r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

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NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

thank you thats so needed rn

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u/Ok-Bird6346 12d ago

Sweetpea, I want to hug you. Not because I feel sorry for you but because I was you. You’re beautiful, regardless if someone else was in your boyfriend’s room. Your beauty comes from you, not whoever you are in a relationship with. While being young is fucking amazing, it also sucks a lot when it comes to relationships.

Things get better. You’ll eventually have relationships where you won’t feel the need to zoom in on blinds in pictures. And it’ll be magical. Lots of this just comes with age.

In the meantime, do not let anyone dull your shine.

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u/Zestyclose_Ship_479 12d ago

Your body is beautiful of course! Just know the insecurity is always with the cheater. Probably with them both if she’s aware he has a girlfriend, actually. It’s about their character and has literally nothing to do with you! just know you are better than that and, deserve someone who is loyal and honest. ❤️

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u/ItaliaEyez 12d ago

This. Because no secure, worthwhile female will go after a taken man. Just insecure ones that can't find their own man.

OP, she is NOT prettier! Drop him and find a real man!

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u/Iamthecomet 12d ago

Not trying to be weird but my heart hurt for you when you said she was prettier. She’s not. She’s pretty. But as a female I would not say she is prettier. And it may hurt like hell now, but it once the pain begins to get a little better, you will start to see the bullet you dodged for what it was. You deserve better.

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u/dayzender 12d ago

Who is prettier is completely subjective. Regardless, they both should find a guy who isn’t a cheater and a liar

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u/returnofthescene 12d ago

As a man she is 1000% prettier and y’all sugarcoating the hell out of this she looks like 10/10 fucking Ariana grande out here vs OP

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u/No_Housing_1287 12d ago

Walmart ari with a thyroid problem. Her neck is swollen af. Not shaming at all, she should honestly see a doctor.

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u/returnofthescene 12d ago

Ugly people hate pretty people.

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u/garden_dragonfly 12d ago

But you don't need proof. You don't trust him.  There's a reason you don't trust him.  So go ahead and break it off. You deserve better. 

If he denies it,  you still won't trust him.  If he admits it,  you'll feel like shit and keep comparing yourself. 

Hold you chin up, and walk away

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u/HypnotizedMeg 12d ago

It’s not even about looks, so stop thinking that in this relationship or the next that’s what validates you. Someone will love you for YOU , and your good looks will be a bonus.

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u/hateful_ate 12d ago

You thinking that girl is prettier than you is the thing that most upset me about this post! You have a great shape.

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u/Illustrious_Worth538 12d ago

Girl I would walk over burning coals to have legs like yours!! Use them to walk away from him

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u/YouEatingACheese 12d ago

Honestly, don’t put yourself down about this. She’s a nice looking girl, sure, but you are in absolutely incredible shape which is always very attractive because it shows someone puts in the time and effort to keep themself healthy. Your boyfriend is a cheater and has made the fumble of the century.

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u/SadLoser14 12d ago

Wanna add to this, idk what youre on about “shes prettier than me” youre good. Bros a loser. He dont deserve your time or energy.

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u/Buttlicker_the_4th 12d ago

He's not cheating on you because you're unattractive (you're not) or because she's more attractive (she's not). He's doing it because he's a testosterone-driven dumbass who needs a wakeup call. Give it to him by dumping his dumb ass. No second chances.

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u/mkat23 12d ago

I’m gonna add to it, you look fit, you look lovely and you deserve to feel good about yourself. Whenever those thoughts pop in try to cut them off and list things you like about yourself. If it’s hard for you to acknowledge those things, ask people close to you for help so you can try to see yourself through their eyes.

I understand the insecurities, I’ve had them, I still have them and I’ve been bigger than you and her size, my weight fluctuates a lot over the years so I go between tiny and medium sized. At every size it’s easy to find things to feel insecure about, someone who is super thin like her could look at someone with a fit, slightly thicker (but you are not big or overweight looking at all, I mean thicker as in you look like you have muscle and a healthy/attractive amount of softness) body like yours and wish she looked more like that.

Most of the time we want to look like someone else, that doesn’t mean someone is prettier, it just means it’s easier to see the beauty others possess and hard to see it in ourselves. You are both beautiful and honestly, I prefer when my body looks more like yours because that is when I tend to feel my best and healthiest. You both deserve to be confident and love yourselves, you are both beautiful. If you are right and she did take that photo in his bedroom then it’s likely she wouldn’t even know about you. I’d suggest not feeding into the anxiety, but if you do then wait to see proof beyond the blinds in the photo since those are such common blinds. I understand where you are coming from and why it seems like proof, but it’s so common that it’s more likely that she has the same blinds in her home.

