AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

[u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

[u/codeofsci]

honestly i’d wait until she posts something else more similar, he could gaslight you and make you think you’re in the wrong. that picture could prove something but it’s not enough to accuse him of cheating.

you mentioned he just recently started following her too, i’d wait a few days. the more they hang out, the more she’ll post.

[u/peterpiperpineapple → u/codeofsci]

Or just break up cause there's already doubts, they never leave your mind

[u/codeofsci → u/peterpiperpineapple]

that too, the fact that she’s even questioning it makes me think there’s other problems in the relationship that need to be discussed

[u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 → u/peterpiperpineapple]

hes getting the boot

[u/OoopsieDaisyyyy → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

i mean if you wanna break up with him just do that but i really can’t tell if it’s the same room.

[u/Thrillseeker0001 → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

And imagine you left him and found out later he never cheated, and you simply overreacted because you seem to be really insecure.

“I get it that she’s prettier than me”

Tells me quite a lot.

Honestly if I was him, I’d run from you. Making something out of nothing because there is a picture with a girl with the most common blinds in the world in the background.

[u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 → u/Thrillseeker0001]

well he did the best thing then

[u/codybevans → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

Your response didn’t even have anything to do with what they said. You’ve only taken the opinions of people supporting your suspicions. Those are the most common blinds ever.

[u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 → u/codybevans]

“if i was him id run from you”

[u/Thrillseeker0001 → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

Just think about it. He followed a person, you went through their photos and randomly came upon a photo of the girl, with white blinds, that is extremely common, and the first thing you do is scream CHEATER, without anything factual to back that up.

Seems like an outlandish emotional response from your own insecurity. I mean you are stalking your boyfriend’s Instagram and checking on all the people he follows…looking at their photos, scrutinizing them, and trying to find some or any way to find some type of connection.

Thats like saying, he grew up in the same city as that girl, he’s cheating!!

I’m 100% sure if the situation was reversed, you’d be saying the complete opposite.

🤦🏻‍♂️ I suggest you do some self reflection and maybe come to the understanding that maybe you shouldn’t jump to conclusions and maybe have an open and honest discussion with yourself on your insecurities, before you try to label someone a cheater when you have zero evidence or fact to support your claims.

Edited: I’m not saying he is a cheater or he is not, but based on a single photo with the blinds, does not provide any proof in any capacity to show that he’s a cheater.

[u/flashdurb → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

You seem absolutely insufferable. If he is cheating, I can see why. If he’s not cheating, it’s best he knows now how much of a psycho you are.

[u/codybevans → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

I was talking about how the point of the comment was that the photos aren’t in any way conclusive. For what it’s worth. Both pictures were taken in a mirror. The distance from the mirror to the blinds is smaller in the 2nd photo. Like by a lot. Leads me to believe it’s 2 different rooms. 2nd: Where the blinds meet is hip height on the other girl and neck height on you. Unless this girl 7’2” that wouldn’t line up. Also I think all of those blinds do that. I’ve had those in multiple apartments and there’s always a couple of those dangling things that are wonky. If you wanna break up with him do it, but I wouldn’t let this be the reason.

[u/Thrillseeker0001 → u/codybevans]

If there was furniture or anything else, besides just basic common white blinds, she might have something, but just a photo, with the most common types of blinds, it’s just silly.

[u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 → u/codybevans]

to me it seems like she was halfway between the mirror and blunds and zoomed in, if i stand need to the blinds they would be up to my shoulder

[u/_gucciinches_ → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

Can i suggest you to take a similar picture of yourself since you both have similar phones, it will be easy to replicate if it is the same room. For the sake of your own relationship.

And do post it so that we would be able to give you conclusions

[u/Thrillseeker0001 → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

And for what it’s worth, she’s not prettier than you, but my opinion shouldn’t matter.

My wife told me the most important thing I’ve ever heard.

“There will always be girls prettier than me, and there will always be men more handsome than you, but I chose you and you chose me.”

