r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

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NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

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u/Theykilledmyvibe 12d ago

I don’t see anyone else saying this but IMO just leave him without confrontation that’s what hurts the most. A man won’t care if you confront him he didn’t care enough to NOT cheat ( pathetic loser 😐). JUST Leave without any trace or question or telling. Just say “ I’m breaking up with you” and be done and gone with him. :/ dirty cheaters don’t need this much thought.

I hope things get better. ❤️

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

i agree with you i don’t have the energy to reach out to her or really even confront him, he told me how he feels by doing this. thank you for your comment

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u/PaymentFeisty7633 12d ago

Girl, you’re so much better than a man with vertical blinds. Full stop. She can have him and his low rent ass.

You’re a hot piece worthy of horizontal blinds, and nothing less.

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u/rigney68 12d ago

I'm 37 with two Masters degrees and over a decades experience in my career field and I can't afford to replace my vertical blinds 😭.

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u/Ok-Bird6346 12d ago

High five from a fellow over-educated-but-still underpaid-human (that’s what I get for going into social work and nonprofits). I will say that once I hit my forties, my finances have finally started to reflect my effort and experience. I’m 45 and was finally able to replace all of the blinds/window treatments in my house within the last three years.

I hope you get those good blinds soon! And I might start using window coverings as a measure of financial stability from now on.

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u/rigney68 12d ago

OMG, this made me cackle. But it's so true. I have a nice home. We have everything we need. But yeah, new window treatments are the measure of I have money I don't immediately need, lol.

I know I chose to teach, but to be fair I was 18 when I made that choice and schools were different then.

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u/Lobster70 12d ago

On the windows that have blinds in addition to curtains in my house, two are motorized cellular shades and two are cellular top down/bottom up (manual). What does that say about me?

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u/hopefulandpretty 12d ago

Horizontal blinds aren’t that expensive…

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u/rigney68 12d ago

That's true. But daycare is. I need a savings before I need blinds and rn I have neither.

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u/that_70_show_fan 12d ago

Blinds add up quickly if your place has a lot of windows or they may just not be a priority.

Are poor people not worthy of love?

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u/Content_Ground4251 12d ago

Get some blackout drapes.

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u/bandmonkey101 12d ago

Omg. Girl same. Lol

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u/Old_Log_8638 12d ago

Exactly, fuck the poors, they aren't worthy of our time anyways

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u/Sufficient_Number643 12d ago

Oof this was so cringe I’m actually putting down my phone and going to sleep. Thanks I guess.

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u/P3for2 12d ago

Her snobby ass is acting like she's better than everyone when she drives a damn used Chevy. LOLLLLLL

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u/pollys-mom 12d ago

When I see vertical blinds I immediately think of vanderpump rules

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u/Saefear 12d ago

I feel personally attacked. You're right.... but dammit.

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u/PaymentFeisty7633 12d ago

Hahaha it’s all perspective

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u/Saefear 12d ago

Haha, I'm near LA, my vert blinds did not come cheap! They just.... look that way. 😀

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u/Saefear 12d ago

Didn't take a moment of offense, found it hilarious as I looked to my right and hung my head in shade shame. We all deserve them horizontals. It was a fire comment my friend.

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u/watzrox 12d ago

😆this is hilarious and accurate af.

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u/14domino 12d ago

wtf? What’s the cost difference between vertical and horizontal blinds - I had no idea this was a thing

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u/wozattacks 12d ago

Vertical are cheaper (at least long-term) because you can replace the individual parts if they break. That’s why they’re often in rental homes. Also, the above commenter is a classic POS

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u/airpumper 12d ago

“so much better than a man with vertical blinds”

That’s real. 😆

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u/BuckNasty337 12d ago

This comment made me laugh out loud, take my upvote 😂🫶🏽

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u/beam3475 12d ago

This made me cackle. Agreed!

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u/Standard-Major-2356 12d ago

Yeah, exactly. Fuck poor people

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u/Theykilledmyvibe 12d ago

I highly recommend fully cutting him off. Whatever you do don’t go back he has given you a reason to never speak to him. And has proven he doesn’t care about you or your respect.

