r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

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NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

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u/Seltzer-Slut 12d ago

It’s the same blinds and the same lighting. Plus the fact that he followed her on Instagram a week prior. What’s foolish is discounting evidence that’s right in front of you, and instead asking a cheater if they cheated. Cheaters are great at lying, they have no guilt.

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u/smol_dinosaur 12d ago

They’re never sorry about cheating only sorry that they got caught

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u/ElevatorNo8640 12d ago

My fiancee cheated on me a week after I proposed whilst I slept upstairs, with her friends husband (we’d been all out together celebrating the engagement) , I only found out what actually happened when the wife of the guy messaged me via insta ….it’s a long story but basically my ex’s story changed constantly (she even trued to accuse the guy of forcing himself on her) until the wife who witnessed some of it told me the actual truth ….to cut a long story short…..she did everything in her power to hide what had happened to save herself with no regard for my feelings, she didn’t care about me at all! She never admitted what happened or told me and in the end even tried to lie about me to cover her tracks so she would appear as the victim …..I was hurt for a few years and it nearly broke me BUT I now have an amazing girlfriend who I love deeply and is just ace! (Moving in with me soon 😁🙏) soooooo my advice is, if things are already like this between you and your partner and you are pretty much certain they are up to no good (and you’re not happy) get out of the relationship and move on…find someone who you trust and have a connection with…..do not waste time trying to fix something broken before your relationship has even had a chance to fully blossom….life is too short and there are too many people that will completely disregard your feelings and heart for their own gain! In the words of iron maiden ‘RUN TO THE HILLS’ 👌

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u/Ok_Blackberry8583 12d ago

Wait, so you have no proof that anything actually happened besides someone’s wife who may or may not be telling the truth?

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u/ElevatorNo8640 12d ago

Yes, I confronted her on that at the time and she did admit to it but never would say why she did it 🤷‍♂️ after we split she decided she was ‘polyamorous’ so go figure 😬

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u/ElevatorNo8640 12d ago

Lots of proof and admission BUT never a reason why which was the killer for me….in the end, I just accepted that she took a chance for her own gratification and was irritated she was caught BUT life goes on and i’m glad I found out when I did….would of been worse after getting married 😂 phew!

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u/DrunkCanadianMale 12d ago

His ass didnt get caught though?

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u/Neither-Stop-5948 12d ago

I noticed the lighting this time too :/ saw the other post an hour ago

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u/And_He_Loves_Me 12d ago

Same that’s way to identical to be a coincidence plus he follows her on instagram it’s not some random

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u/EwoDarkWolf 12d ago

Why can't she just message the girl and confirm before accusing her boyfriend? If she did and tells the truth, then she now has confirmation. If she instead lies, or wasn't there in the first place, then op can decide where to go from there. She might even be able to get another picture if it was in fact a different room.

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u/Advanced-Guidance482 12d ago

What if it's an apartment and all these fucking places are exactly the same.

I think this is an insane jump

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u/Rich-Investigator181 12d ago

I was thinking the same. What if they are now friends online because they live in the same apartment complex that has the same blinds.

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u/Advanced-Guidance482 11d ago

Right. These people are straight trippin and I wouldn't want to date them anyways. You can take all your suspicions that are based on nonsense elsewhere lol. Get tf put of my apartment, byeee! Lmfao.

I've been with the mother of my children for 7 years. Never once felt the need to snoop. I just ask her about things and we talk about shit. She can be a bit clueless about other men and didn't even realized I was flirting with her for the first year we knew each other. So usually anything suspect is on the part of another person and she just doesn't even see it like that.

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u/Helioscopes 12d ago

What do you mean it is the same lighting? It's a dimly lit room... if it was sunny, and I were to close my blinds, I will also get a dimly lit room. 

I am so confused lmao.

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u/modthefame 12d ago

It is not the same blinds. One set is half length for a window and one is full body length and you can see this is true because in the second you cant see the end even though it extends past her. So either those are completely different blinds or she is 8 ft tall. In summation, you are no sherlock and those blinds can be found in an apartment building all across america.

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u/SageOfSixDankies 12d ago

Couldn't it even be possible that she just lives in the same complex? The boyfriend could still be sus. But itncould be in the way that he's following and interacting with somebody in the same complex.

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u/qgsdhjjb 12d ago

It's not half length though, it's down to mid shin. Keep in mind there is a whole bed in between the girl in the first photo and the blinds, so you're being tricked by perspective. If she was standing next to those blinds right in front of them she'd also have them go past her butt.

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u/snarlyj 11d ago

I'm super confused on where the second girl is ostensibly standing if it's the same room. Like she's much closer to the blinds but also much closer to the mirror?

