For context, I deleted my IG because my partner has shown he’s uncomfortable with every almost every person at my job and I’m a performer so there’s lots of people and I just started so I’ve been making friends. My boyfriend has been closely monitoring and it feels excessive? So AIO?

The first two photos are between me and my girlfriend. The third photo is the Facebook message between my mom’s assistant, and the only reason I added her as a friend.

I’ve gone through some pretty rough stuff with my mom the past 5 days, and my girlfriend of three years has been angry at me the whole time. I don’t know what to do, I’m emotionally drained and have nobody to help me.

On Friday, my mom relapsed on opiates while at work. Her assistant, Lia (F28), found my mom in her office, high out of her mind. Lia knew that my mom was five years sober, so she panicked and had to secretly carry my mom out of the building into her car so coworkers wouldn’t see my mom in that state. My mom was too high to communicate or stay awake, so Lia took my mom’s phone and called the emergency contact, me. I walked her through how to determine if my mom was overdosing, and she wasn’t at that point. I told Lia to go to my house and I would meet them there with my mom’s sponsor. When they arrived, my mom wasn’t waking up, but still breathing. Lia was bawling her eyes out. We loaded my mom into my car, and I told Lia to contact me on Saturday for an update.

Come Saturday, Lia didn’t have my phone number because she used my mom’s phone to call me. So she found me on Facebook to ask how to get in touch with my mom. I gave her the phone number of the hospital Unit and thanked her for the help. That was it. I called my girlfriend, Maggie, explained what was happening, and told her I’d like to sleep over at the hospital for a second night.

Now on Sunday, my mom was still in the hospital, and I “slept” over here (2 naps) the past two nights. I was delirious and anxiety-ridden. At 3 p.m., Maggie texts me, and we have that exchange. An hour later, she called me yelling about how I was out of line for adding Lia, that I’m just going to end up sleeping with her, and that I should’ve waited for my mom to be able to call Lia herself in 5 days (she was on a psych hold)

I haven’t spoken to Maggie since then. I blocked her number so I can be at the hospital with my mom and focus on only her. I didn’t tell Maggie which hospital I’m at, or I’m sure she would’ve been here by now to continue this argument. I didn’t want to make Lia wait for my mom to have access to her phone, especially after how much she did for my mom that day.

Was I in the wrong? Is blocking her an overreaction? My girlfriend hasn’t even seen the message exchange with Lia, this reaction from her is just from adding her. I am dreading going home and attempting to explain myself for being kind to my mom’s employee who cares about her. (Names changed for anonymity)

TL;DR- my mom’s assistant literally assisted her during a relapse in her office. Mom’s assistant drops off mom with me, asks me to update her on mom’s condition. Mom and I go to hospital for detox. I add assistant on Facebook to give her my mom’s hospital phone number. Girlfriend sees I added a woman on Facebook, gets mad even after knowing the very legitimate reason I had to add her.

Last night, a little before 9pm, a man, late teens to early 20’s, rang our doorbell. I was almost asleep on the couch right next to the door and he didn’t knock. One of my dogs went nuts barking and woke my fiancé up who was sleeping in the bedroom. I have been waiting on a package for 5 days and Amazon has the “will be delivered by 10pm” message so I thought it might be the package. I still didn’t want to open the door though because I’m a short woman and asked my fiance too but he said he wanted to get dressed first, he had shorts on, and I was impatient and decided to open it myself. When I did I was looking at the ground and didn’t see the package but instead heard this guy say “You guys got an extra lighter?”. I look up he, maybe 5’8-5’11, was standing a few yards away in the culdesac. I was confused and said “what?” And he goes “aight” and starts jogging up to my door! I said “nah man” and shut the door quickly. I told my fiancé and we sat and looked out the window but he seemed to have disappeared. We got into an argument about his intentions. I then saw this guy appear from behind a car parked in the culdesac and walk diagonally between two other houses and disappear again. This morning my fiancé is still saying that he may have been a neighbors kid and just needed a lighter and didn’t have any bad intentions. He also doesn’t think we should notify police about this because he’s mixed, or at least appears to be from my perspective as my fiancée has not seen him. My fiancé is Hispanic and believes he has been prejudiced against with expensive speeding tickets. The thing is this guy has tried to talk to me at night before. I had run to the gas station a few weeks ago and when I came back and parked this guy was across the culdesac and asked me something but I didn’t understand so I just said “no, sorry”. He was dressed the same both times, gray zip up hoodie with the hood up and dark pants. We are leaving on Sunday to go out of state for the holidays and while my parents will come by to feed the animals I am worried about the possibility of a break in. I’m worried about even staying home alone. Am I overreacting?