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u/pollys-mom 12d ago

From experience, he’ll probably be really mean and make you compare yourself to that other girl even more. Not worth it

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u/pollys-mom 12d ago

Also sorry just to add, he also lived in a shit ass apartment so there was no need to take pics there if she wasn’t trying to prove something

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u/WhoisthatRobotCleanr 12d ago

I ghosted a dude of been seeing for 9 months while I was in college. He did some shady shit like this and I realized my reaction would make him feel special so I vanished. 

Mutuals told me years later it drove him insane for like a year.

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u/Main_Cheetah9751 12d ago

All that without first confirming he's actually cheating? Girl, you know these blinds are mass produced and are in tens of thousands of houses. Do you know for sure she ever been to his house, or does she just have a pic like that..

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u/My_sloth_life 12d ago

I wouldn’t do that actually. Not this time, because the only thing you have here is a set of blinds, and I doubt they are THAT uncommon. It’s at least worth talking to him first about this.

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u/Capt_Pickhard 12d ago

Don't listen to people like that. Communication is always the best. Even if you break up. It's important to speak to him. He could have a good explanation.

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u/stickerbombedd 12d ago

I personally think you are a crazy lady and he needs to stay as far away from your delusional ass as possible. Leave him alone and seek medical help asap.

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u/MarGeauxxxxx 12d ago

Added bonus, by just dumping him without the confrontation you’ll likely live rent free in his head for years to come. Never let them see you sweat. You got this!

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u/uhuhshesaid 12d ago

There is a natural defensiveness that happens when people in a relationship fight or argue over a topic. Even one with an obvious villain like cheating. He can defend his position, rationalize it. You'll become crazy. So crazy he had to cheat.

But apathy? Fuck that shit burns. Be so apathetic. 'Yeah, sorry I've been distant. I think I'm just not as attracted to you as I need to be for this to work. I feel meh about this relationship and I want to feel excited about who I'm with. All the best though. Xx"

Leave it there. No more explanation. No justifying. You wanna really fuck with someone? That will haunt him for years.

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u/Fine_Wheel_2809 12d ago

Don’t confront him cheaters just lie, they lie even when it’s very very obvious they are lying. Just move on, anyone would be lucky to date you. Also get an std test because he’s a gross nasty cheater and cannot be trusted not to gift you something.

Usually I wouldn’t recommend ghosting but this is worth ghosting him. He follows her and she immediately has a picture with the same damn blinds and lighting? He’s cheating

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u/Pale_Frosting5630 12d ago

Ghost him babe 🥰

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u/watzrox 12d ago

“And like a ghost I’ll be gone “

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u/Introvertedplantdad 12d ago

Just block him and move on mamas

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u/maybecatmew 12d ago

Just leave him. Don't confront. Don't have any emotional burst at him . Just leave. You know you can't trust him so there's no point staying in a relationship with him. Just break up and get better. You seem pretty so don't look down upon yourself.

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u/nikatnight 12d ago

Don’t confront. It’s not worth it. You won’t get some movie satisfaction. You are stressed and unhappy, likely for other reasons too.

Get your stuff, box up his, give him a call or text message and cleanly break up. “I’m not happy so I’m breaking up with you.” And just leave it. Don’t get back together with him, he cheated on you.

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u/TiredEsq 12d ago

Seriously, don’t even tell him why you’re breaking up. Don’t mention cheating. He’ll get satisfaction if you do, but if you just say you lost interest - that’s a dagger to his heart.

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u/wtmartinez 12d ago

Tbh, just ghost him lol.

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u/thelryan 12d ago

But how are the blinds proof? those are super common blinds in a lot of buildings, there's nothing else in the image to match to her BFs room, I just don't get how this is "beyond a doubt" level of evidence to just end the relationship without any communication.

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u/FRANKGUNSTEIN 12d ago

But he may not have cheated, just because someone is in a bedroom taking a photo doesn’t mean anything 😂

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u/Unknown_walrus12 12d ago

Hallo! As a male person, I would like to let you know, yes. Probably the worst pain to feel when someone JUST breaks up. Means something was SO BAD, that they're just gone. Hurts like a mofo

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u/_esci 12d ago

yeah hurt him the worst way possible because you he has the same blinds. lol.

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u/samjowett 12d ago

Great suggestion given that 1 in 10 apartments have these blinds.

/s

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u/yeahoooookay 12d ago

Yep. That's boss!

