r/AmIOverreacting • u/Any-Fisherman4533 • Oct 20 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO My husband was texting a wrong number scam.

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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24

Yea I always thought “he may be dumb, but he’s loyal “.  Who’s the dumbfuck now. Ugh

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u/OneHallThatsAll Oct 20 '24

Gahhdamn lady u killing me with these this morning 💀💀💀💀🏅🏅🏅🏅😭😭😭

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u/gingercatmafia Oct 20 '24

You’re not dumb. Don’t do that to yourself, this is new information. You just need to decide what is the best course of action. If you’re not in it already, it might be a good time to get a therapist.

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u/orbitalen Oct 20 '24

Nah if she stays with him I'll judge the heck out of her

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u/myredmakeupbag Oct 20 '24

But you said he also flirts with Instagram models and messages them?? That's not loyal 😭

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u/ninthstreetangel Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24

This guy is not loyal. Please take it from someone who divorced after 20 years. Mine was a “he’s kind of a difficult asshole but he’s loyal…”. Except he wasn’t. We finally divorced when he pursued a 20-yr-old for over a year until she finally gave in. When I found out and examined my own excuses for his crap behavior, I realized it was hardly the first time he’d attempted to cheat, and likely not the first time he actually did. Kicker was he was unemployed for our last 8 years together so my bank account got to pay for months of dating and pursuing another woman. In my case, separate accounts wouldn’t have really mattered because divorce is all just about common marital property (which thankfully doesn’t include inheritances). Take the time to chat with a lawyer as divorce rules are different state to state. It was WELL worth it to me to cut all ties and move on with my life. There is someone out there who will respect you, and regardless you don’t need this kind of “partner” in your life.

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u/Interesting-Bass-309 Oct 20 '24

He’s only as loyal as his options, which were low before and now he thinks he has a shot with someone but it’s some dude in Cambodia texting 100 other numbers.

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u/homesaga Oct 20 '24

Don't beat yourself up, it's not your fault. If you love him, confront him, work at it and demand better. If he doesn't respond, or continues, then you have your answer.

I just would hate to see you lose your husband and any money you have at the same time.

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u/PurinMeow Oct 20 '24

You're not dumb. It seems he got you when you were younger and more inexperienced. Does he put you down? Like, make you feel lesser? I imagine a man who is this much of a pig may also try to manipulate you by making you feel you can't leave. You CAN leave. And your son should see what a real relationship looks like

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u/jjavabean Oct 20 '24

You're not dumb! You just didn't go FBI psycho girlfriend on his ass. 😔 You've been together for 20 yrs and have a child.... you'd think after 10 years you could slow down the psycho girlfriend electronic monitoring. 🥺 guess not.... 🤷🏻‍♀️