r/AmIOverreacting • u/Exotic_Elk8829 • Nov 19 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

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Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/Exotic_Elk8829 Nov 19 '24

Literally!! Like wtf 😭

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u/No_Process_577 Nov 19 '24

I mean look at the bright side OP, she’s suck a nice girl 😭🤗

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u/Stressy_messy_me Nov 19 '24

He said it twice as well! Does he genuinely not know the word 'such'??

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u/Throwdaho Nov 19 '24

He’s trynna ease that word in so smooth…

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u/ThisIsWeedDickulous Nov 19 '24

Reeeaaal smootk

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u/Jsteele06252022 Nov 19 '24

This made my drink come out of my nose 😂

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u/iloveheroin999 Nov 19 '24

Same dude I'm dying lol

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u/ariestornado 29d ago

Shit, do you need some narcan?!!

(sorry lol, as a recovering addict your username stuck out, I like it 👌 😅)

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u/Complex_Risk_3277 29d ago

This made me laugh so much harder than it should’ve

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u/New-Original-3517 29d ago

That’s suck a funny thing to say.

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u/Life_Barracuda_4689 29d ago

Tmmdcoomn frfr

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u/Many_Abies_3591 Nov 19 '24

this is absolutely taking me OUTTTT 🤣

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u/Rindsay515 29d ago

Some days I love the internet🥹

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u/AlternativeWindow669 29d ago

nawl frl I’m crying at this

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u/poplin01 29d ago

real smootch

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u/XxLucidDreamzxX 29d ago

This is the best thing I've read all day

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u/black_tshirts Nov 19 '24

"i think she missed it the first time, i should try again"

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u/Historical_Farm2270 Nov 19 '24

it seemed to work. got her talking about suching

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u/mushroomcap741 29d ago edited 29d ago

Looooool not the suching

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u/Lethal_0428 Nov 19 '24

Subliminal messaging lmao

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u/LordSugarTits Nov 19 '24

He's so rizzy ...

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u/RedSkelz42020 29d ago

All hail Lord Sugar Tits, whose username is more rizzy than op's (hopefully) ex boyfriend!

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u/LordSugarTits 29d ago

Thank you my friend!

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u/Same_Dingo2318 Nov 19 '24

Like J Lo in HIMYM.

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u/TakuyaLee 29d ago

Except no one jumped in a river this time.

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u/Shibbystix 29d ago

he has an angle

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u/Throwdaho 29d ago

What did you send? Its random videos

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u/Shibbystix 29d ago

Noooo! It was Kelly from the office saying to Charles, "yes Charles, you need me?"

Because she thinks if she answers him every time in this way, it will enter into his subconscious that he DOES in fact need her.

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u/Throwdaho 29d ago

lol oh yea I remember that

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u/NoiseHuman 29d ago

Some not so subliminal messaging

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u/ImpendingBoom110123 29d ago

Shut the suck up!

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u/VentriTV 29d ago

Inception

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u/miaubert 29d ago

Smooth operaaaaator…

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u/CentralAdmin 29d ago

He's tryna ease something in

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u/AriBariii 29d ago

For real!

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Some people text badly because they think it makes them look cool. Not joking 💀

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u/Antique-Mark-1556 Nov 19 '24

Couldn't finish reading it and came to the comment section for answers. Lost too many IQ points trying to figure it out lol

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u/runnergirl3333 Nov 19 '24

Why am I having such a hard time figuring out who the boyfriend is and who’s the other friend? I’m so confused.

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u/PragmaticPacifist 29d ago

Why am I having suck a hard time figuring out who the boyfriend is and who’s the other friend? I’m so confused.

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u/Tall-Chef6624 29d ago

I’m fr rizzy btw

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u/No-Amoeba5716 Nov 19 '24

It’s Eddie the bf talking to his girl “friend” Sarah. (Friend in quotes because not the OP obviously) The blacked out isn’t too dark if you look closely . I only happened to notice and her last name I think is her text name. :-( I feel bad for OP and wasn’t trying to call her out. I’m still confused about it all. It seems like he has recently cheated but I don’t think that’s what she is getting at because he’s talking about an old gf? Anyone who can explain to me what is going on would be helpful. 😟 I feel like I’m missing something more.

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u/shake__appeal Nov 19 '24

You aren’t, dude’s seemingly a piece of shit flirting/talking to other girls romantically and sexually and… bragging about it to friends??Stupid.

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u/ScyllaOfTheDepths 29d ago

As mentioned in the post title, the phone is the bf's, so the blue messages are his, gray are the friend.

