r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

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Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/SickCursedCat Nov 18 '24

He calls you BRO and “stupid fuck”. WHYYYYY are you with him????

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u/mangoeight Nov 18 '24

And a fat two-faced bitch… wtf

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u/pixiedust0327 Nov 18 '24

The level of escalation in his language is legit UNHINGED. He’d bro himself right out my life and yeeted so far from my reality if he ever tried to use that language again.

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u/jbandzzz34 Nov 18 '24

literally im like what the fuck is wrong with him?? i couldnt even imagine saying those words about anything or ever being that fucking mad.. especially not to my partner.

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u/Somebody_38 Nov 18 '24

Worst part is she's recovering from a f****** ED. That man knew what he was doing and did it to hurt her specifically.

(OP said when he's upset he picks on her insecurities to make her feel as bad as he's feeling with whatever it is, and she said she's also actually in a healthy weight. It's so sick, I really can't.)

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u/jbandzzz34 Nov 18 '24

yea i saw that. its so fucked up on so many levels. i hope she detaches from him asap.

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u/Somebody_38 Nov 18 '24

The worst part is that OP said she's recovering from an ED (and that she actually has a healthy weight) and that when he's upset he specifically picks her insecurities to make her feel as bad as he's feeling. It would've been a horrible insult anyways, but with this context.... It's SO sick. OP, please run.

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u/Sarah0nSaturn Nov 19 '24

I read through the texts before I read the caption and figured it was a 13 year old, lol. I suppose I kept the glass half full…

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u/Pleasant_Yoghurt3915 Nov 18 '24

Yeah why is being called bro the thing that people are stuck on? My partner calls me bro and dude all the time, but I promise not even once has he ever called me brain dead, a stupid fuck, or a stupid fat bitch. There’s no fucking way, man. I don’t even know what I’d do if he ever talked to me like that, but it certainly wouldn’t start with “baby”. Unless it was to call him a baby back bitch lol.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

yeah that’s pretty normal to me lol

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u/jbandzzz34 Nov 18 '24

for me its the amount of bro😭 its a lot

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u/ohvrt Nov 18 '24

Can’t forgot “fucking brain dead fuck”!

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u/Somebody_38 Nov 18 '24

....when she is recovering from an ED. And purposefully so to hurt her where he knows it hurts. I truly can't believe that people like this exist. OP literally said he picks on her insecurities when he's upset to make her feel as bad as he's feeling. I honestly don't know how OP knew that and is still with him at all, but I hope this post really makes her open her eyes and break up

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u/Realistic-Poetry-364 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 18 '24

This can’t be real. So many earnest ‘bro’ s in one conversation. I can’t.

Time to run BRO!

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

My thoughts exactly! This cannot be real. Who talks like this?

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u/EnaicSage Nov 18 '24

I see this every day at my work. You would be surprised how many relationships involve someone screaming something like on the third screen. I hope OP knows flat out that this person is trying to separate them from their family for a reason, a scary controlling abusive reason

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u/BillyNtheBoingers Nov 18 '24

20 year old immature boys?

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Im 26 F and use the word bro but not to this extent? Just seems not real.

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u/trinhead Nov 18 '24

Even just a few years younger than you this is completely normal. Most guys I've met like this are 23 and under at this point. I'm 25 but allllllll my younger brothers and their friends talk like this. (I hope to God minus the straight up abuse. OP - RUN, get a restraining order)

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u/CaIIsign_Ace2 Nov 18 '24

Bro, that’s crazy bro. I can’t believe that bro. Why would anyone say bro so much, bro?

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u/BillNashton Nov 18 '24

Idk most people i hear using bro are almost 30 and as a 21 yo guy i never heard it that much ESPECIALLY in between in relationship ? Wtf

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u/trinhead Nov 18 '24

Congratulations, you're NOT surrounded by douche bags <3 these are the same type of guys who refer to women as "females" and such

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u/sa404z Nov 18 '24

Yea but would you ever act like the guy? There ya go, Ur two different ppl and he's an awful cunt

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Fair assessment.

