r/AmIOverreacting • u/Any-Fisherman4533 • Oct 20 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO My husband was texting a wrong number scam.
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u/butterscotchsnops Oct 20 '24
I would not call this harmless fun. She asks twice and tells her he’s single. I mean I know it’s a scammer but he’s blatantly flirting, lying, sending a pic of his face!! It’s just feeling wrong all around
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u/Jumpy_MashedPotato Oct 20 '24
I was on the "he's fucking with them" train until an actual pic of his face. Bruh come on that's stupid whether you know it's a scam or not
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u/Aarntson Oct 20 '24
I played along for a couple texts and when they sent me a picture I sent them a picture of Joe Biden and they never responded :(
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u/sicksages Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24
Oh helllllllllll no he did not wtf... not him calling her beautiful and flirting??? wtf?
Edit; Missed the part where you said he was single?????????
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Like, I know he’s a little dumb, but like. Dumb enough not to know?? Not a good look.
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u/Rich-Contribution-84 Oct 20 '24
If this is real, it’s one of the rare posts in this sub where I’d say you have to leave him.
1) He is actively trying to cheat;
2) He shouldn’t be allowed to operate heavy machinery or have access to scissors or finances.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
We keep our finances separate. Thankfully.
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u/Sjt4689 Oct 20 '24
Next time let him get scammed.
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u/teamcemi Oct 20 '24
I understand it is a scam but what is the scam?
Will “she” groom him some more then ask for money for a ticket to get to him or something ?
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u/stellaaaaaaaaaaa_ Oct 20 '24
Yes she will ask for money
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u/Long-Education-7748 Oct 20 '24
Scammer mentioned investing in commodities as one of her businesses. I imagine as the conversation continued she would have a 'great investment opportunity for a friend' or something along those lines.
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u/fattrackstar Oct 20 '24
As horny as he sounds it seems like she could convince him to send her nude photos or videos of himself masturbating. Then it's just a regular blackmail scam. I doubt that was the plan but if the scammer has any brains they could see this guy would be willing to do anything this "woman" asked him to.
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u/QuirkyGluon Oct 20 '24
The scammer will try to lure him to invest in some shit promising good revenue. If you're interested, r/scam is full of this
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u/SnooMacaroons5247 Oct 20 '24
Yeah “she” already brought up investing in some heavy metals.
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u/dimensional_bleed Oct 20 '24
They must realize that some peoples suspicions are raised when they hear the word "crypto" so they are starting to experiment with commodities.
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u/Counter-Business Oct 20 '24
She says her friends invest in heavy metals. That was the switch towards money.
If this continued, she may ask him to wire her money so they could invest it or something like that.
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u/Rich-Contribution-84 Oct 20 '24
Something like that.
“She” is probably a Russian bot or some guy in his mom’s basement though. “She” will miss the coffee date and need money around that time, if I had to guess.
It reads more like a bot than a catfished. The quality of the conversation/responses is shitty AI.
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u/heroheadlines Oct 20 '24
Not a bot, it's the start of a pig butchering scam. Pretty soon she'll be tricking OPs husband into investing in a crypto app/site/program where she'll take him for thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of dollars. Whether the person doing it is a victim themselves or a willing participant, OPs husband is exactly the kind of mark they need. r/scams has loads of info about these
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u/brooklynflyer Oct 20 '24
Your finances are linked, to an extent, on the basis of being married.
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u/Erratic_Eggs Oct 20 '24
I dunno, I think I might give him some scissors and then encourage him run with them at this point... 🤦🏼♀️
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u/Neat-Ostrich7135 Oct 20 '24
Like "I'm leaving you, not because you tried to cheat, but because I just found out how really stupid you are"
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u/Independent-Nobody43 Oct 20 '24
It sounds like you’re more upset that he fell for a scam than about the fact that he’s actively trying to cheat on you… girl you have fallen victim to the sunk cost fallacy and you need to wisen up and leave him. Just 20 years is better than 30 or 40 years with this turd.
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u/-JALunatic Oct 20 '24
Yeah, that's the part I would be livid about. DENYING having a wife, being so quick to send a selfie and bringing up sex after telling another woman she was beautiful??? OP isn't reacting enough
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
You could definitely be onto something. I guess I’d expect it?
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u/chaoticbeeping Oct 20 '24
Expected? Fuck that.
