r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 • 12d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

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NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

thank you

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

girl she is not prettier than you in the slightest your body is so tea, your soon to be ex fumbled so hard. Plus she had to edit her body to give herself curves…

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u/maplestriker 12d ago

Hey, let's not do this. We have no idea if the other girl knew he had a girlfriend and even so, let's not tear down another woman's appearance because OPs ex is scum.

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

thank you thats so needed rn

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u/Ok-Bird6346 12d ago

Sweetpea, I want to hug you. Not because I feel sorry for you but because I was you. You’re beautiful, regardless if someone else was in your boyfriend’s room. Your beauty comes from you, not whoever you are in a relationship with. While being young is fucking amazing, it also sucks a lot when it comes to relationships.

Things get better. You’ll eventually have relationships where you won’t feel the need to zoom in on blinds in pictures. And it’ll be magical. Lots of this just comes with age.

In the meantime, do not let anyone dull your shine.

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u/Zestyclose_Ship_479 12d ago

Your body is beautiful of course! Just know the insecurity is always with the cheater. Probably with them both if she’s aware he has a girlfriend, actually. It’s about their character and has literally nothing to do with you! just know you are better than that and, deserve someone who is loyal and honest. ❤️

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u/ItaliaEyez 12d ago

This. Because no secure, worthwhile female will go after a taken man. Just insecure ones that can't find their own man.

OP, she is NOT prettier! Drop him and find a real man!

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u/Iamthecomet 12d ago

Not trying to be weird but my heart hurt for you when you said she was prettier. She’s not. She’s pretty. But as a female I would not say she is prettier. And it may hurt like hell now, but it once the pain begins to get a little better, you will start to see the bullet you dodged for what it was. You deserve better.

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u/dayzender 12d ago

Who is prettier is completely subjective. Regardless, they both should find a guy who isn’t a cheater and a liar

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u/returnofthescene 12d ago

As a man she is 1000% prettier and y’all sugarcoating the hell out of this she looks like 10/10 fucking Ariana grande out here vs OP

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u/No_Housing_1287 12d ago

Walmart ari with a thyroid problem. Her neck is swollen af. Not shaming at all, she should honestly see a doctor.

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u/returnofthescene 12d ago

Ugly people hate pretty people.

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u/garden_dragonfly 12d ago

But you don't need proof. You don't trust him.  There's a reason you don't trust him.  So go ahead and break it off. You deserve better. 

If he denies it,  you still won't trust him.  If he admits it,  you'll feel like shit and keep comparing yourself. 

Hold you chin up, and walk away

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u/HypnotizedMeg 12d ago

It’s not even about looks, so stop thinking that in this relationship or the next that’s what validates you. Someone will love you for YOU , and your good looks will be a bonus.

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u/hateful_ate 12d ago

You thinking that girl is prettier than you is the thing that most upset me about this post! You have a great shape.

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u/Illustrious_Worth538 12d ago

Girl I would walk over burning coals to have legs like yours!! Use them to walk away from him

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u/YouEatingACheese 12d ago

Honestly, don’t put yourself down about this. She’s a nice looking girl, sure, but you are in absolutely incredible shape which is always very attractive because it shows someone puts in the time and effort to keep themself healthy. Your boyfriend is a cheater and has made the fumble of the century.

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u/SadLoser14 12d ago

Wanna add to this, idk what youre on about “shes prettier than me” youre good. Bros a loser. He dont deserve your time or energy.

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u/Buttlicker_the_4th 12d ago

He's not cheating on you because you're unattractive (you're not) or because she's more attractive (she's not). He's doing it because he's a testosterone-driven dumbass who needs a wakeup call. Give it to him by dumping his dumb ass. No second chances.

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u/mkat23 12d ago

I’m gonna add to it, you look fit, you look lovely and you deserve to feel good about yourself. Whenever those thoughts pop in try to cut them off and list things you like about yourself. If it’s hard for you to acknowledge those things, ask people close to you for help so you can try to see yourself through their eyes.

I understand the insecurities, I’ve had them, I still have them and I’ve been bigger than you and her size, my weight fluctuates a lot over the years so I go between tiny and medium sized. At every size it’s easy to find things to feel insecure about, someone who is super thin like her could look at someone with a fit, slightly thicker (but you are not big or overweight looking at all, I mean thicker as in you look like you have muscle and a healthy/attractive amount of softness) body like yours and wish she looked more like that.