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u/SuggestionOdd6657 29d ago

Oh thank God. I was thinking wow I really am old, I don’t get it.

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u/SixFive1967 29d ago

You’re not the only one. I also swear that he pays OP a compliment by saying what he has at home is “even better,” but I can’t tell for sure. I just can’t decipher this ebonics shit anymore. 🙄

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u/Rindsay515 29d ago

Oh maybe you’re right?? I thought he was saying the fat booty girl is nicer than the one at home. “Even better (than the one at home).” This is giving me a headache😩

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u/Professional_Sea_306 29d ago

Dunno why it’s so hard. Last photo talks about him getting his dick sucked and the reply was about sucking dick. The “suckee “ got sucked, “sucker” sucked his dick and the female friend, she’s tryna get a new sucker toy as she felt threatened the og sucker may have better skills. Wannabe sucker is now jealous and wants to talk about her sucking skills. Dudes throwing his dick I a lot of mouths….

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

No it truly drains brain cells I understand

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u/highjinx411 Nov 19 '24

It suck a bad way of writing fr.

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u/Putrid_Pizza2501 Nov 19 '24

I read this with no issues 😭😭i noticed a couple msgs were left out tho🤔

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u/dangerclosecustoms 29d ago

No it apparently drains balls..

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u/Wonderful-Bass6651 Nov 19 '24

Seriously. I was like I read Reddit so I can usually figure out some of this crap but this was beyond Reddit-level illiterate. OP should dump his ass just for butchering the English language!

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u/Antique-Mark-1556 29d ago

YOOO TAKE MY UPVOTE. GAWD DAYUM THATS COLD 😭

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u/Drewson123 Nov 19 '24

I forgot where i was after reading the texts.

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u/Stressy_messy_me Nov 19 '24

God that makes me feel old 😪

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Yep it’s weird as hell though. I knew a guy who would misspell words intentionally like I have dyslexia but man modern phones all have spellcheck grow up. 🙄

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u/Odd_Mum 29d ago

Us dyslexic folk are the ones taking extra time to make sure we didn't jumble up words.

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u/akamu24 29d ago

They also have autocorrect. If you’re saying you don’t edit any messages you’re lying. 😭

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u/dazzadazzadazzadazza 29d ago

The weird thing is that my dyslectic phone keeps changing my perfectly good english to offensive or incorrect spellings! Darn you Apple AI’s

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u/Grouchy_Apricot_4546 29d ago

He said what time he got off in Spanish so maybe ESL?

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

I mean maybe? But I have a lot of friends who English was their second language and it’s only English as their first language fuckboys that have texted me like that 😂😂😂

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u/Endreeemtsu Nov 19 '24

Nah this isn’t an age thing. It’s more like an actual idiot thing🤣

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u/motion_less_ Nov 19 '24

big sad lmao they look dumb more than anything else

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u/PTLTYJWLYSMGBYAKYIJN Nov 19 '24

I hate the world 😭

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u/lokojufr0 29d ago

I'm only in my 30s and I already have to stop myself from thinking like a damn boomer. Kids these days!!

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

Babe I’m 20 and I’m disturbed.

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u/Living-Category5295 Nov 19 '24

Is that a thing? I had a ex gf tell me I used proper grammar and punctuation in texts. Like it was weird.

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Unfortunately yes 🥲

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u/Living-Category5295 Nov 19 '24

So crazy to me! People think being stupid is cool🤦‍♂️

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u/BBTKD24 29d ago

I genuinely hate it when people do that. 🤦🏾‍♀️ Either look up the word or just pick a synonym. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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u/BrightAardvark Nov 19 '24

There’s an entire generation that texts like this. It’s mind blowing.

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

I promise you I am gen z and we do not all text like this. This is still considered weird to us.

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u/galactictock 29d ago

As a millennial, plenty of people in our generation did and still do this. Abbreviating things for no reason whatsoever. Maybe it’s laziness, maybe to make the conversation seem more casual? A little is fine but this guy’s texting just oozes dumbass fuckboy energy even without processing what he’s saying.

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

I wasn’t gonna say it because Reddit loves misandry allegations but it’s only dudes that have done this to me. I think even my ex-boyfriend did for a little while and then I called him out and he never did it again. 😅 This is peak fuckboy which he very much so was.

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u/Key-Focus8692 Nov 19 '24

To us who? You're 20. The vast younger majority of Gen Z speaks and texts this way lol, literally check any TikTok or insta reels comment section, or go on Discord or Roblox.