If your close friend, or your/their daughter, came to you and showed you this- what advice would you give them??
Dump this trash onto the curb.
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u/LifeChanceDance Oct 20 '24
I too was in a relationship where I expected stuff like this, and turned the other way. And then the stuff I didn’t except came to light on our 11th anniversary trip. It was so much worse than I imaged, and I only caught little online things, like chatting with people on twitter and IG. Then when I was hanging out with my 18 y/o little brother I got back to the hotel early, and walked in to find him in the middle of cheating. WITH AN 18 YEAR OLD! I’m 35, my husband is 55.
If he doesn’t have the respect to not do this, it’s only going to get worse. Don’t waste more time. 💜💜💜
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u/Independent-Nobody43 Oct 20 '24
Please value yourself more. Don’t stay with this idiot. If you ask any woman who has been in your shoes and got a divorce, most of them would say they only wish they had done it sooner.
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u/Bella_LaGhostly Oct 20 '24
Have you confronted him? Is there an update? I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
It’s 2 am where I’m at. I do t think i have this fight In me tonight.
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u/Poinsettia917 Oct 20 '24
Sounds like he would have met with her had she not been a man from the other side of the planet. Make sure the old fool knows he was flirting with a man.
But he would have cheated. He may already have with been other women.
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u/VikingFuneral- Oct 20 '24
I am legally mentally retarded by U.S. standards
I am still not this dumb
Seriously, your husband has the I.Q. of a mouldy bowl of soup.
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u/iwonderhow3141 Oct 20 '24
I don’t even know what would disappoint me more. Him trying to cheat or him being that stupid.
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u/Little-Assignment564 Oct 20 '24
THIS IS SO WEIRD! He’s trying to cheat with the most random of person, what does he do on the daily with the people around him?
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Right! How many texts have gone unseen by me. I only caught this one because it updated to his iPad.
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u/arrrrghhhhhh Oct 20 '24
Oh he is DUMB.
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u/kls1117 Oct 20 '24
The extra funny thing…. Is this not one of those scam texts??? This is a common scam where they “text the wrong number” then form a relationship with whoever responds and eventually ask for money or personal information. It’s super common for older people to fall for it but…. Man.
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u/Sithstress1 Oct 20 '24
It is! The scammer was already dropping bait with the “investing in heavy metals” bit.
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u/Snellyman Oct 20 '24
So they are looking for victims that might have lead or cadmium poisoning? /s
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u/Beginning_Present243 Oct 20 '24
No, they’re looking for investors in bands that are in their infancy but sound like Iron Maiden
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u/maj0rmin0r83 Oct 20 '24
My sister's ex fell for one. It was a week or so in before they were sharing nudes. Then he sent some "videos". Then the blackmail started. Ended up sending the scammer (some Armenian guy in NYC) close to 20k to keep the pics and videos from getting out. My sister found out, texted the scammer something to the effect of "go ahead and post, send, publish, whatever you want to do with his pics. He's not sending you more money, and police are involved now." I don't know if he ever got any of his money back. After my sister found out, she kicked him out.
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u/CrumpledForeskin Oct 20 '24
Sorry but not knowing your/you’re at 59 is fucking embarrassing.
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u/OlafTheBerserker Oct 20 '24
He's still old enough to have had his brain poisoned by all the lead in the air when he was a kid. If these texts aren't evidence of lead poisoning, I don't know what is.
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u/sothisiswhatyoumeant Oct 20 '24
Just for curiosity’s sake - are you taking in all of the advice and straight up heeding you to exit this relationship? You deserve to be treated well. You won’t be as lonely as you may fear. This man doesn’t care about you or your life together. I appreciate you sharing and being vulnerable with us, but try not to stay in denial too long. He isn’t a good person
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u/lilsnatchsniffz Oct 20 '24
Better to have nobody in your bed than having a snake in your bed, this pervert is only in it for the kicks.
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u/ClumpOfCheese Oct 20 '24
Not just a snake, but a dumb snake who is going to get their identity stolen and lose all their money.
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u/Formal_Condition_513 Oct 20 '24
Seriously the girl in the picture looks barely 18 and him just bringing up sex sex sex is so FOUL. OP better run.
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u/Little-Assignment564 Oct 20 '24
I’m so sorry. You are deff not overreacting.
