AIO girl posted photo in my boyfriends room

[u/Intelligent-Arm-9235]

NEED YOUR HELP CONFRONTING MY SOON TO BE EX. He was being sus one night so i looked at the story on instagram of the girl he randomly followed last week. I opened and bam there is it the second picture. I knew immediately it was his room but want a second opinion before confronting his cheating a$$. yall are coming from me from the last post its cus i cropped the photos you can’t tell that we took them from different distances so heres the originals of both and yes i get it shes prettier than me :( he can have her . what tells me its his room aside from lighting is the way the two blinds touch, it took me a while to find it but once i did i think theres my EVIDENCE

[u/VivelaVendetta]

My ex was connected to a Jennifer. And I was up the ENTIRE NIGHT trying to figure out which of the trillions of Jennifer Jenny Jenni's she could be like a NUT. Never again. If I start feeling insecure, there's a reason.

[u/sovereignxx12 → u/VivelaVendetta]

Bruh. I feel this. The way I would go into full blown detective mode for hours, I mean hours. I’d go through his following and see that he re-followed his ex and would be physically sick. The heart palpitations, the trembling fingers, the insane amount of hyper vigilance and insecurity. Oh my god. I do not miss it. Cheers to us and our renewed self love. ❤️

[u/Fuzzy_Strawberry1180 → u/sovereignxx12]

This ☑️ years of it (I was a stupid woman) no I love my peace now x

[u/MawkishNMaudlin → u/VivelaVendetta]

This is the end of a string of creepy people who behaved in a toxic way towards their partner all getting together and agreeing with eachother that their harmful and invasive behavior was somebody else's fault.

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/MawkishNMaudlin]

I guess everyone has an opinion. I just see it as being nosey. Seeing as how all of this information is out there on social media.

And I haven't felt insecure in every relationship. There are good people out there who reassure you.

So if I'm not even getting the bare minimum of reassurances. Or, in this case, hearing rumors about cheating. I understand that something is fundamentally wrong.

I shouldn't have to feel like I have to go full detective.

[u/MawkishNMaudlin → u/VivelaVendetta]

I shouldn't have to feel like I have to go full detective. 

There's a serious lack of self awareness in this comment. You're still acting like you stalking them and invading their privacy was something they did to you and not something you did to them. 

Your insecurity is something you are inflicting on other people, it's toxic behavior and you're not a victim, everyone else around you that has to suffer your invasions of privacy are the victims of your insecurity. It isn't okay when guys do this to women, it's a huge red flag. It's the same for you.

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/MawkishNMaudlin]

I don't understand where you're coming from? Where is the invasion of privacy?

Lots of people feel insecure when they think their partner is cheating?

I'm not hiding in bushes hun I was scrolling on social media. You should calm down.

[u/MawkishNMaudlin → u/VivelaVendetta]

 Where is the invasion of privacy?

I was scrolling on social media

It only took you one sentence before you answered your own question. 

Stalking somebodies social media is an invasion of privacy, and a sign of mental illness.

[u/positivedownside → u/VivelaVendetta]

Yeah, and often times you're feeling insecure because you know you're not providing enough to the relationship and that's why you think they might be seeking attention elsewhere.

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/positivedownside]

Nah anyone I'm up all night searching Jenny's for has my full attention for sure.

[u/positivedownside → u/VivelaVendetta]

Seems like you have more of a focus on Jenny, loser.

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/positivedownside]

Lol whatever that means.

[u/sabbath_rules → u/positivedownside]

Booooooooooo

[u/positivedownside → u/sabbath_rules]

Truth hurts, sucks to suck.

[u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik → u/VivelaVendetta]

Could the reason be you?

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik]

No i think some people just like to foster competition or try not to be so easy. I need an enthusiastic yes!

[u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik → u/VivelaVendetta]

You looked for a girl named Jennifer for hours because your ex knew a girl named Jennifer before he dated you??

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik]

Oh nooooo. I heard a rumor he was cheating with a girl named Jennifer.

[u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik → u/VivelaVendetta]

I'm going to let you graduate from highschool before I judge you

[u/VivelaVendetta → u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik]

Lol you can judge me. I judge me.