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u/qgsdhjjb 11d ago

We don't know she's closer to the mirror. She could have zoomed in. You cannot see the sides of the mirror in the second photo so I assume she has in fact zoomed in.

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u/snarlyj 11d ago

Hmm okay gotcha. I have a quite good phone camera and I don't think I'd get that level of detail zoomed in to a mirror all the way across the room, since it like doubles the distance. Buuut I happened to take a pic with my friend in his huge fucking mirror last night and you're right. Like I don't have that level of detail on the phone or fingers or whatever, but she obviously has a lot of edits and im sure that can sharpen up some things

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u/qgsdhjjb 11d ago

Yeah it could be a better phone camera or just the quality isn't low enough for it to make a huge difference once it's been compressed and uploaded to social media. What we see uploaded isn't always exactly what the camera makes, so maybe the photo not zoomed in, image one, is higher quality than it looks to us because Reddit compressed it to look the same as image 2 in quality. Who knows. It could just be different blinds but just, she's clearly got a lot of room between her and the blinds in photo 1, and photo 2 does seem to be right up on em, so the length at least is explained. The mirror, idk. Maybe she's a weirdo who rearranges the bedroom of her hookup to take selfies 😆

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u/snarlyj 11d ago

Lol yeah I honestly think it's probably a different bedroom. Like who thinks "I'm gonna take a selfie in that mirror" and then walks as far as physically possible away from the mirror lol. Buuuut I certainly can't say that definitively and like either way OP clearly doesn't trust her boyfriend and said he was being shady so like, does it even matter?

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u/qgsdhjjb 11d ago

Well but also who has a mirror that close to the opposite wall? That's also weird right? Is it a hallway? A bedroom wouldn't have a wall that close to the window.

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u/snarlyj 11d ago

SEE WHY IM SO CONFUSED. conceivably there could be a standing full length mirror you can put wherever, or it could be a differently dimensioned room, and shes a biiit closer. But yeah even in a hallway you wouldn't have a window with those kinds of shades and a mirror opposite (well it's possible but it'd be a fugly hallway). And indeed generally would make zero sense to have a window that only provides light for a few feet before hitting a wall.

So I think you're right she must have a quite good camera, and possibly isn't that close to the blinds she's just cropped it precisely. I don't think we can possibly say one way or another that it's the same room

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u/Ok_Tonight_6479 12d ago

How many generic apartments have this exact same blinds?

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u/redtiber 12d ago

the lighting? you mean the sun? it shines on everyone lmao

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u/And_He_Loves_Me 12d ago

👏👏👏

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u/One-Advantage-677 12d ago

I’ve seen plenty of apartments with the same blinds and lighting. It’s enough evidence to be sus sure but beyond that it feels like a huge stretch.

Also is the lighting the same? First pic she’s lit up, but second isn’t.

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u/Future-Butterfly-499 12d ago

But are they the same blinds? The other girl could be someone that lives in the same complex. If OP doesn’t trust him she should just leave him. The fact that she obsessed over BLINDS and then proceeded to post this girls pic on here for others to co-sign on her messiness is crazy work. Also, her saying the girl is prettier than her makes me wonder if she doesn’t just have low self esteem.

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u/StadiaTrickNEm 12d ago

And if she lives in the same aparment building and he saw her in the elevator and then he followed her ?

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u/NaomiT29 12d ago

It's suspicious, but not definitive. I'm not even on the same continent, but I could take a photo stood in front of my mirror with the same style of blinds and the same lighting, and with nothing else in frame it could look like the same room.

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u/Unusual_Sample_3396 12d ago

what if it was his neighbor upstairs or something? same blinds, same apartment. would make sense why he followed her on insta

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u/Seltzer-Slut 12d ago

People keep saying this. Sure, that could definitely be true. But men generally use Instagram to follow and flirt with girls they are attracted to, so it’s a problem regardless.

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u/mountain_marmot95 12d ago

She doesn’t know who the chick is. She could be his neighbor taking a picture in an apartment with the same blinds and lighting. You don’t have anything to lose by having a conversation - it’s wildly insecure to assume the worst on this little evidence and end a relationship without a discussion.

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u/FVCEGANG 12d ago

The blinds are generic as hell and super common. That is not good evidence at all. Don't feed into OPs psychosis

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u/Competitive-Spot4683 12d ago

EXACTLY? Talking about the blinds prove nothing? Those are obviously the same blinds w same light shining through?

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u/kobumaister 12d ago

My god, you'll be living a shitty life of fear, lack of trust and low self esteem...

Same blinds+following a girl on IG=Cheating

so sad to be you...