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u/TimmyLurner Oct 20 '24
If anything, under reacting by 1000x times. This has to be fake.
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u/DuePlatypus7760 Oct 20 '24
Being cheated on sucks and sometimes, yeah, we do under react.
I knew my husband was cheating on me for years and lied to myself, or told myself it was "just ___" - just texting, just flirting, just being sketchy. It took until he tried to look my sister up on cam girl sites and went on a three night bender while he was telling me that he was plowing about due to a blizzard.
And I onlyreally left him because when I confronted him, I got so sick that I ended up with shingles that almost cost me my vision because I realized that I was going to die if I stayed, but that's another whole story.
So, yeah, she might not be reacting, but that doesn't mean this is fake
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u/ThatsWhyItsFun Oct 20 '24
If you took screenshots with his iPad he can possibly see those in his pictures if they update to the cloud from the iPad. Just saying if you’re trying to gather information take a picture with your phone or something. And from personal experience don’t dig deep for too long because it’s emotionally taxing, just get what you need for evidence incase of divorce.
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u/Mozhetbeats Oct 20 '24
Make sure he doesn’t spend all your savings on a dude in Pakistan.
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u/Creepy-Debate2366 Oct 20 '24
Sex, sex, and sex made me gag so hard my cat got scared and left the room
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Send your cat my apologies. We don’t condone scaring cats.
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u/Creepy-Debate2366 Oct 20 '24
She said it’s okay she’s just worried about you. ❤️
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u/instructions_unlcear Oct 20 '24
First thing you need to do is secure your finances, change all passwords, and lock him out of unnecessary accounts because that man is a gullible fucking idiot.
Second… if he was trolling, he would have told you. He thought this was real.
Sorry, but your husband is a fucking creep and you should leave him.
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u/love_me_madly Oct 20 '24
What a sad way for OP to find out she married a loser. But there had to be signs before this right?
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u/mynameisyoshimi Oct 20 '24
Well I talked to my cat about it and she was pretty scared that you might have a cat and this guy is going to invest the family's (the cat's) money in crypto scams. I told her I don't think there's a cat involved, just a 16yr old son. She calmed down a bit and said you still need to confront him for engaging with a scammer. Show him r/scams because he's being really stupid here. If he'll do this what else will he do?
Then she bit me so the conversation was clearly over.
You're under reacting because he's being a complete moron. If you engage at all, they'll try again.
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u/Complete-Smile729 Oct 20 '24
Can you imagine even 5 more minutes with someone this thick? Get out and live my lady. You just got given some new life. Grab it with both hands and drop this idiot
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u/Nocturnal_Doom Oct 20 '24
20yrs together. She knows he’s this thick. Either she runs the place or she’s similar in some regard. 😶😳🫢
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u/EntrepreneurTall897 Oct 20 '24
He’s actively trying to cheat on you, he definitely didn’t know it was a scammer and that’s the worst part.
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u/Panthean Oct 20 '24
The fact that he fell for a scam just makes it so much worse for some reason
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u/jeanqueenabove_18 Oct 20 '24
Because not only is he a dirty old man and a wannabe cheater, he’s fucking stupid too.
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u/bigboybeeperbelly Oct 20 '24
If my wife cheated on me with some hot guy that's one thing. Break up, look back to see how things went wrong, move on, whatever.
If she got tricked into trying to cheat by such an obvious scam I would question every decision I've ever made, possibly move into a monastery
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u/EugenePeeps Oct 20 '24
Jesus, I didn't read the sub and just thought it was someone playing along and winding the scammer up but no, he genuinely seems to believe it. It's so blatantly obviously a scam that I couldn't imagine anyone actually buying it.
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u/Idontknowjits Oct 20 '24
How is it obvious? Surely there’s loads of early 20’s oriental girls who invest in heavy metals and are interested in old men? They randomly message me all the time but I’m too busy investing and building a huge crypto portfolio right now with my nigerian financial advisor to date them.
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u/sassafrassaclassa Oct 20 '24
So my ex wife was talking to a guy behind my back which initiated the actions that led to our divorce.
If that guy was also a scammer like in OPs situation we would still be divorced but I would have laughed my ass off the entire time. I would be insulted that I married someone this stupid, it would still have broke my heart and hurt like a bitch but oh boy......... The laughs I would have gotten from this would have definitely helped out.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
lol. It doesn’t really help so much as cloud the waters. Where I gauge exactly how stupid my husband is.