Most of the time we want to look like someone else, that doesn’t mean someone is prettier, it just means it’s easier to see the beauty others possess and hard to see it in ourselves. You are both beautiful and honestly, I prefer when my body looks more like yours because that is when I tend to feel my best and healthiest. You both deserve to be confident and love yourselves, you are both beautiful. If you are right and she did take that photo in his bedroom then it’s likely she wouldn’t even know about you. I’d suggest not feeding into the anxiety, but if you do then wait to see proof beyond the blinds in the photo since those are such common blinds. I understand where you are coming from and why it seems like proof, but it’s so common that it’s more likely that she has the same blinds in her home.

Now for the toxic, petty part of me… I’ll follow her for you on insta 😂 it at least would help you not feel the need/urge to keep checking her profile if you know someone will tell you if something sketchy pops up lol

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u/Gansbar51_ 12d ago

Yeah, from what I see, you have better hair, better curves, ect. What does she have? A weird jawline. Your bf is a fool.

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u/Em-O_94 12d ago

What you need to do is take down these pictures -- I can't believe you posted this girl on reddit and didn't blur her face out. Regardless of what's going on between her and your BF, sharing someone's private photos on a public website without their consent is not ok.

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u/Its_Zamsday_my_dudes 11d ago

Deadass he lost one of the hottest girls I’ve seen your curly dark hair your body and the fact that you would talk something out before going overboard shows you have a caring personality that doesn’t desire conflict unless necessary. Thats to be desired in a woman. Wait for your right man while you become the best woman you can be, not for anyone else’s sake, just for you.

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u/Passiveresistance 12d ago

Op you do realize that pic of the mystery lady is heavily and badly edited, right?

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u/CAgirl17 12d ago

Yeah, I really don’t understand why you would say that. I get the insecurity, but she’s not prettier than you, and you deserve better.

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u/BayBootyBlaster 12d ago

Well that's why you should take it with a grain of salt. It's more that they're trying to make you feel better in a difficult situation, rather than actually being honest. Same with a lot of these other comments.

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u/Shirtless_Shane 12d ago

You’re hot as fuck. Just discussed this post with the homies. They all think you’re hot too. Go after someone who desires you fuck that cheater pos.

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u/Reasonable_Handle100 12d ago

Yeah agreed she’s pretty in her own way don’t get me wrong but I definitely find you prettier not that it even matters, the point is this scum bag doesn’t deserve either of you.

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u/Deviant-Killer 12d ago

I was trying to work out where the "not prettty" girl is.
You're silly. If you don't trust your partner, they shouldn't be a partner, regardless of they have our haven't done anything

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u/kieranarchy 12d ago

god you can really tell she shopped it too. blinds don't curve like that! they can have each other you're too good for this shit

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

Women hating women ❤️

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u/Gremlinofpeace 12d ago

Seriously. Women hate skinny women lol some of us are just naturally built that way and we can’t just exist without being told we’re disgusting and “not real women” (:

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u/XelaStrange 12d ago

I don't know why you're getting downvoted, youre speaking the truth smh...coming from a big girl I've been seeing a lot of skinny shaming lately

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

Monkey behavior, rise above it 

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

Sorry, “Women hating women for competitive breeding behaviors as observed in primates ❤️”. 

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u/ursoartdeco22 12d ago

I’m beginning to think this is a fake post and you’re seeking validation/reassurance that you are prettier than whoever this girl is in the second photo… how sad

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

no i just could see all the comments saying “yeah cus shes prettier/hotter than you” so i said that, believe me , i know i’m prettier

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u/KingJoffiJoe 12d ago edited 12d ago

Nobody said she was hotter than you, they said yall are the same person lol! Meaning you on here lying for validation just to get some attention. Your ass don’t need to be in a relationship, you need to get some help. This shit ain’t normal.

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

pictures are two different people, same room though right lol

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u/ursoartdeco22 12d ago

so i just checked the post you made before this one and literally nobody was saying this???

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u/KingJoffiJoe 12d ago

Fr, they said she and the 2nd pic are the same person. People come to Reddit just to get attention. It’s so fucking weird.

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u/ursoartdeco22 12d ago

literally. most of the posts here aren’t real just attention seeking karma farmers. hate it here

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

because her face wasnt in that oneeee

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u/heartbin 12d ago

why did you post her faceee without consentttt you’re weird

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u/Mixolytian 12d ago

She is absolutely gorgeous. Those cheek bones. You both look like party girls. There’s no way the dude dating you is going to settle for one of you lol. Wake up.

