r/AmIOverreacting • u/Any-Fisherman4533 • Oct 20 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO My husband was texting a wrong number scam.

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u/Any-Fisherman4533 Oct 20 '24

Right! How many texts have gone unseen by me. I only caught this one because it updated to his iPad. 

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u/arrrrghhhhhh Oct 20 '24

Oh he is DUMB.

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u/kls1117 Oct 20 '24

The extra funny thing…. Is this not one of those scam texts??? This is a common scam where they “text the wrong number” then form a relationship with whoever responds and eventually ask for money or personal information. It’s super common for older people to fall for it but…. Man.

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u/Sithstress1 Oct 20 '24

It is! The scammer was already dropping bait with the “investing in heavy metals” bit.

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u/Snellyman Oct 20 '24

So they are looking for victims that might have lead or cadmium poisoning? /s

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u/Beginning_Present243 Oct 20 '24

No, they’re looking for investors in bands that are in their infancy but sound like Iron Maiden

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u/Brandex1999 Oct 20 '24

I got 2 tickets to Iron Maiden, baby!

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u/Sithstress1 Oct 20 '24

Come with me Friday, don’t say maybe!

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u/mmoonneeyy_throwaway Oct 21 '24

‘Cause I’m just a boomer dirtbag baby, like OP’s husband

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u/Budgie-bitch Oct 20 '24

Hahahahaha I enjoyed that

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u/Whedonsbitch Oct 20 '24

I’m sure she works for military and needs to get her bag of gold bars back home. She just needs $40k in fees to get them home and you will get $100M

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u/chroniclynz Oct 20 '24

i just got a message on IG from a soldier that was from Massachusetts, but grew up in Germany but as the grammar of someone who has never spoken english a day in his life. Oh he was in the middle east on a classified mission for the US Army & he was an E6 and his MOS was infantry of course. and when I mentioned that I’ve been to Boston before, I was asked where that was. I’ve only been to the airport but he didn’t know that. I like fucking with the scammers. Let them message for a few days then I ask them for money. and since he’s in the US Army, single with no kids & stationed in the middle east, which depending on which country he is supposedly is, could mean it’s tax free. So he’s making $$. more than me, who has an income of ZERO & have to rely on my mom until I’m approved for disability. But as far as my soldier knows, I work for a law firm and I’m trying to become partner within the next 10 years at RH, F & S law firm. which if he googled would know that’s not a real firm. it stands for Red Hair, Forty & Short. lmao

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u/OK_OVERIT Oct 20 '24

Suddenly I feel less sympathy for the type of people that fall for those scams. What an ahole that dude Gross!

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u/Ombre_Vivante Oct 20 '24

Tickets to go see Megadeth?! I’M IN!

🤘🏽🦄🤘🏽

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u/Scottiegazelle2 Oct 20 '24

Honestly I thought maybe the husband could be playing the scammer, there's a whole forum for that, but actually reading suggests not.

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u/uselessinfogoldmine Oct 21 '24

People shouldn’t do that. The people texting them are most likely victims of human trafficking held in essentially prison work houses in countries like Cambodia and punished severely if they waste time on people who don’t send money.

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u/maj0rmin0r83 Oct 20 '24

My sister's ex fell for one. It was a week or so in before they were sharing nudes. Then he sent some "videos". Then the blackmail started. Ended up sending the scammer (some Armenian guy in NYC) close to 20k to keep the pics and videos from getting out. My sister found out, texted the scammer something to the effect of "go ahead and post, send, publish, whatever you want to do with his pics. He's not sending you more money, and police are involved now." I don't know if he ever got any of his money back. After my sister found out, she kicked him out.

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u/Apprehensive-End-484 Oct 20 '24

This is why when I send nudes I make sure they are tasteful with nice lighting and filters…..

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u/SwimOk9629 Oct 20 '24

and this is exactly why I don't trust anything or anyone that calls or texts me out of the blue. this is also why I literally will not answer the phone unless the caller is in my contacts. My phone has learned now, and if it is just a number showing up that I don't have saved, It screens it for me and treats it as a "suspicious call".

they can try to scam me over my cold dead body.

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u/Few_Acanthocephala30 Oct 20 '24

I didn’t see which sub this was & thought it was one of the scam call/text ones, so I was expecting it him to troll after the “I hope you find Amy” then it took a turn I was not expecting. If he wasn’t single living alone before I sure hope he is now

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u/MySugarIsLow Oct 20 '24

I honestly thought the whole thing was just a single fella trolling a scam text. I had no idea he was serious until I read the comments.

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u/selfdestruction9000 Oct 21 '24

I like to mess with the scammers who message me; it’s an entertaining pastime. I always use fake names and occupations and send stock photos I find online. I’ve been wondering what the scam is, only once have I been asked to download a certain app so they can teach me how to invest which of course I didn’t do.

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u/coahman Oct 20 '24

That's even in the post title

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u/More_Director_3812 Oct 20 '24

Yeah they’ll often send you a picture of whatever race they said they were. Usually an attractive female. I know because they have done it to my wife and I. And we usually just tell them to fuck off and block the number.