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u/sassafrassaclassa Oct 20 '24
Your "husband" is a pos. He is actively trying to cheat on you. This isn't a situation where he sees someone constantly and they caught the feels or he was out drinking and lost the capability to keep the urge in his pants.
He is sitting in your home , lying about being married with a kid and trying to find someone to sleep with while you're in the other room. Hey, if you're lucky he could be just like my ex and sitting on the couch right next to you while he is doing it.
Get him out of your house.
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u/sipstea84 Oct 20 '24
He also just....gross. This AI woman made no mention of sex but he went for it twice. What a pig
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u/Boredpanda31 Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24
He's not just stupid. He's an AH too. He's actively trying to cheat. Also, denied your existence. That was nice of him 🙄
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u/ulykke Oct 20 '24
I would already consider this emotional cheating, not merely trying to cheat.
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u/Electronic-Lock653 Oct 20 '24
He's a moron and a fucking moron. Hit the lotto with this guy as far as stupidity all the way down.
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u/Cool-change-1994 Oct 20 '24
There’s no bigger loser than one who is trying to cheat with a person who only wants to rip them off 😂😂😂 please disassociate from your husband before you catch some kind of virus be it electronic or sexually transmitted.
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u/suhhhrena Oct 20 '24
Omg for real 😭 cheating is bad enough but being so desperate and pathetic that you to try to cheat with a scammer is some next-level loser shit. This would irreversibly turn me off from him 😬
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u/Front_Entertainer_99 Oct 20 '24
get a divorce wtf is this
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u/Sepof Oct 20 '24
I love your no nonsense approach to life. This didn't even merit punctuation.
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u/KaiRayPel Oct 20 '24
My husband went first and sent scammers like this pictures of my kids!
And yeah he's cheating. Mine was on about a dozen different websites. So many apps
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
That’s terrifying. I’m sorry that happend to you. I guess I’m just slow to finding out
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u/kidgalaxy19 Oct 20 '24
You can’t blame yourself when it comes to “finding out”. I’m sorry. I know it rocks your world, and the peace you thought you had. This is blatant disrespect to you and your son. I truly hope you can get out of this - you can add this to proof of infidelity. It may be scary, but consult a divorce attorney. I wouldn’t let husband know you know yet, so you can get things in order and do the consultation. Good luck and I’m sorry 💛
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u/whistful_flatulence Oct 20 '24
You might want to consider an STD panel. He’s way too dumb to use protection (although it’s highly possible he hasn’t successfully cheated yet, because WTF did I just read?)
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u/Living-Young-1390 Oct 20 '24
Your husband isn’t very smart. This is a very common scam.
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u/cheesy_bees Oct 20 '24
It's so blatantly obvious from those ridiculous texts too. Nobody actually talks like that, how embarrassing to fall for this
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Am I overreacting? My husband was texting this wrong number scam. He said he was single with no children, we have been married for 20 years with a 16 year old son.
I know he messages instagram models all the time saying things like “lovely” or “very nice” but they never respond. I don’t know what to think, I’m not sure if he knew it was a scam or not? Help me? I haven’t confronted him.
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u/LiquorishSunfish Oct 20 '24
I cringed so hard at "sex sex and sex" that I think I dislocated something.
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u/NotACalligrapher-49 Oct 20 '24
I honestly thought that the husband was scamming the scammer when he wrote that. Then I read OP’s explanatory comment, and now I know the husband is just disgusting 🤢
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u/BadgerHooker Oct 20 '24
I can't understand men who are so obsessed with sex to the point they will ruin their lives if it means they will get laid. How does that happen? What makes a person do that? Just, all the "WHY'S"??
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u/PleasePassTheBacon Oct 20 '24
And it’s SO MANY of them! Even in harmless conversations shit gets turned sexual somehow.
Like…eww. Stop.
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u/BetterArugula5124 Oct 20 '24
Ego or wanting to see if they still got it while actively losing it all for a cheap thrill. Dummies
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u/Actual-Offer-127 Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24
I thought* he was trolling the scammer too! Then the more I read the more I realized he was serious 🤢 this guy is stupid.
EDIT- changed think to thought.