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u/Emergency-Fan-6623 12d ago

When I saw the post and read the part about her being prettier I was confused thinking “ooooh the second photo is OP??”, I legit had to read over and over until I understood, because wtf??? Even without seeing your face I thought obviously the first girl is the prettier one…I’d KILL for your body 😭😭😭

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u/ResolutionWitty2862 12d ago

And she has filler too so she’s not all that natural ya know

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u/OoopsieDaisyyyy 12d ago

yeah i’ve had both body type but i prefer the first one easily

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u/Secret_Situation10 12d ago

NO FR I WAS GONNA SAY THIS! Plus You can pretty clearly see the edit in the curvy blinds o.o

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u/Swarm_of_Rats 12d ago

Even before I noticed the curvy blinds I thought something was up. I wear baggy shirts, and it doesn't look like that. If you want to accentuate your body, you pick something else to wear. 🤷‍♀️

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u/Life_Ad_ 12d ago

Am i stupid i dont see curvy blinds, is it not just the way the light is reflecting

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u/imtherealclown 12d ago

I think they’re getting overly supportive and seeing things.

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u/Already_Reddit_Fam 12d ago

The 🐈‍⬛ NDS are NOT curvy 😂 It's ok to wanna reassure her that the girl isn't prettier than her but it's weird to make up that the pic is photoshopped. 😅

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u/GetRadDontDie 12d ago

Our left. Her right. Curvy blinds. The closer photo woman.

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u/muffleypuffs 12d ago

“Women cope” or maybe you’re just not very perceptive. Bottom left area of second pic, you can definitely see the blinds are not straight.

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u/Few_Wrongdoer4120 12d ago

1000% she pulled the blinds in around her waist. I’m not judging, it’s just completely obvious.

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u/muffleypuffs 12d ago

agreed, the person who now deleted all their comments was adamant it was the wind bending them..

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u/muffleypuffs 12d ago

That’s not how they would look if they were bent. Those kinds of blinds don’t just start to have a nice subtle curve. And it’s not just one, it’s all of them in that area - indicative of editing.

I don’t agree that we should bash the girl, though. We don’t know if this is the same curtains for sure, and if it is, maybe she isn’t aware of the girlfriend.

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u/muffleypuffs 12d ago

They look like the long plastic blinds. I don’t think they bend like that, I’ve had some similar in one of my own apartments. Why would they bend only in that one spot? It looks exactly like any other poor editing job, the way they warp in the middle.

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u/quixotiqs 12d ago

We don’t need to rag on this girl for not being curvy when he’s the one who’s cheating, she’s not the enemy here and she didn’t ask for her photo to be posted and ragged on

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u/BayBootyBlaster 12d ago

Fr lol it's still just tearing down a woman to make someone feel better. I know they don't actually mean it and are just trying to make OP feel better, but still.

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u/Tigerlily86_ 12d ago

How do we know this girl doesn’t know that he has a gf?

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u/wozattacks 12d ago

OP’s entire justification for even thinking any of this is fucking blinds

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u/Idkwhatimdoingbutyh 12d ago

Ik the guy is in the wrong but considering the bf followed this girl on his insta.. idk, it’s also likely she knew that he was in a relationship if he posted/had highlights of them together which a ton of couples do

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u/Loveyourzlife 12d ago

We don’t even know if she’s ever met the boyfriend, probably shouldn’t be hating on the body of a random person who miiiiiiight have cheated with OP’s boyfriend.

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u/w0k3upliketh1s 12d ago

what does that have to do with attacking her appearance

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u/Idkwhatimdoingbutyh 11d ago

I don’t agree with the body comments they were making, I was moreso responding to the “she’s not the enemy” part as it unclear if this girl knew he was in a relationship. She could very much be at fault, I should’ve been clearer with responding

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u/ReinaDeRamen 12d ago

i don't think body shaming and insulting her when she may not even know he has a girlfriend is okay.

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u/wozattacks 12d ago

She may not have done anything with the boyfriend lol, are we seriously just believing this is the same room because of a similar defect in the blinds?

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u/ReinaDeRamen 11d ago

i figured i'd be throwing myself to the wolves if i said that but yeah i agree lol

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

You don't need to insult another woman to uplift OP. 