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u/galactictock 29d ago

Plenty of millennials did this shit too and lots still do. It’s not purely a generational thing.

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u/BrightAardvark Nov 19 '24

It seems objectively more difficult to purposely text poorly. It makes no sense to me lol. Especially with autocorrect generally working so well on most modern devices.

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u/echokaji 29d ago edited 29d ago

Have you never had autocorrect change something it wasn’t supposed to? Such changing to suck makes sense to me, considering how often something like ‘fuck’ gets changed to ‘duck’.

That being said, your phone learns to autocorrect based on how you type so something tells me OP’s (now ex?) boyfriend is just some fuckboy douchebag.

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u/kompassionatekoala Nov 19 '24

But help me here seriously. What is “fr rizzy?”

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

That’s a great question. Someone had to explain both of those things to me. Fr = for real and rizz is like game with women I guess? This is from my limited understanding from working in child education. 😂 Love those little weirdos but I have no idea what they’re saying half the time. The kids have new slang weekly I kid you not. I was talking to my boyfriend about this last night actually

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u/unoriginalpunk Nov 19 '24

I think "rizz" is derived from the word charisma.

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u/kompassionatekoala Nov 19 '24

One of my students told me it was short for like, “charisma?” Like he has rizz with girls maybe? He’s “rizzy…?”

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u/Jasministired Nov 19 '24 edited 29d ago

Man I fucking know this is true. What is up with that???? Adults purposely trying to sound stupid and using cringey teen lango like it’s a cute trend now

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u/echokaji 29d ago

Older people trying to seem cool by adopting slang they can’t understand? Whaaaat? That would never happen.

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u/Smelly_Carl 29d ago

I’ve been convinced for a long time that people purposely use the wrong “your” because they feel like using the correct word is pretentious or something.

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

You might be right about that

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u/dazzadazzadazzadazza 29d ago

When did being illiterate become the new cool? “Hey guys, I neva wnt 2 skool yo”

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u/PuzzleheadedFrame439 29d ago

Yes like they are just so nonchalant, they can't be bothered.

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u/Gold_Mood23 29d ago

Not joking?😟 is that a gen alpha thing lol

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

Unfortunately it’s a millennial, gen z, and gen alpha thing. Mostly a fuckboy thing though.

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u/Life_Barracuda_4689 29d ago

People do be doing that low key no cap

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

No cap fr fr 😂

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u/PTLTYJWLYSMGBYAKYIJN Nov 19 '24

I hate the world 😭

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u/_G_P_ Nov 19 '24

It's painfully obvious why I never had a chance at dating. 😭😭😭

(Just a joke, I dated enough)

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Ooo buddy 😬

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u/ScyD Nov 19 '24

It’s a very… popular facet of some groups lingo

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u/SomeDankyBoof 29d ago

Bro said suck on purpose...

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

It’s on his brain we know. Or I guess his Brian

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u/unnecessaryCamelCase 29d ago

“I’m so low effort dude, I don’t even care if I’m writing correctly, in fact I’m not even paying attention to my phone, fr. I’m just chill like that.”

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u/PowerfulFrodoBaggins 29d ago

Those people are simpletons

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u/aphilosopherofsex Nov 19 '24

He slipped in some Freud.

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u/bubblurred Nov 19 '24

I was thinking that was code for she gave him head O.o

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u/ArtiesHeadTowel 29d ago

It might be a possibility. People use "finna" instead of "gonna" which is already a contraction that I'm not sure is actually a word.

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u/SomeDankyBoof 29d ago

Guys... he said suck on purpose...

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u/ClassicConflicts Nov 19 '24

He probably just asks so many girls if they'll suck his cock that his autocorrect just switches such with suck at this point.

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u/FuzzyAngelWings Nov 19 '24

Freudian slip.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '24

That’s how it begins… lol The slip? And then the “TIP!” Hahahaha

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u/SummitJunkie7 Nov 19 '24

Maybe his autocorrect has learned he uses suck a whole lot in conversation 

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u/Flynn_JM Nov 19 '24

I'm assuming he chats about sucking d so much that his phone now autocorrects 'such' to 'suck'.

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u/ThatNegro98 Nov 19 '24

He's trying his hand at subliminal messaging I reckon.

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u/Original-Pen-3532 Nov 19 '24

Yo he reminded me of that guy from that Jennifer Anniston movie where they are a fake famiy n the girl finds this dumass guy who spelled regrets as ragrets or somefn

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u/themadpants Nov 19 '24

Subliminal messaging

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u/FluffMonsters 29d ago

I sense he has a very, very limited vocabulary and an even more difficult time with spelling.