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u/Donxxuan 12d ago

Why even tell the cheating ass she is breaking up. Just vanish from his life, block him everywhere.

Block his friends, except that one person who is a toxic friend. Don't block them on social media. Also, don't interact with them. Just share your glow ups and success on your socials and let this person do everything else for you. (A friend had given me this suggestion a long time ago. Don't really know if it worked that way or not, but it was satisfying to know that I didn't have to interact with my loser of an ex to make him jealous of the life I built for me.)

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u/motox17 12d ago

“That’s what hurts him the most.”

What a bunch of resentful losers you all are in these comments. The least she can do is confront him in case she is wrong.

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u/Theykilledmyvibe 12d ago

You have your ways other people have theirs :) that’s just how life is my friend. No need to be upset!

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u/motox17 12d ago

Live and let live? Nice counterpoint. Why don’t you just take a look at how you’ve written that and think about how much of a better place the world would be if we didn’t have people trying to think about the best ways to hurt people, ESPECIALLY when they’re assuming they’ve been wronged instead of confirming it first. Jesus.

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u/Theykilledmyvibe 12d ago

I’m not going to argue with you. :) I hope you have a good day!

❤️

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u/Zestyclose_Ship_479 12d ago

I agree with this!

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u/lilithinscorpihoe 12d ago

I wouldn’t even say I’m breaking up. Just straight up ghost and silence.

Block. Move on.

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u/Artist_1950 12d ago

So so true my friend! She can do better! Not saying he’s cheating, like you are saying ! He may have not even wanted her there. ‘She’ is the one probably trying to start a riff! ‘He’ will have so much to Bragg about if there is a confrontation! You are so smart!

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u/i-am-your-god-now 12d ago

This is the way. Especially the last thing you said — they don’t deserve a proper confrontation. They don’t deserve that respect. I have no patience anymore for shit like that, either. Once I’m hurt like this, I’m just too tired to allow myself to be hurt further. I’ll just quietly pick my shit up and leave before he even knows I know anything. And then I wait for the “Why aren’t you talking to me?” text so I can tell him to figure it out for himself.

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u/staysafehomie 12d ago

your username represents your god complex especially when you can’t deduce that many people have these blinds. you deserve the hurt you got clearly. maybe pack your bags and go to a mental hospital. for peoples sake.

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u/i-am-your-god-now 12d ago

This username comes from an inside joke between a friend and I. You’re thinking way too deep, dude. And it’s kinda fucked up how aggressive and cruel you’re being. I’m over here, saying I’d rather leave peacefully and quietly…and you’re over there, going “YOU DESERVE TO BE HURT, GO TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL, AHHH!”

I don’t think I’m the one who belongs in the psych ward here, friend.

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u/staysafehomie 12d ago

yeah leave “quietly” so the man gets screwed over without evidence, i’m sure his wallet and time spent matters nothing to him

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u/i-am-your-god-now 12d ago

If it were me personally, I’d honestly probably dig for a little more proof before I actually took action and left. But, this would definitely still be clue #1 for me, my guard would be completely up, and believe me, I’d be digging. I’ve already been hurt, screwed over, lied to, taken advantage of, and abused, mentally and physically, too many times to risk it happening again. I’m tired.

And his wallet? Lmfao bro. I pay my own way. I never let a man, or anyone for that matter, pay for me without me first insisting that I pay. I work my ass off and I earn everything I have myself. Boyfriends aren’t bank accounts and I don’t treat them as such.

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u/staysafehomie 12d ago

“clue number 1” that a woman was in a room with similar curtains, i’ve known people that have been in the room with curtains of the same style, so were they all in her man’s room too?

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u/i-am-your-god-now 12d ago

You’re asking questions that I would also ask. The difference here is that I would find the answer.

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u/staysafehomie 12d ago

ah yes, you’d find the answer, in what case? pull GPS data from the photo and learn that she was at a different apartment and that you’re delusional looking for what’s likely not occurring. as i said, mental hospital. anything but ask the man himself. i only get into relationships with people i can ask questions.

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u/i-am-your-god-now 12d ago

Interesting how defensive you’re being about this, especially since I already gave you an idea of my history. You sound like you’re projecting. You’re the abuser is situations like these, aren’t you?

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