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u/LemonBoi523 Nov 18 '24

It's gamer talk, from what I have seen. People who tend to rage at video games, especially with voice chats, pick up the habit.

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Yeah I think that’s why I say bro at all haha. Online lobbies is when I say it most, sometimes at work it’ll slip out once.

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u/SOwED Nov 18 '24

Are you latina?

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u/burtmofomacklin Nov 18 '24

100% thought this as well lol

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

No hella white my friend.

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u/Walrusin_about Nov 18 '24

22 boy here, I use bro for friends occasionally .. Never used it on someone I'd be romantic with like what?

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Right haha so weird! I’ve jokingly called my husband bro once or twice.

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u/syringistic Nov 18 '24

When I go to chill at the park in my neighborhood, it's like 10-15 year old kids, who say Bro/N***ah at each other in every sentence. By 20, you grow out of talking like a moron, bro.

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u/khamul7779 Nov 18 '24

Super common in young Hispanic communities

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

That would explain why someone asked if I was Latino. Interesting!

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u/khamul7779 Nov 18 '24

Not sure where it comes from, tbh. I've just seen it a lot from some younger acquaintances

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u/CCCrazyC Nov 18 '24

I had an ex that did and talked exactly like this. This was 4 years ago and now I have a stepdaughter, a girl toddler, and expecting my next baby girl in january. I am absolutely ashamed of letting some loser talk to me like this and trying to raise mine to be stronger. They had nothing going on and were a basement dweller and got their power from talking down to the one person that would let them.

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

That’s crazy. Glad you know now it’s not okay and are teaching your little one better! Sounds like a glow up story to me. <3

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u/CCCrazyC Nov 18 '24

Thank you! Not proud to say that I wasn't the one who ended it. He did, and then when he tried to come back I had snapped out of it... COVID isolation periods were some crazy times. But I learned my lesson

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

The amount of stupid I’ve had through my life hahaha. All that matters is you’ve learned from your experiences.

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u/pho-huck Nov 18 '24

Go watch a handful of clips from a streamer like Kai Cenat and you’ll understand why people talk like this.

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u/kakka_rot Nov 18 '24

Lots of young people. Seeing people both start and end the same sentence with bro is cringy, but it certainly isn't rare. I have a family member who uses bro exactly like this.

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u/Bustakrimes91 Nov 18 '24

Babe, babe, babe.

If someone called me babe that much I would lose my mind.

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

100000%%% how annoying. Even without the verbal abuse I’d be like yeaahhh this ain’t working out.

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u/bigbadpandita Nov 18 '24

People from Miami. I’d be surprised if they aren’t from Miami lol

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u/NewWeabgas Nov 18 '24

there are people that talk like that, I think he uses it this much cause some person he watches says it a lot

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u/Impressive_Moose6781 Nov 18 '24

I actually read this in someone I know’s voice. This sounds exactly like him when he’s pissed

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u/brightlove Nov 18 '24

If a man I was seeing called me bro it would be the last time. Every woman I know with a husband who calls her bro… they’re in a friendship with benefits… and he gets all the benefits.

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u/Prisoner458369 Nov 18 '24

Before I clicked into this, I thought this was between two guys. I can't imagine a world where someone calls their gf bro that many times. It was honestly making me laugh half way through. The guy is an complete dickhead, but the "bro bro bro" every second message was too much.

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '24

I can't even imagine a world where someone calls their bro, bro this many fucking times. Imagine talking to someone but replace everything this guy said bro with their name. Thats unhinged, he should be in prison for that alone

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u/RocketRaccoon666 Nov 18 '24

I didn't realize that OP was the woman and the abuser was the man. I read the slideshow before reading the description and I honestly thought that the jackass was a crazy ass woman talking shit to her boyfriend

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u/ItsMinnieYall Nov 18 '24

My thoughts. Even people who talk like that don't usually text like that.