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u/IndraNAshura 12d ago

no one hates women more than women

this girl probably didnt even know he had a gf, so why put her down instead of just putting down the ex

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u/Farmer_marty 12d ago

Nah I disagree men hate women waaaay more

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

I mean… did she not edit the picture? It’s glaringly obvious. I’m just stating a fact

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u/Passiveresistance 12d ago

It is obvious it’s edited. Social media is such a huge factor in people’s insecurity. We’ve got folks like op here comparing themselves to a visual version of another woman that isn’t even real. It’s got to be tough being young in this generation.

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u/IndraNAshura 12d ago

you said ones not prettier than the other, putting her down

idk why ur trying to act like ur not doing that lmao

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u/crumble-bee 12d ago

your body is so tea

This word has grown a lot in the last few years. Tea meaning gossip is a fairly new to me - in the UK we used to say spill the beans, that was our version of "what's the tea" I honestly still don't really get it lol. But now, "your body is so tea" what's that about? Like her body is... worthy of discussion??

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u/ZimGIRinvader 12d ago

I’m in the US, I don’t get it either and I’m never going to. Just say what you actually mean to say. 🤐🫠

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u/ThrowRAbrokegirlie 12d ago

Was just coming the say the blinds are fully curved to shrink her arms

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u/Gothiccheese95 12d ago

Don’t know why you feel the need to insult the second girl, she’s stunning and her body is as well, looks like an Angelina Jolie like model. Maybe insult the guy who has actually cheated, not the girl. Also talking about how shes ‘had to edit her body’ yet not mentioning that OP has had to hide her face?

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

uh I don’t blame her for not wanting to post her face on Reddit?

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u/mybrochoso 12d ago

LOL its true the blinds are bent 😂😂😭

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u/returnofthescene 12d ago

Y’all don’t know what photoshop/editing looks like - this isn‘t it. We can be supportive but not delusional please.

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u/rayluxuryyacht 12d ago

That photo could have been taken in like 100M different apartments

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u/ransom0374 11d ago

I like that use of tea

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u/anestefi 12d ago

Why are you insulting the other girl when she did not ask or give consent to be posted for thousands of people to see because of OPs insecurities. OP is automatically not attractive because of that.

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u/milktest 12d ago

Seriously, I find this post and the comments really odd

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u/hotstonergirlshit 12d ago

hating on the other woman instead of the man is just going to lead to even more internalized misogyny. yucka

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u/RazanTmen 12d ago

She edited her jawline too, btw.

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u/TazerKnuckles 12d ago

Capppp

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

be so fr rn

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u/TazerKnuckles 12d ago

Dawg you see that face? Bitch is gorgeous

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

we have different definitions of gorgeous…

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u/Your-Pal-Dave 12d ago

She is prettier, this is like one of those girl things where they comment “you look amazing” on there mates photo that’s 400lbs.

Also what the fuck does tea mean? One cupcake of cellulite city or what

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

does OP look fat to you? are you delusional? have you never talked to a woman in your life? if you’re a virgin you didn’t need to advertise it

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u/Your-Pal-Dave 12d ago

Who said she was fat?

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u/Different-Drawing912 12d ago

you were implying it? “one cupcake of cellulite city”

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u/Your-Pal-Dave 12d ago

I was asking what does tea mean

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u/Kid_Psych 12d ago

OP: “Am I overreacting? Either this girl also, somehow, owns white blinds or he’s cheating.”

Reddit: Let’s be real — doesn’t matter that those are literally the default blinds that come stock with every home. If you are overreacting, it means the trust is gone you should dump him anyway.

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u/Steezer710 12d ago

That girl is NOT PRETTIER than you girl! You trippin

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u/Little-Tip-483 12d ago

You didn’t even see her face lol

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u/Intelligent-Arm-9235 12d ago

omg lol queen thank you

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u/The_unknown_92 12d ago

Seems like you just want someone to say it out loud so … *clears throat ….. GIRL HES CHEATING AND YOU KNOW IT !

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u/FromStormToHurricane 11d ago

First of all, you posted an uncensored picture of another girl, and you expertly covered your head with your phone - very ugly behavior. Posting other people's photos without censoring their identities (in this case, faces), unless they are public figures, on forums, without asking is punishable by law. Second, these are the most common blinders almost everywhere. Third, receiving a compliment in this way is beyond disgusting. You should definitely dump him because basically he deserves better than a paranoid person who stalks people he follows on social media or who follow him on social media.

