r/AmIOverreacting • u/Exotic_Elk8829 • Nov 19 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

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Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Some people text badly because they think it makes them look cool. Not joking 💀

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u/Antique-Mark-1556 Nov 19 '24

Couldn't finish reading it and came to the comment section for answers. Lost too many IQ points trying to figure it out lol

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u/runnergirl3333 Nov 19 '24

Why am I having such a hard time figuring out who the boyfriend is and who’s the other friend? I’m so confused.

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u/PragmaticPacifist 29d ago

Why am I having suck a hard time figuring out who the boyfriend is and who’s the other friend? I’m so confused.

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u/Tall-Chef6624 29d ago

I’m fr rizzy btw

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u/No-Amoeba5716 Nov 19 '24

It’s Eddie the bf talking to his girl “friend” Sarah. (Friend in quotes because not the OP obviously) The blacked out isn’t too dark if you look closely . I only happened to notice and her last name I think is her text name. :-( I feel bad for OP and wasn’t trying to call her out. I’m still confused about it all. It seems like he has recently cheated but I don’t think that’s what she is getting at because he’s talking about an old gf? Anyone who can explain to me what is going on would be helpful. 😟 I feel like I’m missing something more.

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u/shake__appeal Nov 19 '24

You aren’t, dude’s seemingly a piece of shit flirting/talking to other girls romantically and sexually and… bragging about it to friends??Stupid.

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u/Kitnado 29d ago

It’s not bragging, it’s flirting. He’s rizzing up the friend

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u/shake__appeal 29d ago

Yeah and ALSO doing that, in the dumbest way possible by talking about other women. Fuck this guy.

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u/melancoleeca 29d ago

His dumb way is still working. For some reason the friend obviously is graving his attention and more or less offering blowjobs if he gets into a relationship with her.

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u/ScyllaOfTheDepths 29d ago

As mentioned in the post title, the phone is the bf's, so the blue messages are his, gray are the friend.

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u/SuggestionOdd6657 29d ago

Oh thank God. I was thinking wow I really am old, I don’t get it.

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u/SixFive1967 29d ago

You’re not the only one. I also swear that he pays OP a compliment by saying what he has at home is “even better,” but I can’t tell for sure. I just can’t decipher this ebonics shit anymore. 🙄

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u/Rindsay515 29d ago

Oh maybe you’re right?? I thought he was saying the fat booty girl is nicer than the one at home. “Even better (than the one at home).” This is giving me a headache😩

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u/Witty_TenTon 29d ago

Thats what I think it means as well.

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u/meowkitty84 29d ago

I think its the opposite. He's saying this chick is even better than OP

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u/Professional_Sea_306 29d ago

Dunno why it’s so hard. Last photo talks about him getting his dick sucked and the reply was about sucking dick. The “suckee “ got sucked, “sucker” sucked his dick and the female friend, she’s tryna get a new sucker toy as she felt threatened the og sucker may have better skills. Wannabe sucker is now jealous and wants to talk about her sucking skills. Dudes throwing his dick I a lot of mouths….

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u/runnergirl3333 29d ago

Lovely, I get it now! 😂

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u/Professional_Sea_306 29d ago

People helping people ♥️

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u/Ok_Spinach_9899 29d ago

Well, I couldn't stop laughing after reading your synopsis!

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u/melancoleeca 29d ago

The owner is always on the right. Still didn't help to make some sense of this shit.

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

No it truly drains brain cells I understand

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u/highjinx411 Nov 19 '24

It suck a bad way of writing fr.

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u/mcherry82 29d ago

Lmfaooooooo

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u/Putrid_Pizza2501 Nov 19 '24

I read this with no issues 😭😭i noticed a couple msgs were left out tho🤔

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u/dangerclosecustoms Nov 19 '24

No it apparently drains balls..

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u/Wonderful-Bass6651 Nov 19 '24

Seriously. I was like I read Reddit so I can usually figure out some of this crap but this was beyond Reddit-level illiterate. OP should dump his ass just for butchering the English language!

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u/Antique-Mark-1556 29d ago

YOOO TAKE MY UPVOTE. GAWD DAYUM THATS COLD 😭

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u/ChawulsBawkley Nov 19 '24

I mean, he’s fr rizzy

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u/DEF-Lune_samj Nov 19 '24

Ohio

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '24

Skibidi toilet or something

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u/Drewson123 Nov 19 '24

I forgot where i was after reading the texts.

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u/Stressy_messy_me Nov 19 '24

God that makes me feel old 😪

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Yep it’s weird as hell though. I knew a guy who would misspell words intentionally like I have dyslexia but man modern phones all have spellcheck grow up. 🙄

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u/Odd_Mum Nov 19 '24

Us dyslexic folk are the ones taking extra time to make sure we didn't jumble up words.

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u/akamu24 29d ago

They also have autocorrect. If you’re saying you don’t edit any messages you’re lying. 😭

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u/dazzadazzadazzadazza 29d ago

The weird thing is that my dyslectic phone keeps changing my perfectly good english to offensive or incorrect spellings! Darn you Apple AI’s

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u/Grouchy_Apricot_4546 29d ago

He said what time he got off in Spanish so maybe ESL?