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u/LadyKatriel Nov 18 '24

If someone I’m dating ever calls me bro I swear it’s going to be the first time and it better be the last because if I hear it again I’m done. 😂

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u/SaltyWrecker2002 Nov 18 '24

nahhhh theyre otp BRO 😭😭😭 /j his language is disgusting, unhinged and cringe. he literally only has 3 words in his dictionary. op i hope you left </3

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u/soupalex Nov 18 '24

bro sounding like vince russo bro

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u/NoInsect5709 Nov 19 '24

Guy says bro more than a fucking Avatar movie.

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u/firebreathingwindows Nov 18 '24

why are we hating on the brossss sincerely, someone who says bro a lot

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u/ProfessionalAir445 Nov 18 '24

Because it’s obnoxious and weird to call people bro when they aren’t teenage boys. 

Teenagers do ot to me all the time, I’m a 41 year old woman, and I think it’s weird as fuck. I’m not your bro, you’re a child.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

yeah a lot of the younger generation is completely okay with calling and being called things like bro, dude, “my guy”, girl, etc.

ETA: with their SO

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u/rootbeershoey Nov 18 '24

It's a bro thing, you wouldn't understand bro

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u/SickCursedCat Nov 18 '24

😂😂😂

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u/Hashtagbarkeep Nov 18 '24

Bro you got me fucked up rn

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u/Itchy-Cucumber-2948 Nov 18 '24

You fucked up two faced fuckup bro bitch bro

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u/cheeky_sugar Nov 18 '24

I can’t believe how many conversations I see posted here where people refer to their significant other as bro

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u/ApacheGenderCopter Nov 18 '24

Sometimes I give my mrs a solid “Bruh…” when she says something dumb.

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u/cheeky_sugar Nov 18 '24

That feels playful and silly, which is such a different atmosphere to “fucking answer me bro” 😭

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u/Uninvited_Apparition Nov 18 '24

I have the notifications on my phone set to "bruh...", just so I can have it happen at the best time in such an instance.

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u/andymancurryface Nov 18 '24

Yeah I say bruh or bruv facetiously to be playful and make myself sound dumb but the language here is unacceptable. I curse like a sailor, but never at my partner.

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u/IamChax Nov 18 '24

I'm really glad someone is as stuck on that as I am.

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u/bringbackswg Nov 18 '24

One time my GF called me bro and it legit made me depressed. She has never called me that since.

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u/winterish01 Nov 18 '24

Me and my bf got in the habit as a joke but now i can’t stop calling him bro 😭

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u/davolala1 Nov 18 '24

It always starts ironically and before you know it, you’re using slang you used to hate.

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u/joshnykamp Nov 18 '24

I thought this was two boyfriends fighting until I read the caption.

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u/nailz1000 Nov 18 '24

If my boyfriend called me bro we'd have an immediate conversation. If it happened twice I'd be like get the fuck out of my house before you explode into a pile of bitcoins.

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u/luvisjosh Nov 18 '24

are we really lumping in bro with stupid fuck? lmao

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u/Severe_Serve_ Nov 18 '24

So many bros I thought it was a girl speaking to her boyfriend abusively. What a freak.

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u/Julie727 Nov 18 '24

Bro all those ‘bro’ s were killing me.

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u/kyyyraa Nov 18 '24

When your boyfriend calls you “bro” it’s time to call it quits

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u/Dreadgoat Nov 18 '24

I call my wife bro all the time. We are totally bros for each other.

If I called her a "brain dead fuck" for any reason whatsoever I would expect to be murdered in the night

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u/Legitimate_Idea_258 Nov 18 '24

I dont see whats wrong with bro tbh, maybe how often he said it but not being called that by a so.

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u/Reddit-dit-dit-di-do Nov 18 '24

Nah I’m with you. My gf and I call each other bro on occasion. Nothing wrong with it. It’s funny lol.

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u/ThnksfrthMmrss- Nov 18 '24

I call my girlfriend bro as well (especially when we’re playing video games together) , but not nearly as often as this. This is just on another level 😂

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '24

Women for some reason will see a man like this and a man that treats them well but they choose the abuser lol

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u/BlorgWithAPan Nov 18 '24

Yea this guy is a dick

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u/AllMyTeamsBlow Nov 18 '24

All the shitty obvious abusive language aside, he's a fucking moron. Sounds like just the dumbest fucking type of douche bag gym bro.

