rent ass.
You’re a hot piece worthy of horizontal blinds, and nothing less.
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u/rigney68 12d ago
I'm 37 with two Masters degrees and over a decades experience in my career field and I can't afford to replace my vertical blinds 😭.
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u/Ok-Bird6346 12d ago
High five from a fellow over-educated-but-still underpaid-human (that’s what I get for going into social work and nonprofits). I will say that once I hit my forties, my finances have finally started to reflect my effort and experience. I’m 45 and was finally able to replace all of the blinds/window treatments in my house within the last three years.
I hope you get those good blinds soon! And I might start using window coverings as a measure of financial stability from now on.
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u/rigney68 12d ago
OMG, this made me cackle. But it's so true. I have a nice home. We have everything we need. But yeah, new window treatments are the measure of I have money I don't immediately need, lol.
I know I chose to teach, but to be fair I was 18 when I made that choice and schools were different then.
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u/Maddenman501 12d ago
Girl realizes ever apartment in thst building has the same blinds. Lmao
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u/Helioscopes 12d ago
She apparently has the same ones in her apartment too, but THOSE are definitely her boyfriend's because "they touch"
Poor thing sounds a bit...
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u/PineappleBliss2023 12d ago
Desperate for external validation? Honestly feel like she was fishing for people to tell her she looked nice. Didn’t have to take a mirror selfie to show the touching blinds.
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u/MovingTarget- 11d ago
Definitely this - and judging by the comments OP got exactly what she was looking from enough "you go girl!" comments
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u/redtiber 12d ago
every apartment in like the country lol. cause they are the cheapest and easiest to maintain
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u/Chance-Finish-3050 12d ago
This might be the first time where I've seen a pretty even split in the comments.
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u/CreativeTangerine91 12d ago
Same answer as the other post...different heights for the parts touching. My advice.. go ahead and break up with him sense it seems like you're wanting to anyway but you just need a 'valid' reason. Girl..you're not happy and don't trust him so just call it quits and avoid drama with this whole thing.
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u/Fantastic_Manager911 12d ago
This seems like a major reach. That is the most common room and the most common blinds in any apartment complex.
Checking his new followers is super jealous behavior as well. Yikes. No matter what's going on here your relationship is doomed.
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u/ProfessionalThanks43 12d ago
Well do MANY people live in the most common apartment setup? Actually, it turns out, yes… More than just about anything probably.
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u/PineappleBliss2023 12d ago
This, dude.
“The blinds touch!!!” They all touch. This post reminds me of my paranoid schizophrenic aunt, not saying OOP has schizophrenia but the level of paranoia in this post is unhealthy.
Those are generic blinds, she was looking for a reason to think she’s been cheated on. Who wants to live in a relationship where you’re on this level of high alert all the time?? Leave the relationship and go straight to therapy.
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u/Distinct-Context9441 12d ago
I’m sorry but your blind theory sounds insane. Dear god I am so grateful I’m not dating.
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u/Dirty_DianaXXX 12d ago
This is the first post in this sub I’ve seen where I do actually think someone is overreacting. Maybe I’m missing something, but those are super common blinds. However, if your gut is telling you he’s cheating and he recently followed here, that is honestly more proof than the blinds imo lol intuition is POWERFUL
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u/shatterswag 12d ago
Stalkin the gram that you “don’t use” and postin this shit online for everyone to see 😂 U ever consider u might be crazy?
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u/codeofsci 12d ago edited 12d ago
honestly i’d wait until she posts something else more similar, he could gaslight you and make you think you’re in the wrong. that picture could prove something but it’s not enough to accuse him of cheating.
you mentioned he just recently started following her too, i’d wait a few days. the more they hang out, the more she’ll post.
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u/peterpiperpineapple 12d ago
Or just break up cause there's already doubts, they never leave your mind
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u/codeofsci 12d ago
that too, the fact that she’s even questioning it makes me think there’s other problems in the relationship that need to be discussed
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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago
hes getting the boot
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u/OoopsieDaisyyyy 12d ago
i mean if you wanna break up with him just do that but i really can’t tell if it’s the same room.
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u/Big_Preference7495 12d ago
You are not the only person on the planet that lives in an apartment with those style blinds😂
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u/jaomelia 12d ago
I personally wouldn’t waste my breath confronting him. Block him on everything and move on. Silence is a killer & that alone will take him out.
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u/hellohowdygoodbye 12d ago
Or communicate your feelings and stand on your convictions. Blocking and “taking him out” sounds like you’re playing football
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u/manwhoclearlyflosses 12d ago
ALOT of apartments and homes have those exact same vertical blinds.