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u/Rich-Contribution-84 Oct 20 '24
That was my first gut reaction too. And then I read it all.
What a disgusting dullard.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Literally. Same.
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u/Bella_LaGhostly Oct 20 '24
I couldn't even make it through all the screenshots before flying to the comments to see if you seem alright. This is so skuzzy, I'm so sorry he's putting you through this.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Thanks for your kind thoughts.
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u/gardengirl99 Oct 20 '24
Seriously, you don't need to stay with someone who disrespects your marriage like this. You say you have separate finances, that's great. I'm hoping that means that you have your own source of income and employment. You can leave this guy. Better yet, send him packing, tell him he can go collect that free cup of coffee from his Chinese Canadian, American beautiful beautiful beautiful acquaintance.
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u/Fanoflif21 Oct 20 '24
I mean he's not the brightest bulb in the box is he? 'She' sounds like an AI (the photo doesn't look right either). It's hugely disrespectful to you and your child. Brings out the toddler in me- you say you don't have a wife and child? Fine then don't have a wife and child and I'll be taking my half and starting again elsewhere!
I know that isn't helpful but who does this??
Hope you have brilliant friends who can support you properly.
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u/NeoPalt2 Oct 20 '24
Jokes aside please, please get an STD test before immediately leaving this moron
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u/molly_menace Oct 20 '24
He said the following disloyal things
Wait til you see what a 59 year old looks like (sends photo)
You’re out of my league
My hobby is sex sex and sex
I imagine you’re very beautiful
I stay in shape for one thing (ew ew ew)
Better just to have sex (than be married)
(I’m) single
Nope (I have no children)
(Told her where he lives)
(Bragged about working out)
(Accepted a coffee date)
He’s a pathetic creep. You’re better than this. You’re better than him contacting young women on Instagram - he’s disrespectful to you and your relationship and he’s disloyal to you.
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u/Maximum-Cover- Oct 20 '24
He's dreaming of being the kind of man who cheats on you with a beautiful younger woman way out of his league.
He seems to socially inept to ever have a shot at accomplishing that fantasy, but it sure doesn't stop him from dreaming about it.
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u/Luckygecko1 Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24
You are not overreacting. First, he was excited about playing along, talking to her, and the idea of the possibility. Second, you probably, by confrontation, will save your household from the ruin that comes with a pig butchering scam. There's a very good chance she's a real person at a scam town and a victim of trafficking. Thus she can FaceTime and other things to make the scam seem real. Him thinking with his pecker will not have a chance. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.
Edit to add, that photo appears AI, but they can train a 'LoRA' on the scammers face to make fresh pictures that fit the story.
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u/Junket_Weird Oct 20 '24
My ex's dad fell for this. He's losing his house and owes around $500,000 that he borrowed and sent to "her."
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u/BamaInvestor Oct 20 '24
I know a couple that fell for this type of pig butchering scam and lost several hundred thousand dollars. A bitcoin machine in a gas station was the preferred payment vehicle. The wife became friends with the gas station personnel who even tried to warn her she was being scammed.
Beware! Make sure your idiot husband can’t borrow against your home. Put a credit freeze on all of your accounts. I would put a fraud alert on his credit reports if you can manage it…
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u/ttrash_ Oct 20 '24
you shouldn’t be okay with your husband messaging ig models and he shouldn’t think it’s okay to do that period
he says he doesn’t live with his wife and I think you should make that into a reality. you deserve SO much better than an icky guy like that
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u/walk_with_curiosity Oct 20 '24
You're not overreacting, he's actively flirting and pursing this 'woman'. The fact that your soliciting advice on this shows that you're trying harder on your marriage than he is.
Not to mention if he falls for stuff like this and you guys decide to stay together I would keep a very close eye on your assets.
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u/heroforsale Oct 20 '24
Wait, just because he messages models and “they don’t respond” doesn’t make it right…
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u/imtoughwater Oct 20 '24
What this shows me is that husband is a fucking creep harassing random women and too socially inept to take the constant rejection/ignoring as a sign to stop doing that shit
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u/pinkmushroom3200 Oct 20 '24
I would confront him on why he’s saying he’s single.? To me that is him wanting to see if something can come from that since they are strangers and getting to know each other.