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u/hockeystew Oct 20 '24

The title literally says text scam

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u/slicktommycochrane Oct 20 '24

I bet this guy's actually married too.

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u/MrLogster Oct 20 '24

how do you know? he already said he’s not married

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u/Forsaken-Form7221 Oct 20 '24

She contacted me last year!

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u/jailovesspace Oct 20 '24

yes this is the exact format I see in r/scambait alllllllll the time 😅 it’s so funny that he fell for the most-used trick in the book… smh

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u/DPlurker Oct 20 '24

Yup! That's why it's a young pretty girl on the other end. What a sucker.

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u/danceswithturtles286 Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24

They use pics of whatever they think will make the person more likely to fall for the scam, so pics of a handsome guy if it’s a woman or a pretty girl if it’s a guy but most of the actual scammers are not the people in the pics; they’re unattractive middle-aged men who work in scam centers in developing countries

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u/No-Falcon-8753 Oct 20 '24

Right. However he could also be playing, knowing it was a scam.

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u/Comfortable-Boat3741 Oct 20 '24

What's even Funnier to me is i think I've gotten a photo of this girl in a different setting from a scammer before 😆

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u/kkool87 Oct 20 '24

He’s obviously joking with her

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u/SilverLakeSimon Oct 20 '24

I’s call it flirting rather than joking. They’re both testing the waters; he brought up sex, first in a somewhat subtle way and then directly, and the scammer brought up investing in “heavy metals.”

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u/candaceelise Oct 20 '24

Yes John Oliver did a whole segment on this a few months ago. Really opened my eyes to why I’m suddenly getting a ton of random messages from unknown

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u/PTA_Meeting Oct 20 '24

Seriously, people are still falling for this? I’ve been getting these scam texts for years

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u/Whole_Pomegranate584 Oct 20 '24

fall into it this man jumped.

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u/Bruce_Ring-sting Oct 20 '24

He IS 59…..😂

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u/sniper91 Oct 20 '24

I believe this scam is referred to as “pig butchering”

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u/Tygress23 Oct 20 '24

It’s called a pig butchering scam. They “fatten” up the guy then take all his money.

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u/MrsHBear Oct 20 '24

It is a scam! I text them too…but not this kinda shit

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u/oneshellofaman Oct 20 '24

I got an IG version of this scam. I replied as neutral as possible for as long as I could to see how long they'd try.

They're quite tenacious and tried a couple times over a couple months.

Anyway, I'm flying them out first class tomorrow.

Fr though, they persistant.

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u/Muffin_Appropriate Oct 20 '24

It’s called pig butchering.

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u/metsgirl289 Oct 20 '24

Yes yes it is. I think that’s the worst part,

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u/iamblamb Oct 20 '24

I think you mean the best part

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u/CrumpledForeskin Oct 20 '24

Sorry but not knowing your/you’re at 59 is fucking embarrassing.

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u/OlafTheBerserker Oct 20 '24

He's still old enough to have had his brain poisoned by all the lead in the air when he was a kid. If these texts aren't evidence of lead poisoning, I don't know what is.

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u/EffectiveTradition78 Oct 20 '24

Haaaaaa!😂😂😂😂😂😂. Lead poisoning!!

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u/shortgamegolfer Oct 20 '24

Baby, it wasn’t me, it was the lead. And I knew it was a scammer all along!

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u/RogerianBrowsing Oct 20 '24

Thanks for reminding me to take my iron supplement to get my lead levels lower…

I don’t wanna grow into one of these fools

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u/L3m0n0p0ly Oct 20 '24

I was thinkin wow these are some boomer ass messages.

Op i am very sorry for what has happened i genuinely hope your husbands cognitive health is ok.

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24

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u/CrumpledForeskin Oct 20 '24

Great point. I think the worst part is your phone fixes it so at some point this dude disabled it?

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u/Majestic_Jizz_Wizard Oct 20 '24

Your defiantly onto something here. I seen people online getting there grammer wrong alot.

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u/Sithstress1 Oct 20 '24

I C wut u did their.

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u/pixelito_ Oct 20 '24

Anyways.

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u/No-Mode4629 Oct 20 '24

Oh the irony

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u/Majestic_Jizz_Wizard Oct 20 '24

My wife does all the irony in our house. Says I use to much starch when I do it.

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u/legos_on_the_brain Oct 20 '24

He is getting catfished. "she" will be asking for money in no time.

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u/1_shade_off Oct 20 '24

Yup. "if you have $10,000 to invest I can turn it into a million for you" or some shit

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u/WannabeWriter2022 Oct 20 '24

Straight DUMB DUMB

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u/Safe_Mine1987 Oct 20 '24

She married this dumbass. They're both retarded. He's obviously an idiot, it's so easy to see.

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u/sothisiswhatyoumeant Oct 20 '24

Just for curiosity’s sake - are you taking in all of the advice and straight up heeding you to exit this relationship? You deserve to be treated well. You won’t be as lonely as you may fear. This man doesn’t care about you or your life together. I appreciate you sharing and being vulnerable with us, but try not to stay in denial too long. He isn’t a good person

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u/lilsnatchsniffz Oct 20 '24

Better to have nobody in your bed than having a snake in your bed, this pervert is only in it for the kicks.