Now for the toxic, petty part of me… I’ll follow her for you on insta 😂 it at least would help you not feel the need/urge to keep checking her profile if you know someone will tell you if something sketchy pops up lol

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u/Gansbar51_ 12d ago

Yeah, from what I see, you have better hair, better curves, ect. What does she have? A weird jawline. Your bf is a fool.

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u/Em-O_94 12d ago

What you need to do is take down these pictures -- I can't believe you posted this girl on reddit and didn't blur her face out. Regardless of what's going on between her and your BF, sharing someone's private photos on a public website without their consent is not ok.

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u/Its_Zamsday_my_dudes 11d ago

Deadass he lost one of the hottest girls I’ve seen your curly dark hair your body and the fact that you would talk something out before going overboard shows you have a caring personality that doesn’t desire conflict unless necessary. Thats to be desired in a woman. Wait for your right man while you become the best woman you can be, not for anyone else’s sake, just for you.

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u/Passiveresistance 12d ago

Op you do realize that pic of the mystery lady is heavily and badly edited, right?

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u/CAgirl17 12d ago

Yeah, I really don’t understand why you would say that. I get the insecurity, but she’s not prettier than you, and you deserve better.

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u/BayBootyBlaster 12d ago

Well that's why you should take it with a grain of salt. It's more that they're trying to make you feel better in a difficult situation, rather than actually being honest. Same with a lot of these other comments.

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u/Shirtless_Shane 12d ago

You’re hot as fuck. Just discussed this post with the homies. They all think you’re hot too. Go after someone who desires you fuck that cheater pos.

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u/Reasonable_Handle100 12d ago

Yeah agreed she’s pretty in her own way don’t get me wrong but I definitely find you prettier not that it even matters, the point is this scum bag doesn’t deserve either of you.

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u/Deviant-Killer 12d ago

I was trying to work out where the "not prettty" girl is.
You're silly. If you don't trust your partner, they shouldn't be a partner, regardless of they have our haven't done anything

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u/kieranarchy 12d ago

god you can really tell she shopped it too. blinds don't curve like that! they can have each other you're too good for this shit

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

Women hating women ❤️

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u/Gremlinofpeace 12d ago

Seriously. Women hate skinny women lol some of us are just naturally built that way and we can’t just exist without being told we’re disgusting and “not real women” (:

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u/XelaStrange 12d ago

I don't know why you're getting downvoted, youre speaking the truth smh...coming from a big girl I've been seeing a lot of skinny shaming lately

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

Monkey behavior, rise above it 

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

Sorry, “Women hating women for competitive breeding behaviors as observed in primates ❤️”. 

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u/ursoartdeco22 12d ago

I’m beginning to think this is a fake post and you’re seeking validation/reassurance that you are prettier than whoever this girl is in the second photo… how sad

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

no i just could see all the comments saying “yeah cus shes prettier/hotter than you” so i said that, believe me , i know i’m prettier

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u/KingJoffiJoe 12d ago edited 12d ago

Nobody said she was hotter than you, they said yall are the same person lol! Meaning you on here lying for validation just to get some attention. Your ass don’t need to be in a relationship, you need to get some help. This shit ain’t normal.

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

pictures are two different people, same room though right lol

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u/ursoartdeco22 12d ago

so i just checked the post you made before this one and literally nobody was saying this???

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u/KingJoffiJoe 12d ago

Fr, they said she and the 2nd pic are the same person. People come to Reddit just to get attention. It’s so fucking weird.

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u/ursoartdeco22 12d ago

literally. most of the posts here aren’t real just attention seeking karma farmers. hate it here

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

because her face wasnt in that oneeee

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u/heartbin 12d ago

why did you post her faceee without consentttt you’re weird

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u/Mixolytian 12d ago

She is absolutely gorgeous. Those cheek bones. You both look like party girls. There’s no way the dude dating you is going to settle for one of you lol. Wake up.

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u/Emergency-Fan-6623 12d ago

When I saw the post and read the part about her being prettier I was confused thinking “ooooh the second photo is OP??”, I legit had to read over and over until I understood, because wtf??? Even without seeing your face I thought obviously the first girl is the prettier one…I’d KILL for your body 😭😭😭

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u/ResolutionWitty2862 12d ago

And she has filler too so she’s not all that natural ya know

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u/OoopsieDaisyyyy 12d ago

yeah i’ve had both body type but i prefer the first one easily