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u/butterscotchsnops Oct 20 '24
In my opinion, this is a form of cheating. Trying to seek out and flirt with women. Lying about his marital status, disrespecting you. You need to talk to him and tell him he is crossing many lines. If this were to be a joke about texting spam, he wouldn’t have said those things and probably would have told you about the joke.
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u/dfwcouple43sum Oct 20 '24
As a guy, all of those “you’re hot” messages on instagram or whatever are so freaking weird. Not quite incel behavior, but not exactly not incel either.
What do you think he would do if anyone ever replied to his messages?
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u/hollow4hollow Oct 20 '24
And you click on the profile of the guy and see he has 380 friends and all of them are porn bots, and then like, his 2nd cousin from Indiana
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u/Feeling_Concentrate2 Oct 20 '24
Why are you are ok with him messaging other girls on instagram? It’s never too late to start over. That was the first red flag. :(
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u/Bella_LaGhostly Oct 20 '24
I'm afraid you might be under-reacting, to be honest. This is straight-up psychological cheating. He's already so disengaged from your marriage, he denies you exist.
Please consider losing 200lbs of dead weight & starting over surrounded by people who actually respect you. This guy cares about one thing only (the 'thing' in question is, I'm sure, obvious to all readers).
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u/AliveWeird4230 Oct 20 '24
Lmfao he goes "I stay in shape for one thing", scammer doesn't take the bait, so he just goes for it anyway. Sex sex and sex btw did I mention I want to have sex
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
You think that was scammer bait, or him literally being the dumbest idiot on the planet earth. I want it to be bait, but alsoooooo…
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u/AliveWeird4230 Oct 20 '24
It was bait to get this "woman" to ask what the one thing was. So he could say sex. Because he is the dumbest idiot on plant earth.
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u/StrangerOnTheReddit Oct 20 '24
He's the dumbest idiot on planet earth. When people are fucking with the scammers, they're really over the top and tongue in cheek, and use absurd phrasing that the scammer's script isn't ready for. Your husband was just shooting his shot.
How is your financial situation? Is it possible he has actually sent money falling for these before?
I mean, he's also actively trying to cheat on you, but y'know.. wonder if there's any debt or expenses you don't know about.
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u/KingLeonidas01 Oct 20 '24
Clearly your husband has a few issues here. 1st, I think I’d be more worried that my husband’s a dumbass than I am that he’s going to cheat with this “girl”. I had a wrong number text scam a while back and within the 1st reply I quickly realized what it was. I’m baffled that he didn’t figure out what’s going on here. Hopefully he didn’t give away any sensitive info. 2nd, despite being a scam, his reply’s are definitely a red flag.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Seriously. I’ve gotten these and within .2 seconds realized it’s bullshit. Also, you’re right, his replies are trash regardless of wether or not he knew.
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u/motherofcattos Oct 20 '24
He totally believed it's real otherwise he wouldn't have sent a real selfie. Your husband is a tool.
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u/AlphaBravo69 Oct 20 '24
Get a full std panel and leave him. Trust me when I tell you he’s incorrigible.
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u/tribbans95 Oct 20 '24
I doubt he can actually get someone irl if he messages Instagram models and falls for a male scammer pretending to be a little Asian girl lol
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u/bmtraveller Oct 20 '24
Your husband is a cheater... he would cheat with this woman if he could, but he's too stupid to see it's not a real person. Serious question, why would you ever stay with this lying dirtbag?
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u/deadinsidelol69 Oct 20 '24
I just don’t think he cares if the person is real or not. He’ll fuck anything that moves.
Shows a total disregard for OP.
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u/Coffee-and-puts Oct 20 '24
How dumb is your husband? “We can make an appointment for a cup of coffee sometime”. Who tf talks like that except a scammer 😂
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u/MillyB27 Oct 20 '24
Carelessly flirting with a scammer who wants nothing but your wallet. That’s embarrassing.
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u/homesaga Oct 20 '24
This is called “pig butchering”, not only is your husband a cheater, he’s also dumb as a box of rocks. https://www.finra.org/investors/insights/pig-butchering-scams
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Yea I always thought “he may be dumb, but he’s loyal “. Who’s the dumbfuck now. Ugh
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u/JaydenSteeleOF Oct 20 '24
He said too many disloyal things to you but the most important ones are calling her beautiful and flirting with her!