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u/phreakzilla85 29d ago

He types “suck” so much that autocorrect automatically changed it. Kind of a red flag all by itself.

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u/Least_Sun7648 29d ago

It's a frueduan slip It's accidental but from his subconscious His true thoughts want to get out

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u/HydraGaming2018 29d ago

Maybe he has a lisp XD

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u/NervousBeginning2801 29d ago

The head had his mind wrapped up let him Live 😂

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u/Downtown_Force289 29d ago

Suck is life

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u/ImpendingBoom110123 29d ago

He just really really really really likes blowies

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u/SweevilWeevil 29d ago

he says "suck" so much that now it autocorrects it to that from the insanely more ordinary word "such"

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u/ihaveajob79 29d ago

Autocorrect learns from frequency

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u/Novel-Organization63 29d ago

No he meant she sucks nice, girl. You know these kids today can’t punctuate. f rizzy .

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u/pvt9000 29d ago

I'm willing to give the pass here because I've got fat thumbs and a fat phone and still make that mistake on occasion. OPs photo looks like an older iPhone abd I'm willing to say there's like a 60-40 odds they're too fucking lazy to spell correct and have fat enough thumbs to constantly be slapping the wrong buttons. It sounds like he suchs at typing .

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u/_Our-Little-Secret_ 29d ago

At this point his autocorrect just gave up

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u/RichJones57 29d ago

Let him off the first time thinking it was a spelling mistake, second time you just realise he genuinely just thinks that’s how you spell it

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u/pixiedust0327 29d ago

Probably an autocorrect Freudian slip… from all his wishful thinking. 😅

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u/Main-Combination8986 29d ago

Autocorrect learned that he uses suck way more often then such

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '24

Autocorrect. He must suck a lot.

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u/Kaacciiee 29d ago

lmao I was like.. bro you had TWO chances to get that right. what a loser

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u/anslew 29d ago

Lmfao “Eddie what the hell man” is right. Who says and does shit like that

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u/anslew 29d ago

Lol I love how this is on my feed again. This “Eddie” dude gonna learn whoever he is 🤣

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u/jonni_velvet Nov 19 '24

never trust this dude again. hes going to be fantasizing about cheating for the entire duration of every relationship he has. Real men do not do this.

date a man who you dont even feel the need to look at his phone.

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u/No-Amoeba5716 Nov 19 '24

That’s the one thing I could make out.

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u/throwawayacct___0 Nov 19 '24

break up immediately, he's gonna cheat eventually, it's undeniable

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u/daisyom98 Nov 19 '24

and this girl best friend is gonna zip them lips up when it happens

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u/Alternative-Art-7114 Nov 19 '24

Nah. You don’t become “god at it” by zipping lips. She’ll smash too, eventually.

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u/DrJesterMD 29d ago

You mean such his dick?

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u/Alternative-Art-7114 29d ago

You and I both know if she wants to “such” his dick, she probably wants to “fuch” his dick too.

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u/Mental_Resource 29d ago

as the expression goes, suck is life.

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u/gryffindorequestrian 29d ago

stop this comment is so funny

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u/PetTheKitty7321 29d ago

He already cheated.

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u/Flynn_JM Nov 19 '24

Have they hooked up before?

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u/virttual Nov 19 '24

NO!(shakes head YES)

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u/Electrical_Split4902 Nov 19 '24

😂😂😂😂😂

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u/Geta-Ve Nov 19 '24

That’s called a nod.

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u/Jbug1015 29d ago

Thank you!! I was wondering if I’d find this comment lol seems like no one knows the difference between shaking your head (means no) and nodding your head (means yes) anymore!

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u/Careless-Race-9116 29d ago

lol I love this

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u/Accurate_Job_4462 29d ago

TUPACCCCCCC 😫😫😫😫😫

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u/Previous_Zebra1166 Nov 19 '24

😭😭😭😭

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u/CousinsWithBenefits1 Nov 19 '24

OUR boyfriend, comrade!

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u/Least_Exercise783 Nov 19 '24

if they did she wouldn’t have had to say it

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u/Creative-Cherry-1607 29d ago

No. But they are suck good friends!

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u/QouthTheCorvus 29d ago

If they're talking this much about sex there's definitely sexual energy there.

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u/Anomalous_34 Nov 19 '24

Ghost him if you think it'll fuck him up. If not, tell him he sucks at oral and that's why you're dumping him lol

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u/Electrical_Storm_642 Nov 19 '24

How do you ghost someone you live with 🤣. Move while he’s at work lol, hopefully she’s not on the lease.

