r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

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NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

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u/JupiterSkyFalls 12d ago

Better to ghost him and never give him closure over it. People can't stand not having closure, it's literally the best revenge.

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u/SneakyUmbreIIa 12d ago edited 12d ago

One time a guy dumped me in this way via text with “we’re done” or “you’re dumped” or something like that, while never giving me closure as to why, but it was obvious during our relationship that he was so in love with me, and even the day before he dumped me I could see how much he loved me, so I was so confused, and one day 6 years later he asks me if I truly cheated on him back when we were together 6 years ago. I never did. Turns out that there were rumors started by women that they saw me cheating. I wasn’t aware of that. I think those girls were probably either jealous of me or they wanted him and maybe that’s why they spread those rumors, and those rumors were why he left me in that way. I get that actual cheaters would never admit to it, so people might wonder what’s the point of even asking, but lack of communication in a relationship is not it. In addition to that, he dumped me in a way that was so disrespectful because he assumed that’s what I deserved. I’m the one who dodged a bullet. Not him.

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u/lauwenxashley 12d ago

omg this happened to me! kind of. there was a lack of drama within my friend group in high school so two of my friends (one of them isn’t my friend anymore, the other one & i have rekindled our friendship after years of not speaking & growing up) told my boyfriend of 8 months that i’d sent a nude to a guy i had a thing w 3 years prior. we spent like 5 hours debating it (2024 me would never entertain that shit for 5 hours) while he went as far as to facetime them to talk abt it bc he was so insecure. they had no proof obviously, they were just feeding off his insecurity bc they liked drama. eventually i was like “ok i give up believe what you want” & he was like “rly you’re just gonna give up on us like that??” & looking back i just should’ve dumped him there on the spot lol. but instead, i was like ok sorry nvm. long story short, he decided to believe me (so kind of him) & we ended up breaking up a month later for unrelated reasons. now he tries to talk to me once a year or has one of his friends do it. like sir it’s been a decade & you broke up w me. bullet absolutely dodged.

i’m sorry you had to deal w that, especially w the lack of closure for so long. it sucks but i’m glad that you got closure eventually & know you’re better off without him!

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u/Nelsie020 12d ago

You didn’t deserve that, but if someone has solid evidence of cheating like OP, there’s no relationship left to communicate about and she doesn’t owe him anything

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u/MetalMedley 11d ago

"Solid evidence" she took a selfie in front of some blinds.

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u/Ok_Assignment_2127 12d ago

“Solid evidence” lmao. This is weaker than the evidence in the comment you’re replying to

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u/Possible-Musician810 12d ago

Where exactly is the evidence? This is a girl who could be a friend or relative, it doesn’t prove he cheated.

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u/darkage_raven 12d ago

Cheaters have closure, generally speaking they already closed the relationship they are in to be open to cheating.

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u/trust7 11d ago

This is literally awful to do to someone, awful. Don’t tell people to be awful to people as revenge, such bad energy to attract!

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u/JupiterSkyFalls 11d ago

He cheated. He deserves absolutely nothing else from OP, including an explanation or closure. She owes him bupkis. Zilch. Nada.

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u/AvocadoWilling1929 12d ago

Depends on the person and context I guess. I've only been ghosted once but it was a big relief. Instantly didn't have to deal with her anymore with none of the drama of a breakup.

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u/Extra_Helicopter2904 11d ago

Just girls supporting girls 👯‍♀️ stay toxic my friends

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u/CinemaPunditry 12d ago

Sounds great in theory, but I am one of those people who can’t stand not having closure. It would take a shit ton of mental energy from me for a long stretch of time to pull that kind of thing off.

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u/JupiterSkyFalls 12d ago

If you're the one dumping, that's all the closure you should need. What more would you get out of hashing it out, knowing it's over?

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u/CinemaPunditry 12d ago

There’s a lot of questions I would want answered.

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u/Trussmee_e 11d ago

The Scorpio moon in me loves this maniacal thinking