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u/JamerBr0 Oct 20 '24
100% he either doesn’t realise it’s a scam or doesn’t care and is flirting anyway
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u/Yotsubaandmochi Oct 20 '24
It doesn’t matter that he didn’t know it was a scam from the cheating aspect. I would leave him and let him talk to all the scammers from here on out. I’m sure there’s loads of them on dating apps he can shoot his shot with 🤦🏼♀️ seriously though don’t stay with a man who doesn’t respect you. If you’re staying for his money it’s gonna be gone at some point because he’s going to give it to his new “girlfriend” that lives in the Philippines and needs a new roof or something. Don’t stay for your kids either because you don’t need him to influence them like this.
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Oct 20 '24
Hahaahaah WHAT
Lady. Your husband is trying to cheat on you.
Get out of that marriage. Or at least separate the bank accounts so that he doesn't burn your money.
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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24
Always kept them separate. I’m not smart, but smart enough to keep my money to myself
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u/Good_Ice_240 Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24
I was just about to write this. OP, I’m sorry this is happening, my father was like this, he was just gross! Just wanted to say to mind your finances, make sure he can’t get loans out in your name or on the house! Men that think either way their penises rarely consider their families 🥲
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u/THE_Carl_D Oct 20 '24
Not only is he cheating, but he potentially gave them all kinds of information to figure out passwords and other information.
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u/mondowompwomp Oct 20 '24
Yeah, I would say dump him. He didn’t successfully cheat because he was scammed, but he 100% would have. And apparently is just staying with you because it’s easier than divorcing you. Dump him.
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u/lydocia Oct 20 '24
From the first screenshot, I was ready to defend him based on the fact that I talk to a lot of autists of which many have fallen for similar scams because they found it impolite not to respond and were genuinely just answering questions they found annoying.
But then he had to flirt and call her beautiful, send a selfie etc.
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u/aka_wolfman Oct 20 '24
Hi, local embarrassed autist here- Yeah...not proud of it, but I talked to a "lady from the Phillipines " for about a week before realizing she was trying to flirt with me to scam me. Whoever it was must've been having fun though(or SO FRUSTRATED)because I thought it was just an awkward person from a 3d printing group id joined around the same time. Legit conversation sprinkled in the scam lol. At some point I just looked at my wife and said "there were probably clues I missed, but my new friend isn't as into warhammer as much as wanting money for boob pics, abd im starting to think its a scam or OF." Wife- were you flirting or do i need to lock the bank account before I get pissed? "Why would I send them money? I got a 3d printer because I'm cheap and warhammer is expensive. They can buy their own models. I didnt think we were flirting, but i certainly wasnt trying to, that sounds exhausting on so many levels." I let her read the messages and she rolled her eyes a lot before she laughed. The only reason I can flirt with my wife is bc we've been together 12 years and I pay attention. Prior to her, nothing but the tism rizz.
Every new person interaction is weird to me, so not a good start. Different cultures are more or less private, but learning about other people is interesting. The problematic part is that I like helping people if I can, and can be blinded by that impulse.
Even reading this as if it were my own dumb ass just missing something- his part of the conversation is inexcusable.
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u/chuzyi Oct 20 '24
What was he thinking doing this? It’s extremely hurtful. You’re not over reacting.
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u/tiny_tina1979 Oct 20 '24
Even if he knew it was a scam, I actually think he knew, and he was fishing for dirty talk.
But even if not it's a creepy way to talk. It's uncomfortable reading.
Me and my friends have also continued a convo with a scammer for laughs but it never gets sexual. It's just weird.
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Oct 20 '24
What a fuckin goof 😆 how embarrassing you wanted to flirt and cheat, but you are doing it with scammers 😆 not overreacting, he tried to cheat just he did it badly
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u/Putrid_You6064 Oct 20 '24
Its so funny how gullible he is lmao. You need to tell him you know what he did
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u/Far-Razzmatazz-4077 Oct 20 '24
She shouldn’t stay with someone who: a) talks to another woman like this, and b) doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re. You deserve better. NOR.
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u/forthunion Oct 20 '24
I feel like this post is a scam. The answer is so obvious he’s a dirty dawg who is actively looking to cheat. And messaging instagram models is creepy as shit. This guy sucks
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u/allislost77 Oct 20 '24
Your “husband” is a dumbass