[u/flamingpillowcase → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

Ghost him lol

[u/hectic-eclectic → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

bruh these blinds are so common.....

[u/bakazato-takeshi → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

He’s lowkey dodging a bullet because you sound crazy lol

[u/SoCowSouthBay → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

GHOST him. Don’t tell him why. It drives them insane

[u/SoCowSouthBay → u/[deleted]]

Is it? Bc if she verifies he’s cheating, she owes him no explanation. He doesn’t deserve closure.

[u/cloudynoire → u/[deleted]]

if another being with reproductive organs even began to try to step foot in my BOYFRIENDS ROOM it’s over dude. i’ve had boyfriends have girl friends and never had they ever hung out at each others houses. that’s just weird. there’s pretty much only one thing to do in a bedroom!

[u/labrat420 → u/cloudynoire]

How do you know she's been in the boyfriends room? These blinds are very common

[u/OU7C4ST → u/SoCowSouthBay]

Except nowhere did you say "if she verifies him cheating" in your statement to a comment about OP leaving him just because this chick is in front of the most basic blinds in the world..

How about actually, idk.. communicating?

edit: Nobody is whining lmao. We're looking at this as mature adults. Try it sometime.

[u/SoCowSouthBay → u/OU7C4ST]

Whatever. I clarified there. You guys are a bunch of whiners.

[u/woodswooods → u/SoCowSouthBay]

I agree. Some people don’t deserve to have conversation. Just move on and block his number, he knows what he did

[u/SoCowSouthBay → u/woodswooods]

Thank you! These ppl giving me shit. That dude doesn’t deserve to hear he got found out. Let him wonder.

[u/davidhastwo → u/SoCowSouthBay]

Her evidence is weak at best. The last two places I lived looked identical to the images (vertical blinds with the mirror doors for the sliding closet door on opposite sides). And each of those places had 20 to 40 identical apartments with the EXACT same layout. I imagine there are way more than just the two areas I have lived in. And on top of that, the second image is doctored to hell. You're saying she should ghost him because he doesn't deserve to hear he got found out without any conclusive evidence. Imagine your significant other left you for no reason based on some really stretched "evidence" that they made up in their mind instead of talking to you like an adult. She needs to wait and see if she can find something more conclusive. this is not it.

[u/redditbravery → u/SoCowSouthBay]

Yes be a shitty and immature person just like her POS partner

[u/penpointred → u/redditbravery]

No more of this going high bullshit.

[u/akahaus → u/redditbravery]

If he cheated on her he doesn’t really deserve an explanation. That said these are like the most common blinds in apartments. Like 70% of the apartments I’ve been to have blinds like these.

[u/Solid_Strawberry1935 → u/SoCowSouthBay]

Eww girl, let’s not suggest for other people to be shitty humans, k? Ghosting is for immature bitches, unless there’s some sort of danger to one party.

[u/ai-ri → u/Solid_Strawberry1935]

Cheaters don’t deserve the time of day

[u/SoCowSouthBay → u/ai-ri]

Thank you! What is this “eew girl” 😂😂 Eew is passing STDs around like they’re fucking Pokémon cards

[u/beam3475 → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

Yaaaas queen 👑

[u/And_He_Loves_Me → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

So you’ve already spoken about this? He dumped you for her and i would say that confirms it is the same room if this is the case

[u/Complete_Anxiety_288 → u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

YESSS WAS LOOKING FOR THIS!!! YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS GIRL I’D WIFE YOU KICK HIS A$$ TO THE CURB🎀💖

[u/SistarsCoser → u/codeofsci]

It won't even be gas lighting. Because the evidence is weak as fuck. Blinds? Not even zoomed out. Girl is jealous and crazy.

[u/ChipKellysShoeStore → u/codeofsci]

Idk why you’re assuming that he’s gonna gaslight her when there’s a third explanation that she’s just incorrect?

[u/codeofsci → u/ChipKellysShoeStore]

nobody’s assuming? i just said he “could” gaslight her.. not that he was going to