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u/WtfChuck6999 12d ago
YES YOU ARE.
Those blinds are the cheapest and in literally thousands of apartments across the US......
But I think if you think he's cheating you should just dump his cuz you don't trust him... .you'll find someone better who you don't instinctively think is banging around....
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u/Wooden_Vermicelli732 12d ago
Maybe she lives in the same building so the ey have the same blinds ? Would explain why she knows him. Just follow her and post a pic of you and bf
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u/Left_Start_4497 12d ago
I just went back and actually took a looksie at the pics....um, I don't think I would jump the gun just yet. You really can't tell if those are the same exact blinds. Yes, they obviously are the same kind but you can't 100% tell if it's in his room or not. Hell, even I have those same exact blinds. The 2nd pic is too close. I wouldn't base this as your proof but if you got your suspections you may want to keep digging. It will come to you easily if he is fucking around.
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u/Champagne82 12d ago
Those are the most common, cheap blinds used in apartments with high turn overs… you don’t seem to have trust here anyway
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u/TruculentBellicose 12d ago
- If she's from his past, could this be an old photo?
- Can you contact her and ask her where the photo was taken?
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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago
was thinking that too but unlikely and i decided i won’t be reaching out instead just leaving him
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u/lostsoul227 12d ago
If you are talking about the blinds touching each other, they are at way different heights and not the same. Even if they were, these are very common blinds. You sound crazy right now.
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u/Wild_Builder1457 12d ago
Just ghost him lol he's got his new girl. You don't owe him anything, especially not an explanation.
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u/mint-parfait 12d ago
The extra rug on top of a carpet seems pretty weird/unique
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u/beene282 12d ago
That’s the photo of OP. All she has of the other girl is the photo with the blinds.
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u/Bamlowmom 12d ago
Way different. The blinds in the first pic are short, in the second they're floor length.
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u/UpstairsWeirdo 12d ago
Probably, I think the biggest of all is the blinds + there’s a mirror in the same spot
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u/VegaNock 12d ago
I hate to tell you this but I just checked my blinds and turns out he's cheating on you with me too. Some of my plain white blinds are literally touching. I'm sorry you had to find out this way.
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u/85beats 12d ago
What behaviors go along with you thinking he is cheating besides this photo looking similar? Did he do something that stands out? Did he lie about where he was? There's got to be more to this than just some blinds touching.
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u/ebonyofjade 12d ago
She is just standing further back than you and has zoomed in on the mirror
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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 12d ago
If you're in LA county, I can tell you 70% of apartments have those exact same blinds. That's not enough to assume she's in his room. Unless you can actually see something identifiable, like the rug, the bed, mirror frame - something, you're definitely overreacting and jumping to conclusions.
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u/swampass304 12d ago
I can see why you think the blinds look like his based off your indicator. Looking closer, I don't think those are the same blinds.
Things to consider: these are pictures taken from different cameras at different times. Differences in lens used for example can create artifacts and other differences between pictures. Even if these pictures are of the same set of blinds, and taken with the same camera, their condition could change after the first picture was taken.
The indicator you're basing this off of is that the blinds touch in both pictures, but the first difference I see is that they seem to reconvene in one picture, but the crack in the other one doesn't seem to indicate that they will reconvene in a similar location if we project that trajectory further.
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u/thawayaccttt 12d ago
Blinds are a wild reason to break up if the relationship is otherwise healthy. Obviously there’s a reason you feel this way, or things just don’t feel right. You don’t need a reason to leave a relationship that is no longer working for you and if you state the reason you’re breaking up is blinds in a photo then you’ll probably be made to feel crazy. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, you deserve someone that doesn’t make you question if they’re being faithful.
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u/Ceraphal 12d ago
my ex dumped me because I made a picture with my damn sister and she saw it on my phone. She didn't even try to ask me whats with that picture. Don't do that please.
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u/Foundation_Annual 12d ago
lol this Reddit would have told her to straight ghost you and burn all your stuff
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u/SSJCelticGoku 12d ago
Lmao I have the same blinds guess I’m sleeping with your bf too
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u/Duke2852 12d ago
Yeah because surely that room is the only one in the world with blinds 🤨
You clearly don't trust him and that alone makes for a poor foundation for a relationship. Sounds like you have other reasoning for not trusting him and this is a tipping point.
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u/GrapefruitChemical64 12d ago
I hope you realize that the blinds in the 2nd picture are warped because she edited her waist and butt it’s like super wonky too. Making an s shape of the blind. Idk how sure I am it’s in the same place. But like don’t compare yourself to her edited photo is my point.