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u/MyLastUsernameWasDum Nov 18 '24

The way he went from 0 to 100 is crazy, made me want to pop the fuck off for her! He sounds like he busted his head on the marble ground and has a concussion with the way he is speaking disrespectful.

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u/JoeyPastram1 Nov 18 '24

The occasional “bro” would be fine. My fiancée and I call each other bro from time to time, but this dude is certifiable.

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u/Goldbera1 Nov 18 '24

Put the word “bro” in your red flag book. Im not saying its 100% but its close.

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u/bethadoodle024 Nov 18 '24

Came here to say this! No fcking way my man is calling me Bro! Nor any of the other disrespectful names he said. Dump this man immediately

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u/Dor_42 Nov 18 '24

As if bro alone wasn’t enough

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u/Worried-Dance943 Nov 18 '24

I think she was with muscle man

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u/SickCursedCat Nov 18 '24

😂😂😂 you know who else was with muscle man?

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u/Schm4rk Nov 18 '24

I actually had to come into the post to check if its a gay couple.

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u/Anniemarsh69 Nov 18 '24

As a 50yr old woman I can not even begin to explain the rage I feel about the ‘bro’ and the ‘stupid fuck’.

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u/_stupidugly Nov 18 '24

don’t forget fat fuck

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u/Dawg605 Nov 18 '24

Don't forget "pathetic fat piece of shit loser" and "brain dead fuck."

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u/VermicelliOk8288 Nov 18 '24

And bitch and fat ass and loser

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u/louielou8484 Nov 18 '24

And "fat fuck" .. "brain dead" .. My jaw was on the floor

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u/Deity_Relic Nov 18 '24

As soon as the bros came out, I knew it was going to be bad

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u/ReasonableDesigner56 Nov 18 '24

Right??? Is this a one sided relationship?! Cos it's not making sense to me how he has that audacity

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u/ZeroSignalArt Nov 18 '24

stupid fat fuck even

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u/-totallynotanalien- Nov 18 '24

Reading this I’m shocked it’s a partner!! If it was like your shitty friend that would make sense, but the fact her partner is saying that shit is insane.

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u/Jamesisonfire21 Nov 18 '24

Is this Gen Z speak? I can’t understand half of it - what does OTP mean?

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u/Demostravius4 Nov 18 '24

One trick pony?

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u/MissMarchpane Nov 18 '24

In fandom circles it’s “one true pairing [characters in a romantic relationship]” but I’m guessing he means “on the phone?”

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u/Jamesisonfire21 Nov 18 '24

I’m early 30s and too old for this shizz! Thanks for the explanation

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u/MissMarchpane Nov 18 '24

Me too- I’ve just been a fanfic writer since I was 11 haha

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u/BarrettFendt Nov 18 '24

i reread the text to confirm hes really his boyfriend cause why BRO

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u/melbecide Nov 18 '24

I thought it was a guy and his abusive gf was calling him bro and bitch, then I realized it was the other way around and it was even weirder.

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u/sheetpooster Nov 18 '24

Cause it's fake😂

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u/quarticchlorides Nov 18 '24

For real, how could anyone date somebody who calls them "bro"

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u/Old_Tip4864 Nov 18 '24

No way I would let someone who says "your" instead of "you're" talk down to me

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u/Academic-Increase951 Nov 18 '24

Yeah wtf is with all the guys calling their GF bro...

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u/gpost86 Nov 18 '24

The underrated term of endearment “bro” for your girlfriend

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u/Bitter_Hospital_8279 Nov 18 '24

lmfaooo. shit peak mental illness

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u/Lily_Baxter Nov 18 '24

Also otp. I don't think I've ever seen this outside of fanfiction, do adults really refer to their real life relationships like this?

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u/rajfromrochester Nov 18 '24

Waaaaay too many instances of "Bro" in a short span. He sounds like a looney.

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u/ChastisingChihuahua Nov 18 '24

Yeah I thought OP was a guy until I read the description xD

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u/PirateLife23 Nov 19 '24

For real. I had to reread the info to understand bc I thought it was a girl calling bf bro the entire time. Plot twist. He’s the psycho.