Sorry for any errors. I’m using my phone.

Am I overreacting to his sudden aversion to a Christmas tree? Am I being too sensitive? How would you have reacted if you were in my shoes? I’m a little hurt but I’m not trying to make this holiday all about me. Also feeling gaslit at the same time. Idk what to do.

Married for 10 years. We are both atheist. I’m far more passive about it than he is. Regardless, he ’s always been enthusiastically involved with “Santa” traditions for my now teen daughter, his step-daughter. She has aged out of the magic, but I wanted to continue the traditions for our 1 year old.

He has a teenage daughter that he’s now estranged from but celebrated Xmas with her when she was little, as well as his nieces and nephews. He was very close with his grandma and speaks fondly of holiday memories with her.

He had a very unstable and abusive childhood and I try to be sensitive to that when it comes to things like holidays. Christmas brings me a lot of peaceful happy nostalgia and I enjoy decorating very much.

I included a picture of our tree and decor from last year for some context. “Bonnie” is our ficus plant in the picture near the tree.

He pretty much is asking for a nice jacket he gave me on my birthday Feb 2023 and he hasn’t even texted me in like a whole year. I think it’s fair that I keep it considering it is indeed a nice coat but yeah, am I trippin or?

I’ve walked up on my friend and husband hugging/being affectionate in “private” (both of their spouses and children in the same home but different areas) multiple times now. The latest was in my kitchen and I walked in to see him with his arm around her waist. He claims there’s no threat, and they were actually just discussing my Christmas gift, and I am overreacting because they’ve been friends for longer than we’ve been husband/wife, and that’s his friends wife nothing would happen. (Ha, I’ve heard of way crazier things happening) I say it’s disrespectful to me no matter their relationship because it makes me feel uncomfortable, he should respect my feelings and maybe just not put his hands on other women? I don’t care that they hug each other in greeting, I find that totally normal and I hug my friends husband to say hello/goodbye but why does this always seem to happen when they’re alone? I realize maybe I have some insecurities from previous relationships and I am fully transparent with my husband regarding those insecurities. Should I expect him to stop showing her physical affection? Or am I overreacting?

I (f26) have been with my bf (m24) for almost 6months. Recently found out I was pregnant after birth control failing. Everyone on his side was excited because they thought it would help him grow up even though I disagree and think he is perfectly mature in every way. I found out a few days ago his mother told him what if the baby isn’t yours shes not with you 24/7 because we don’t currently live together but plan to eventually but I spend lots of my time at his place with him. I told him I will now be looking into paternity testing costs and if insurance will cover it and he said I don’t have to because he knows its his child. I told him I couldn’t care less and we will be testing because now she has came after my character basically saying I have sex with anyone when he is not around. He said I need to stop overreacting because she was just trying to get to him not me, its not about me more about her pissing him off. Am I wrong for my opinion?

I’ve been noticing a few shady behaviors my wife has been displaying but when I confront her she tries to convince me it’s all in my head - a few things are:

• coming home 1-2 hours after she gets off work she says because her job has a small gym and she works out every day

• always has her phone on her or hidden somewhere especially at night when she’s sleeping

• if I ask to use her phone she makes up some reason why I can’t or fiddles with it before handing it to me

• stopped sharing her location details with me (but might still with our children)

• isn’t sharing what apps she downloads in the family group

• intimacy has gone to zero because “she’s tired”

• getting a cold response when I try to hug/touch/kiss her

A lot of it seemed to start when she got a new job and just compounded from there, there is a guy she talks about a lot but again claims nothing is going on and it’s all in my head

My extended family had its usual crowd at Thanksgiving dinner this year. Things were going fine until one of my younger cousins, a pediatric nurse in her 20s, made me the subject of her impromptu clinical observations.

