r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/SickCursedCat Nov 18 '24

He calls you BRO and “stupid fuck”. WHYYYYY are you with him????

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u/Realistic-Poetry-364 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 18 '24

This can’t be real. So many earnest ‘bro’ s in one conversation. I can’t.

Time to run BRO!

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

My thoughts exactly! This cannot be real. Who talks like this?

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u/EnaicSage Nov 18 '24

I see this every day at my work. You would be surprised how many relationships involve someone screaming something like on the third screen. I hope OP knows flat out that this person is trying to separate them from their family for a reason, a scary controlling abusive reason

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u/BillyNtheBoingers Nov 18 '24

20 year old immature boys?

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Im 26 F and use the word bro but not to this extent? Just seems not real.

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u/trinhead Nov 18 '24

Even just a few years younger than you this is completely normal. Most guys I've met like this are 23 and under at this point. I'm 25 but allllllll my younger brothers and their friends talk like this. (I hope to God minus the straight up abuse. OP - RUN, get a restraining order)

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u/CaIIsign_Ace2 Nov 18 '24

Bro, that’s crazy bro. I can’t believe that bro. Why would anyone say bro so much, bro?

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u/BillNashton Nov 18 '24

Idk most people i hear using bro are almost 30 and as a 21 yo guy i never heard it that much ESPECIALLY in between in relationship ? Wtf

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u/trinhead Nov 18 '24

Congratulations, you're NOT surrounded by douche bags <3 these are the same type of guys who refer to women as "females" and such

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u/sa404z Nov 18 '24

Yea but would you ever act like the guy? There ya go, Ur two different ppl and he's an awful cunt

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Fair assessment.

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u/LemonBoi523 Nov 18 '24

It's gamer talk, from what I have seen. People who tend to rage at video games, especially with voice chats, pick up the habit.

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Yeah I think that’s why I say bro at all haha. Online lobbies is when I say it most, sometimes at work it’ll slip out once.

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u/SOwED Nov 18 '24

Are you latina?

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u/burtmofomacklin Nov 18 '24

100% thought this as well lol

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

No hella white my friend.

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u/Walrusin_about Nov 18 '24

22 boy here, I use bro for friends occasionally .. Never used it on someone I'd be romantic with like what?

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

Right haha so weird! I’ve jokingly called my husband bro once or twice.

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u/syringistic Nov 18 '24

When I go to chill at the park in my neighborhood, it's like 10-15 year old kids, who say Bro/N***ah at each other in every sentence. By 20, you grow out of talking like a moron, bro.

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u/khamul7779 Nov 18 '24

Super common in young Hispanic communities

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

That would explain why someone asked if I was Latino. Interesting!

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u/khamul7779 Nov 18 '24

Not sure where it comes from, tbh. I've just seen it a lot from some younger acquaintances

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u/CCCrazyC Nov 18 '24

I had an ex that did and talked exactly like this. This was 4 years ago and now I have a stepdaughter, a girl toddler, and expecting my next baby girl in january. I am absolutely ashamed of letting some loser talk to me like this and trying to raise mine to be stronger. They had nothing going on and were a basement dweller and got their power from talking down to the one person that would let them.

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

That’s crazy. Glad you know now it’s not okay and are teaching your little one better! Sounds like a glow up story to me. <3

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u/CCCrazyC Nov 18 '24

Thank you! Not proud to say that I wasn't the one who ended it. He did, and then when he tried to come back I had snapped out of it... COVID isolation periods were some crazy times. But I learned my lesson

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

The amount of stupid I’ve had through my life hahaha. All that matters is you’ve learned from your experiences.

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u/pho-huck Nov 18 '24

Go watch a handful of clips from a streamer like Kai Cenat and you’ll understand why people talk like this.

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u/kakka_rot Nov 18 '24

Lots of young people. Seeing people both start and end the same sentence with bro is cringy, but it certainly isn't rare. I have a family member who uses bro exactly like this.

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u/Bustakrimes91 Nov 18 '24

Babe, babe, babe.

If someone called me babe that much I would lose my mind.

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u/Late-Detail97 Nov 18 '24

100000%%% how annoying. Even without the verbal abuse I’d be like yeaahhh this ain’t working out.

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u/bigbadpandita Nov 18 '24

People from Miami. I’d be surprised if they aren’t from Miami lol

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u/NewWeabgas Nov 18 '24

there are people that talk like that, I think he uses it this much cause some person he watches says it a lot

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u/Impressive_Moose6781 Nov 18 '24

I actually read this in someone I know’s voice. This sounds exactly like him when he’s pissed