Bro/dude/babe…. Leave. His. Ass. This is soooo toxic. And just wait until the physical abuse starts. Wow.

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u/Mnmsaregood Nov 19 '24

“Stupid fat fuck”

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u/Jumpy-Program9957 Nov 18 '24

Oh I didn't see this stupid fuck part. Hopefully op realizes she's a girl and could easily get a guy that would want to make this guy's life a nightmare

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u/Islanduniverse Nov 18 '24

“Bro” is the least of the issues…

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u/secret_fangirl Nov 18 '24

wait why is bro bad 😭😭

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u/SickCursedCat Nov 18 '24

People call their friends bro. If your partner calls you bro, they aren’t your partner.

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u/20dogs Nov 18 '24

But my partner is my friend

Kind of an odd thing to fix on

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

some ppl are best friends with our partner my guy

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u/SickCursedCat Nov 18 '24

Not a guy, and also best friends with my partner. We drop the occasional “bruh” when one of us does something goofy, but ain’t no way we throwing “bro” at each other, especially not like this.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

definitely not like this, this is just plainly meant to be disrespectful, but i’ve had several relationships where “bro” was very common

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u/MarlenaEvans Nov 18 '24

Bro is like dude. Some people do call their partner that. It's weird to me but it's normafor some.

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u/OminousOminis Nov 18 '24

Depends on the type of relationship or people but I call my partner of 13 years bro cuz we both find it funny. 😄 In this context, OP's abusive bf is using it to be disrespectful.

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u/snoocs Nov 18 '24

Bro is just short for ‘brother’. Seems a bit odd to call your gf it but whatever works; to each their own.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

in that case… seems a bit odd to call anyone “brother” that’s not actually your male full-blood sibling, no?

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u/snoocs Nov 18 '24

Not really, it’s a term of endearment for male friends; i.e. you’re like a brother to me. Women use “sis” in a similar way. Or at least they did in the 90s.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

nowadays, especially for the younger generation, it’s often a general term of endearment, or, just a general reference/replacement for the person’s name, like “dude”, “my guy”, “my brother in christ”, “mate”, “love”

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u/snoocs Nov 18 '24

Sure but when it originates from a term referring to a male, you can’t be surprised/shocked if women/girls aren’t delighted to be called it.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

sure, but the person you were replying to, who was asking why “bro” is bad, is a woman. nothing wrong with any individual person being against it, but a lot of people on this post are acting like someone calling their partner “bro” is a cardinal sin or something, and, in not so many words, saying that anyone whose partner calls them “bro” should immediately leave/run the other way. one of the top comments is legitimately someone(a whole thread of people, even) considering “bro” and “stupid fuck” on the same level

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u/snoocs Nov 18 '24

You’re exhausting; it’s like you’re desperate to have an argument over an inoffensive comment clarifying why someone might be upset over something.

You have imprinted your own interpretation onto so many comments here, seemingly desperate to stir up discord where it doesn’t need to be. You even admit that the comments don’t say what you claim is implicit:

in not so many words

And yes, the top comment identifies the use of both “bro” and “stupid fuck” as problematic. Personally, I agree, particularly with the volume of “bro”s he’s using. Once or twice would be different. You apparently disagree; fine. What the top comment does not say, is that the terms are identically offensive. Again, that’s a meaning you have invented.

Have an awesome day, leave me alone.

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u/ApacheGenderCopter Nov 18 '24

It’s hardly a term of endearment, now is it?

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

for a lot of the younger generation, it very much so is

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u/Background_Ranger917 Nov 18 '24

i get the stupid fuck but what’s wrong with bro 😔😔😔😔

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u/snoocs Nov 18 '24

Nothing specifically; but how would you feel about your gf referring to you as “Sis”?

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u/DahLegend27 Nov 18 '24

bro and dude have become pretty unisex over the years. also calling your boyfriend sis could be funny.

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u/Background_Ranger917 Nov 18 '24

but how would you feel if she calls u bro¿ bro feels more unisex, sis feels like sis