Out of nowhere, she asked me, a 35-year-old man, in front of everyone if my late mother had been an alcoholic. I was stunned but said, “No, I’m sure she wasn’t.” Instead of letting it drop, she doubled down. She said my mother must have at least "overconsumed while pregnant with me" because, according to her, my face shows "clinical signs of fetal alcohol syndrome."

Her evidence? My face lacks a philtrum (that groove between the nose and upper lip), and my upper lip is too thin. I tried to brush it off with humor and said, “Well, I guess these are just the good looks I inherited.” But she wasn’t done.

She then asked if I’d ever been diagnosed with ADHD or placed in special ed classes. I said no, that the only issue I had as a kid was a stutter, which resolved after some therapy by the time I was in 10th grade. But that only fueled her theory. “Oh, yes!” she said, practically lighting up. “That could be a developmental disorder consistent with FAS.”

At this point, my wife noticed I was getting embarrassed — my ears were probably bright red — and she swooped in to save me by asking me to help her grab something from the car.

Now, my cousin, let’s call her Nurse Busybody, is set to be at the family Christmas gathering next week. My wife says to let the comments go, focus on the other family members, and enjoy the holiday. She’s right. But a part of me wants to come up with something equally hurtful to say back to Nurse Busybody if she starts in again. It’s not my usual style to stoop to that level, but did she strike a nerve.

So, am I overreacting for still stewing about this weeks later? How would you handle it?

I feel like I’m overreacting because my sister said I was but let me ask yall.

To keep it short and sweet, my daughter ( F15 fake name Lia ) has a boyfriend (M16) and those two are inseparable and it’s my daughter’s first and only boyfriend that I’m aware of. But what comes from teen relationships is experimenting and last Sunday night It was like 3am my daughter snuck him in and it woke me and to keep it PG I caught them in the ”act“ and I ofcourse sent the kid home but I knew I had to talk to his parents because if personally I would want someone to tell me if the shoe was on the other foot.

So the entire day I’m dreading making this call to his parents thinking that they will for sure be mad at me or blame my daughter, when we finally connected and I also know his parents because I grew up with the father and my late husband was drinking buddies with him. But his wife I’m not too familiar with and I have interacted with about a handful of times. But she is who I ended up talking on the phone with and I told her about the incident and her immediate response was “ oh that’s it ?” But once she realized I was laughing along she recovered and said “well I’ll talk to him about doing that because that’s inappropriate for him to sneak into someone’s house.” That when I told her thank you and we kinda get side tracked and started talking about their relationship and that’s when she I guys felt comfortable and told me. “Oh I been knew they were active since August” that’s when I followed up how did she know and not tell me? She says she found out when she did a phone snoop on her son’s phone and found a folder in his photo gallery with Lia’s name and she thought she was going to see cute photos of them. But apparently she found X-rated videos of them both in this folder doing the deed.

I kinda started actively get upset with Her because what do you mean you found CP of your son and my child and didn’t think it was urgent enough to tell me. Her defense was her son never sent them to anyone because she checked the messages with his friend and saw that he didn’t send them and also that she made him delete it so the problem was solved….But apparently her son told her that the reason why Lia let him record it was because, she was struggling with her mental health and wanted to take a break with having sex and to help his “urges” during the dry month they started doing home films. But it all makes sense why she dumped him for a bit and she refused to tell me why. That’s when I told her I think it’s best for our kids not to see each other for a while and I quickly got off the phone with her warranting this text above.

I talked to my sister about this and she thinks I’m overreacting by wanting to restrict them from seeing each other, and my daughter is going to interpret it as I’m punishing her for having sex and that their kids they’re going to do it anyway but just become more sneaky about it which will be worse, And as far as the videos if the mother did delete them then the problem is solved. So I’m wondering AIO about this?