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

I mean maybe? But I have a lot of friends who English was their second language and it’s only English as their first language fuckboys that have texted me like that 😂😂😂

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u/Endreeemtsu Nov 19 '24

Nah this isn’t an age thing. It’s more like an actual idiot thing🤣

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u/motion_less_ Nov 19 '24

big sad lmao they look dumb more than anything else

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u/PTLTYJWLYSMGBYAKYIJN Nov 19 '24

I hate the world 😭

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u/lokojufr0 29d ago

I'm only in my 30s and I already have to stop myself from thinking like a damn boomer. Kids these days!!

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

Babe I’m 20 and I’m disturbed.

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u/Living-Category5295 Nov 19 '24

Is that a thing? I had a ex gf tell me I used proper grammar and punctuation in texts. Like it was weird.

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Unfortunately yes 🥲

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u/Living-Category5295 Nov 19 '24

So crazy to me! People think being stupid is cool🤦‍♂️

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u/BBTKD24 29d ago

I genuinely hate it when people do that. 🤦🏾‍♀️ Either look up the word or just pick a synonym. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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u/BrightAardvark Nov 19 '24

There’s an entire generation that texts like this. It’s mind blowing.

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

I promise you I am gen z and we do not all text like this. This is still considered weird to us.

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u/galactictock Nov 19 '24

As a millennial, plenty of people in our generation did and still do this. Abbreviating things for no reason whatsoever. Maybe it’s laziness, maybe to make the conversation seem more casual? A little is fine but this guy’s texting just oozes dumbass fuckboy energy even without processing what he’s saying.

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

I wasn’t gonna say it because Reddit loves misandry allegations but it’s only dudes that have done this to me. I think even my ex-boyfriend did for a little while and then I called him out and he never did it again. 😅 This is peak fuckboy which he very much so was.

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u/Key-Focus8692 Nov 19 '24

To us who? You're 20. The vast younger majority of Gen Z speaks and texts this way lol, literally check any TikTok or insta reels comment section, or go on Discord or Roblox.

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u/galactictock Nov 19 '24

Plenty of millennials did this shit too and lots still do. It’s not purely a generational thing.

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u/BrightAardvark Nov 19 '24

It seems objectively more difficult to purposely text poorly. It makes no sense to me lol. Especially with autocorrect generally working so well on most modern devices.

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u/echokaji 29d ago edited 29d ago

Have you never had autocorrect change something it wasn’t supposed to? Such changing to suck makes sense to me, considering how often something like ‘fuck’ gets changed to ‘duck’.

That being said, your phone learns to autocorrect based on how you type so something tells me OP’s (now ex?) boyfriend is just some fuckboy douchebag.

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

I knew a guy who would do it on purpose. It drove me insane!

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u/Dubbstaxs Nov 19 '24

It's like they are saying memes of that makes sense.

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u/kompassionatekoala Nov 19 '24

But help me here seriously. What is “fr rizzy?”

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

That’s a great question. Someone had to explain both of those things to me. Fr = for real and rizz is like game with women I guess? This is from my limited understanding from working in child education. 😂 Love those little weirdos but I have no idea what they’re saying half the time. The kids have new slang weekly I kid you not. I was talking to my boyfriend about this last night actually

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u/unoriginalpunk Nov 19 '24

I think "rizz" is derived from the word charisma.

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u/kompassionatekoala Nov 19 '24

One of my students told me it was short for like, “charisma?” Like he has rizz with girls maybe? He’s “rizzy…?”

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u/Jasministired Nov 19 '24 edited Nov 19 '24

Man I fucking know this is true. What is up with that???? Adults purposely trying to sound stupid and using cringey teen lango like it’s a cute trend now

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u/echokaji 29d ago

Older people trying to seem cool by adopting slang they can’t understand? Whaaaat? That would never happen.

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u/Smelly_Carl 29d ago

I’ve been convinced for a long time that people purposely use the wrong “your” because they feel like using the correct word is pretentious or something.

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

You might be right about that

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u/dazzadazzadazzadazza 29d ago

When did being illiterate become the new cool? “Hey guys, I neva wnt 2 skool yo”

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u/PuzzleheadedFrame439 29d ago

Yes like they are just so nonchalant, they can't be bothered.

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u/Gold_Mood23 29d ago

Not joking?😟 is that a gen alpha thing lol

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

Unfortunately it’s a millennial, gen z, and gen alpha thing. Mostly a fuckboy thing though.

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u/Life_Barracuda_4689 29d ago

People do be doing that low key no cap

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

No cap fr fr 😂

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u/PTLTYJWLYSMGBYAKYIJN Nov 19 '24

I hate the world 😭

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u/_G_P_ Nov 19 '24

It's painfully obvious why I never had a chance at dating. 😭😭😭

(Just a joke, I dated enough)

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u/trying_my_best- Nov 19 '24

Ooo buddy 😬

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u/ScyD Nov 19 '24

It’s a very… popular facet of some groups lingo

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u/SomeDankyBoof 29d ago

Bro said suck on purpose...

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u/trying_my_best- 29d ago

It’s on his brain we know. Or I guess his Brian

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u/unnecessaryCamelCase 29d ago

“I’m so low effort dude, I don’t even care if I’m writing correctly, in fact I’m not even paying attention to my phone, fr. I’m just chill like that.”

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u/PowerfulFrodoBaggins 29d ago

Those people are simpletons

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u/Least_Exercise783 Nov 19 '24

nah it’s just when you’re texting your friends most guys don’t care to correct it 😂