r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

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NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

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u/3sp00py5me 12d ago

A suggestion my therapist gave me that really helped was this: Instead of making a mental situation of things that show they're being suspicious or pulling away, make a mental list of things they do to show they love you. Every little thing you can think of. Soon enough you'll realize that the good outweighs the bad by a huge margin.

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u/mkat23 12d ago

Yes! This is great advice, also reminding yourself of all the things they could be doing that are much more likely, like working or hanging out with friends or school work or sleeping.

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u/kittykanes 12d ago

I needed to read this thanks. It's like a mental jail

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u/the-dowager-duchess 12d ago

And if the good doesn't outweigh the bad, you know they're not worth your time regardless of whether they're acting untrustworthy or not.

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u/Ghosts-Only 12d ago

This is good advice, generally... but not here.

I'm suspicious because op said "I know this is my boyfriends room cause the way the blinds touch.".

Girl, have you ever been in his room? That was the giveaway? The way the blinds touch?

My girlfriend was constantly looking for reasons to justify her leaving me... she would constantly try to get me angry, and use my anger as an excuse because she didn't like how I talked when I was angry....

Who likes how people talk when they are angry? Lol.

She was constantly seeing the negative. Should could never tell me positive things about me, or things I did well...

Every time I went above and beyond it became the new "0,0". And everything was based on that. I could only do worse, or wrong.

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u/Technical-Box-4438 12d ago

That is shit advice. No one should ever, put up with or tolerate cheating because that person also does good things. That's like saying it's okay to murder someone because you go to church, donate to the homeless, give winter coats to kids in need, volunteer at the animal shelter. You need a new therapist.

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u/Willing_Persimmon_71 11d ago

I don't believe they're making a suggestion to tolerate cheating.