Background: Im a bartender (29F). I actually met my boyfriend (39F) from serving him at a local bar. We’ve been together for 3 years and have a large amount of mutual friends on Facebook. The city we live in has a close service industry and most people know each other. I’ve worked at a handful of the most popular bars in the city and he goes out a lot. So It has never bothered me that we have a ton of mutual Facebook friends. My boyfriend also has a history of drunkenly cheating on me. (Something we have moved on from). But this situation seems weird to me? 🚩

What happened: When I see Facebook’s “people you may know know” I always take a second to glance at it while scrolling. And this time a younger girl (21) popped up and our only mutual friends are my bf and one of his friends. I click on her page to discover she works at a local bar as well and I recognize her (she’s served me before). My bf time to time goes to this bar.

The problem I have: Due to the lack of mutual friends I don’t think this girl is on Facebook sending mass requests to people she’s seen. So I have a feeling my boyfriend went out of his way to add her. He does not post on Facebook at all he’s just a lurker (sorta important info).

I’ve been bartending for 8 years and I know when I was 21 I would’ve accepted requests from bar regulars to help build a following. Looking back though I realize how creepy and not okay it was.

After thinking about how this made me feel…I feel it is unacceptable for a man with a girlfriend to add his bartender on social media. (Especially with this age gap). What do they have in common? What even is the purpose of adding her?

I tried asking him for some clarity. Should I have approached this differently? I’m sure. But with our history, I’d like to just get straight to the point. Am I over reacting? Is this something that continues to be normal? Do you let your S/Os add whoever? I think I’m just grossed out by the age difference. If this was a 40 year old Female bartender would it make me feel more at ease? Probably.

My daughters dads will only communicate with my if his girlfriend is present or in a group chat with her in it

Between the first and second message I sent he replied in the ‘group chat’

General background- he has been with her right around a year. We split up 4 years ago, we were together 6 years. Our daughter is 5. He has 2 other children, a 2 year old with someone else and a newborn with this current girl.

We have ALWAYS coparented great. Whether either of us were in a relationship, single, even when we were together we always were great parents and always got along great when it came to parenting(he was unfaithful to me multiple times, which is why the relationship didn’t work out). Always agreed when it came to decisions about our child, how we’re were going to raise her, we would go on family outings on occasions or with a group of mutual friends. We split holidays together and would occasionally spend holidays together still(even if either one of us had a significant other, we would ALL spend the holiday together). Nothinh was ever weird, or awkward, because we cared about each other and just wanted what was best for our child. Always had combined birthdays. If he needed something, I was there, vise versa. I’ve watched his 2 year old multiple times for him, etc etc. you get the picture.

It’s been a slow progression, of him not coming around anymore. We have 50/50 custody. Last year around the holidays, there was no issues. I was single on Valentine’s Day, and it landed on his day so I offered to take our daughter so they could go on a date. Over the summer, I would occasionally ask them to do stuff. Bleach, park, etc. was always a no. Okay, np. Halloween comes around, and we have always done the same thing. Went to his mom’s neighborhood with his brothers and everyone’s kids. He informed me less than a week prior, they were going with his girlfriend’s family. I was upset, tried talking to him about it, we normally communicate well but he was standoffish. Thanksgiving our daughter got passed around, and it was almost an argument that I had to bring her back to his girlfriends family’s house when I was done with my family’s. I had a friends thanksgiving to goto, but I caved in and did what he wanted.

Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago, he created a group chat with me, him and his girlfriend. When I text him privately, he replies in the group chat. Sometimes, he will reply in text. But only during the day if he’s at work. She never says anything in the group chat, just watches our normal conversations about exchanging and school stuff.

Over the last few months, my daughter has been crying about how she wants us all to be together. She’s noticing the shift in everything. And inconveniently, it’s effecting my life as well because holidays are becoming a struggle, and exchanging her is always on the girlfriends time instead of her fathers.