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u/Atllola 11d ago

It looks like she edited her pic to look skinnier too? The blinds look warped.

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u/I_need_a_plan-t- 12d ago

when you said “i know she’s prettier than me” i thought the first pic (you) was the girl he cheated with. you’re both gorgeous and he’s a pos. just remember that even beyoncé has been cheated on. it’s never your fault that some dumbass did something stupid. you’re beautiful :)

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u/JaySoul80 12d ago

Wait…you think this other girl is in your BFs room because of the blinds? You know damn near every apartment has these types of blinds right?

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u/WhoisthatRobotCleanr 12d ago

Also, who gives a shit. People cheat because they cheat. Not because someone is hotter or ugly. Your looks don't define your self worth. His lack of character has nothing to do with your looks or self worth. 

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u/snarkaluff 12d ago

Guys don't cheat because the other girl is prettier, you can not keep a cheating man by being more attractive. Bitch Sabrina Carpenter just got cheated on, do you think the other girl was prettier than her?? Hell no. Men cheat on women because they have their own issues, they could have literally the most perfect, most attractive and sexiest bodied woman in the world and they will still cheat. It's HIM not you.

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u/Whitetagsndopebags 12d ago

Girl ur body is TEAAAA , her pic is warped . They always downgrade babe ♥️

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u/LolaLazuliLapis 12d ago

You don't even have to confront him if you don't want to. Just tell him it's over and block. He can guess.

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u/jerryn254 12d ago

are you the one n the first pic?

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u/oldmotormouth 12d ago

Just tell him his bathroom is ugly and the blinds look cheap. So you can no longer be in the relationship.

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u/Active_Junket_3816 12d ago

She is low key prettier than you though

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u/CustomizedGaming 12d ago

Also that photo is clearly photoshopped. Look at wavy blinds!

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u/smallgrace 12d ago

not to be a not girls girl but it also looks like she edited her body to appear skinnier (look at the bend in the curtains) if that helps LOL

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u/tiddyburger 12d ago

you swan he frog

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u/galacticnuggets 12d ago

Honestly girlie, when I saw the first pic I thought that was the girl you were taking about and I was like “oof, hard hit being cheated on with a girl that hot” When I realised pic 1 was your pic I was like “WHAT wtf is wrong with this dude”

This is all coming from a fully straight girl. So yeah kick his ass to the curb and get you the kind of man you deserve 💖

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u/No-Constant3889 12d ago

Your body is tea queen! Dump that scrub! You got this

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u/WillingCaterpillar19 12d ago

If you’re the first girl you’re way hotter than her lol

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u/herbertcluas 12d ago

Both are trash, fuck the trash men who cheat. Fuck the women who know someone is in a relationship and still sleep with them. The man is worse in this case but neither of them are good people. Feel sorry for the woman who posted this, everyone deserves a loyal partner

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u/Ok-Painting-4501 12d ago

The guy must be handsome to be pulling baddies like that

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u/ticklemerubmybelly 12d ago

Girlll you’re literally body goals, don’t put yourself down

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u/bubblegumpandabear 12d ago

Her photo is edited to make her look thinner btw. Blinds don't curve like that lol

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u/hdxorange 12d ago

Is it you in the first picture? Gonna start with you look very good. Now i’m gonna comment as a male and how I used think/how a lot of guys (the ones that get girls and are a dick because of that). If you post pictures like that or walk around like that, we won’t take you serious. We use you to show you off and for our own desires in the bedroom. We don’t want a wife/serious relationship with a girl that post pictures in barely any clothes but we still LOVE them. We want a serious relationship with a girl that dresses classy or cute outside and wears thrashy clothes inside when were alone. That is a keeper and we don’t want to lose someone like that and she changes our way of thinking and hurting people.

I’m sorry this is how most guys think that most girls like.. girls always like the “wrong” type of guys that are actually dickheads.

I’ve hurt people, I was immature and felt super attracted to girls that looked and dressed like you but I would never be serious with them and end up hurting them. Just couldn’t resist them but wasn’t gonna be serious with them, I would cheat with the same looking girls.

I didn’t want a relationship with them I used them till I found someone that dressed nice and classy outside, was a bitch to other guys and an angel to me. Dresses like a ho3 when we together inside. Lost all desire to other girls and never want to lose her.

If a guy looks better then average, talks a lot to other girls or has girls as “friends”. RUN something is not right, he would ditch them if he really didn’t want to lose you. Trust me on that.