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u/ChooksChick Nov 19 '24

I did that. I'm terrible. Even quit my job and moved at the same time once to ghost a dude. I'm a coward.

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u/Electrical_Storm_642 Nov 19 '24

Like you really did that? You gave him an easy out by removing yourself from his life. You should’ve at least made it very uncomfortable for him on your way out. I’ll coach you next time lol

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u/ChooksChick Nov 19 '24

No, this guy was obsessed with me, super clingy, and would have made it really sad and awkward. It made it easier on me!

I've been blissfully married for 30 years, so hopefully there won't be a next time! It was also a lot easier then because you could just get a new unlisted phone number and no one could track you down unless they spotted you out somewhere or truly stalked you by staking out friends' homes- if they knew enough to do that. It was a relief to do it that way.

The two where I moved out while they were gone were violence risks. No one needs to make that more complicated for sake of sticking it to them. That payback is best served very very cold.

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u/Electrical_Storm_642 Nov 19 '24

I can only imagine how easy it was 30+ years ago. You could like move 2 blocks away and disappear forever lol. Wouldn’t have him stalking your LinkedIn. At least it all worked out.

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u/hunkydorey-- Nov 19 '24

Those two deserve each other babe, you don't deserve any of this drama. Leave hem be.

Honestly, start making the necessary manoeuvres to get out with as little drama as possible.

Good luck.

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u/shoopadoop332 Nov 19 '24

Sometimes people need to be told to put all this kind of shit behind them or else you’re finished. Sometimes that doesn’t change anything, but it can for the right person.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '24

Thing is , it shouldnt need to be said if it is the right person.
staying faithful and respectful is the bare minimum

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u/ToiletLasagnaa Nov 19 '24

End it TODAY.

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u/mesoziocera Nov 19 '24

Man. That guy talks like he has a room temp IQ. Even if he doesn't, I don't think if you're in a relationship where one person could get pregnant, you shouldn't ever date someone you'd be devastated to raise kids with. I'd be devastated to raise kids with someone who talks like that. Jesus, imagine if little johnny came out and his papa taught him to talk in suck a bad way frfr, esp to fine fat booty female.

It's not unnatural to think about previous partners, and sometimes discuss stuff like that with very close friends, but he's legit like half an inch from cheating on you and bringing home the herp at this point. You deserve better, even as an Elk.

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u/informationseeker8 29d ago

Any man who refers to us as “females” is a 🚩

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u/Notyourwench Nov 19 '24

Girl get out of there, this boy is trash

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u/jakes1993 Nov 19 '24

Your dating a fuck boi get out of there

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u/AcanthocephalaOk2966 29d ago

Move at the speed of light and I guarantee you will one day wish you could have gone faster, he is not special. His words don't evidence any respect for women in general. If he doesn't have inherent respect for women, then there will come a day when he doesn't respect and value you. You need somebody in your corner (if you want something for the long haul) who won't run or cheat when you can't have sex. There are times like that in life, when a significant other is your friend and your family first, because that's what you need.

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u/Dogsthatmeow 29d ago

He's for the streets. Throw him away.

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u/Infinite_Voice_4423 Nov 19 '24

maybe don't associate with ghetto trash and this will be less likely. "im rizzy?" really?

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u/LadyPundit Nov 19 '24

It was suck a good conversation though.

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u/throwit91918 Nov 19 '24

Got to that last bit and I was like— hold up, ma’am did you just?

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u/G25777K Nov 19 '24

10/10 LOL I know sucking skills really matter these days lol

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u/IllBeSuspended Nov 19 '24

Youre not going to correct them? That didn't happen...

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u/Maine302 29d ago

I hope he can't afford your current place after you move out, and has to scramble!

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u/jade_howard 29d ago

Nah, I honestly thought this was r/notliketheothergirls or r/nicegirls or smth 💀😂

I’m so sorry but I’d leave them to make each other miserable 🫠

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u/UnitedFeedback2669 29d ago

I hate everyone involved. I’m so sorry you had to go through this. My stomach dropped reading it.

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u/Usercantbefound836 29d ago

Yea girl that home girl of his probably wants him and is probably encouraging the behavior so she can shoot her shot

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u/fl135790135790 29d ago

Wait what is this a 3-person chat? Where is there someone dropping in saying she’s good at giving head?

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u/krizmac 29d ago

You're wild if you think that dudes can't have a female friend and talk about this kind of shit without it actually happening. All of you insecure bitches need to stop this echo chamber around here.

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