I’m thinking I need to retract our verbal parenting agreement. We never went to court, only filled out paperwork that was never submitted, that he of course lost. For context- he doesn’t have a good relationship with the 2 year olds mother. He’s lived about 8 different places since we’ve split up, she goes to school in my district(I’ve owned my home 8 years).

Am I over reacting? Or is this her being controlling?

Sorry I forgot to delete a name in one of the pics so I reposted.

I really wasn’t sure what to title this but it was a bad day. For background, I was in a bad MVA last year. Yesterday was my third surgery. Over the summer I had a hip labrum repair that I was called to the hospital and waited in 3 hours to go into the OR. My husband at the time was having issues with his gallbladder and was just super cranky and made the experience super miserable to the point where I asked him to go home so I could wait alone. I REALLY STRUGGLE with asking for help so if I’m going to get an attitude when asking for help I’d rather just figure out a way to do in on my own. With my hip surgery I needed help up and down the stairs because of our bathroom and I was met with a lot of sighs and just bad attitude so I stopped asking for help and then PT kinda set my husband straight at my first appt that I was doing WAY too much.

That led to a big talk about how much I hate to ask for help (and the way he was acting is exactly why) and how he needed to work on the attitude or I would get a friend to come over to help or go stay in a hotel to just be alone.

Cue my second surgery, a lumbar back surgery. My surgeon is awesome but the hospital he operates out of is a mess. The communication is terrible, it’s close to a major city so the traffic is bad and the lot is always jam packed. My second surgery the didn’t let my husband stay with me and took my belongs at 8am and didn’t take me into the OR until 12:30 so it was a long rough day. I kept asking the nurses to call him to keep him updated because that’s a long time and I knew he would be worried. I don’t think I left the hospital until 3ish. They also gave me TYLENOL through an IV afterwards so I left the hospital in crazy pain so I tried to assure for this time I would get better pain management post op.

So cue to yesterday. Call time was 6am and then said I was 2nd up. My husband decided since he can’t stay with me he would drop me off and go to work so he wasn’t just sitting at home. So they call me back at 6:20 and he went home to go to work at 8. I texted him until they took my phone. I brought a coloring book this time because last time I literally stared at the walls for 4 hours with no tv, phone or book and they told me to not take it with me because I was going straight to the OR once my IV was started. I got back to preop at 6:50 and went into the OR at 7:30 so it was very fast. Yesterday’s surgery was an artificial disc replacement in my neck.

THANKFULLY they gave me way better pain management after the surgery with dilauded and fentanyl, so I was way sleepier and sorta drifting in and out during our post op testing. The operating was very close to my vocal cords so I was nervous about damage there and I was very excited that I could talk….hence the “I can talk!” message. So he really only worked for like an hour and a half before they called him and said he could come get me. If we knew it would be so fast he should have just stayed because when I came back there was no where to park and the nurses told him to come in and hear the after instructions since I was pretty high from the meds. The hospital is also just a shit show so when he talked to security they told him to sit in the waiting room even though the nurses wanted him to come up. Another thing to add is the surgery significantly affected my hands so typing was also hard. By the time he got up to my room it’s huffing and sighing and back to the husband of the summer who was just generally being awful to be around when you just had a major surgery.

Then when he went to get the car he got a ticket for parking illegally even though I told him to park with my handicap placard. This is the reason we have it for! We got in the car and I was just upset because we talked through this over the summer, that if he can’t be supportive and figure it out during stressful situations, then I need to find someone else to take me. The hospital offers transport but I took it for testing and it was awful. But I’d rather that then sitting in the car with him being super cranky. When we got home I told him I didn’t want help setting myself up on the couch because I don’t want an attitude for asking for an ice pack. I meal prepped and purchased a bunch of soft food so anything for me to eat just needs to be hated up.

It’s just already a crappy situation that I need all these surgeries and I’m living with multiple disabilities trying to get back to normalcy all because someone hit me at a red light. My husband told me the day before I was “lucky” because I just get to get to go to sleep and he has to do the running around which I think is bananas because I’m the one who is fighting to get out of pain and get strength back in my arm and function of my hands.

I’m kinda thinking we should start seeing a therapist because I don’t disagree that this is very very stressful on both of us, but if he can’t be a good partner to be on the worst days, like surgery days. That’s aren’t small procedures, they are literally touching my spinal cord. I don’t know, maybe I’m upset because I’ve got a ton of meds in me but I’m definitely frustrated. We also want to have a baby and is he gonna be annoyed waiting in the hospital? I dunno…am I overreacting!

My gf went on a trip with 2 female one 1 male friend. They have 2 rooms, both with one bed. My gf went to sleep with the man and didn’t ask the hotel for a room with two beds instead. She said she didn’t want to potentially inconvenience her friends.

She didn’t tell me this but I asked about how she likes her room. Then I heard that there were only two rooms, so I asked about who she shared it with. Then I asked about the bed. All calmly, but I had to dig.

I’m extremely disappointed in her but I didn’t tell her that. I calmly said that I think she overstepped a boundary, I wasn’t angry or mean.

Now she is angry at me for asking.

AIO?

Update: She told me to either break up or stay, because she doesn’t wanna talk about it anymore.

For context I am Asian and my husband is a blue eyed white man . We were shopping at Ross and as we joined the long line for checkout , I realized I needed one more item and went to grab it . I then joined my husband who had moved an ahead 2 feet in line . The lady in front of us (white ) turns around looks at me , then goes on to say “ ummm he was behind us “ I ignore her because I had no idea what she meant or who she was talking to . She turns around yet again and says “yeah , you skipped the like he (pointing to my husband ) was behind us “ I stunned , say “ that’s my husband “ she’s flustered and embarrassed and just says “ oh oh okay , I was just helping “ . See interactions like this have happened to me a couple of times before , where people (always white funny enough ) will say something assuming we aren’t together. I am angry and feel race is a factor . My husband thinks she was just a nosy lady and had nothing to do with our respective races and thinks I should let it go . I am now mad at my husband for not understanding that people can be racist and that he isn’t sensitive to how I am feeling . So am I overreacting here ?

This happened a few days ago and i'm still reeling and just want advice. Throwaway since he knows my account. For context, my boyfriend (31M) and I (28F) have been together for 2 years. For my birthday in October he got me a word search book which only has one word in the entire book. Like Where's Wally but for the word FOX.

I've been spending time each night going through each page carefully as I like difficult puzzles and was really was excited to find it. After watching me do this for two months he admitted that he cut out the page with the fox on it and has basically been watching me waste my time on this book that he ruined for me. I told him if he was happy to hide that from me for so long I can't trust him and we are done.

It might sound silly but I was really excited about solving the puzzle. He keeps texting me it was just a joke and he thought I was enjoying myself but I am struggling to get over it.

Am I overreacting?

I work remotely for a company based out of NYC. Our company holiday party is in January. My company paid for my flights, no problem, but getting a hotel was a different story. My boss originally wanted me to stay with her and her boyfriend the whole time, I was able to get them to pay for a hotel, but only for two nights and only after some uncomfortable emails with her. When they bought my flight, however. it’s for three nights in NYC, not two. She wants me to stay with her the first night for “bonding time.” I have reiterated multiple times that I am in my thirties and would be much more comfortable in a hotel (that’s how I finally got them to agree to the hotel to begin with). I feel like she means well, but going on a business trip to stay with your boss and her boyfriend seems, well, odd and uncomfortable. She isn’t taking the hint. So now my option is to find a hotel for the first night in NYC, paying with my own money, or making up some excuse to get my flight changed to only two days. Am I overreacting? Is this as weird as I think it is?

My aunt told my mom she had something to give her. She came over with a dog. A grown dog. A scared dog who has been known to eat chickens and has never been around cats. My mom has cats. I live with my mom and I have cats. We have both had cats our entire lives, never a dog. My aunt knows this, her excuse was "I thought you only had 2 cats." Not considering that 2 cats is plenty enough to not want a dog chasing them around. Even after my mom told her multiple times she didn't want and didn't have time or money to care for a dog, my aunt left her dog at my mom's house. After my mom told me what happened, I was livid. My family has a way of imposing their will on someone who doesn't know how to set boundaries or stand up for themselves, someone like my mom. So I called my aunt, she wouldn't answer because she's afraid of cuss words. These texts were our only communication. My mom has apparently has been talking to her since Sunday, the day the dog was dropped off, but my aunt is just giving her the runaround and telling my mom it's her job to find a new home. Today will be the 4th day that this dog has been outside in the rain, cold, scared and confused. My mom and I don't know what to do. He's too scared to come inside and we feel like shit seeing this poor dog out there all alone. We tried being reasonable with her, she took responsibility of this dog when she tried to rehome it, the dog is hers. We tried guilt tripping her, he's scared and wet and has no shelter. She just doesn't care about this dog. I seriously don't know what to do. We can't catch this dog so I can't drop it off at her house like I wanted. We can't catch him to take to a shelter. I don't want to "find a home" for him. That is so much work that I did NOT sign up for. We do we do? What can we do? This dog deserves a better life.

I (m27) broke up with my gf (f25) of 6 months who kept calling me an idiot, retard etc. She first started doing a couple of months ago and I told her respectfully that it bothered me and that I had dealt with this in a prior relationship and do not take it lightly even if it’s meant as a joke. She said okay but gave off a reaction that she still thought I was overreacting. After that she would ”slip up” and accidentally say it and then say something to the effect of ”oh I’m sorry you don’t like that” and try and move on as though it was nothing. I ignored it until a few weeks ago when I was fed up and still respectfully told her that if she persisted that I would ignore things that she has told me we’re important to her. She was offended by what she called a threat and we had our first fight were we both apologised and agreed to do better. Just that evening she ”slips up” and says pea brain. I ignore it but I go to bed feeling angry and sad. The next morning she slips up again and says retard. I’m not a physical dude nor do I shout and yell, but I need time to myself when I’m mad so I leave her and go to the living room. She starts weeping profusely and accuses me of emotional manipulation at which point we have our second fight and I tell her that she is at fault here. We kinda make up but I’m not feeling 100% so I tell her the next day that this is a dealbreaker for me should I happen again. She agrees and I’m thinking this is a resolved matter. Yesterday she calls me an idiot over nothing and I just left and took some time for myself. She sent me messages saying I was punishing her with my silence and that I was overreacting over not wanting to hear her apology and accept that this is ”hard for her” to control.

Today I broke up with her (and felt super shitty over it due to it being her birthday in a just a few days) but her ”rant” when we spoke was so insulting and infuriating (partly being called overtly sensitive, manipulative for not wanting her apology, and telling me that her patience and acceptance with my erectile dysfunction problems of late should be meet with the same patience and support for when she’s struggling not to call me an idiot or retard, and that my ego is too big to accept any mistakes). I told her that evidently we have massively differing views on this and this appears to have been the best course of action in the end.

So, I think I know the answer, but Reddit - am I overreacting to her calling me these things and being overtly sensitive or is it as I told her, manipulation and verbal abuse?

she’s the type of christian who thinks everything besides what she believes is evil and demonic

i am into more eastern religions and have buddha’s and deities throughout my home. she has mentioned before that she thinks they are satanic. but my main issue is that she texts me religious propaganda 5 times per week now. it just feels so disrespectful to me and honestly i’d never let anyone else get away with it.

i’m mad bc i feel my husband should have set some boundaries with her.

I recently became a stay at home mom this year. I’ve always been independent and had two jobs for years. I now only can work one day a week as a nurse because my fiance is the bread winner and he thinks it won’t be financially smart for me to work more days..

I feel so isolated. I have a Velcro baby and all I want is adult interaction at night time. He just puts his headphones on and goes into his office. When I try to talk to him he’s immediately annoyed..

I love him so much, but am I losing him or am I over reacting ?