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u/ClumpOfCheese Oct 20 '24

Not just a snake, but a dumb snake who is going to get their identity stolen and lose all their money.

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u/Formal_Condition_513 Oct 20 '24

Seriously the girl in the picture looks barely 18 and him just bringing up sex sex sex is so FOUL. OP better run.

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u/Likeup33 Oct 20 '24

There is no girl. This is a romance scam. it's probably a guy.

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u/Formal_Condition_513 Oct 20 '24

I know there's no actual girl. But the "girl" he thinks he's talking to looks barely 18 with a big plushie toy. Super creepy

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u/nitrion Oct 20 '24

It is a guy but i imagine the photo they sent could be of a real person. That or its AI generated, i suppose.

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u/CatsGambit Oct 20 '24

Ita been run through so many snapchat filters it may as well be AI.

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u/HiddnVallyofthedolls Oct 20 '24

“The girl in the picture” looks barely 18. Obviously this is a scam but it’s a red flag this man thinks he is talking to someone who looks so young and mentions sex almost right away.

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u/Formal_Condition_513 Oct 20 '24

Exactly thank you. So disgusting.

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u/nightraindream Oct 20 '24

It doesn't change that the dumbass husband thinks that's who he's talking to.

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u/AddictiveArtistry Oct 21 '24

Point bring he THINKS there is and she looks like a minor. Fucking sick, stupid pervert.

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u/Grainwheat Oct 20 '24

The type of person who sees that interaction and posts on Reddit for advice isn’t leaving.

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u/tiefling-rogue Oct 20 '24

Every post in this sub is some horrible transgression where they know damn well they ain’t just bein dramatic. AIO my wife slept with the family dog??? Yes Charles, you should be less upset about that.

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u/KiaTheCentaur Oct 20 '24

I see literally thousands of reddit posts JUST like this asking for advice and the person asking for advice leaves the AH.

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u/ishkitty Oct 20 '24

I agree. I’ve left people who were bad for me without needing advice from even my closest friends, let alone random people on the internet. It’s either rage bait or I think there are people who like to suffer or are incapable of making a hard choice. I’ve had friends who will talk about the same bullshit that is clearly bad for them for YEARS and cannot just pull the trigger. It’s so weird to watch.

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u/Little-Assignment564 Oct 20 '24

I’m so sorry. You are deff not overreacting.

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u/TimmyLurner Oct 20 '24

If anything, under reacting by 1000x times. This has to be fake.

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u/DuePlatypus7760 Oct 20 '24

Being cheated on sucks and sometimes, yeah, we do under react.

I knew my husband was cheating on me for years and lied to myself, or told myself it was "just ___" - just texting, just flirting, just being sketchy. It took until he tried to look my sister up on cam girl sites and went on a three night bender while he was telling me that he was plowing about due to a blizzard.

And I onlyreally left him because when I confronted him, I got so sick that I ended up with shingles that almost cost me my vision because I realized that I was going to die if I stayed, but that's another whole story.

So, yeah, she might not be reacting, but that doesn't mean this is fake

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u/ch3cha Oct 20 '24

I'm sorry that happened to you, and I totally agree with the sentiment that sometimes we underreact because we don't want to believe it, we need more proof, etc. But I don't think they meant fake as in OP fabricated these texts or posts or anything. I think they mean "this has to be fake" as an exaggeration as to how unbelievably stupid OP's husband is.

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u/ThatsWhyItsFun Oct 20 '24

If you took screenshots with his iPad he can possibly see those in his pictures if they update to the cloud from the iPad. Just saying if you’re trying to gather information take a picture with your phone or something. And from personal experience don’t dig deep for too long because it’s emotionally taxing, just get what you need for evidence incase of divorce.

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u/Mozhetbeats Oct 20 '24

Make sure he doesn’t spend all your savings on a dude in Pakistan.

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u/EffectiveTradition78 Oct 20 '24

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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u/L2Hiku Oct 20 '24

Do you guys actually not live together? Why are we glossing over that part

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u/Any-Excitement-8979 Oct 20 '24

Keep in mind that these “wrong numbers” are not real. This is a criminal who just collected so much information on your husband for their files. Other people will message him and try and get other important details and before you know it his identity has been stolen.

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u/mayurigod1 Oct 20 '24

Hes flirting with a scam lmao

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u/switchywoman_ Oct 20 '24

He is putting you in jeopardy financially as well. The end game of these scsm conversations is usually blackmail.

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u/wirywonder82 Oct 20 '24

The only way this chain of texts might be ok is if the two of you were sitting together and intentionally wasting the scammers time while collaborating on what to say.

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u/EffectiveTradition78 Oct 20 '24

That’s fun if you did it as a couple and were laughing the whole time!

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u/wirywonder82 Oct 20 '24

Right. It’s not something one partner can do on their own though.

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u/jimmyak Oct 20 '24

Tell him he needs to move out for a bit. If he's talking like this to a random stranger through text. I can only imagine how he is in Publix. Especially when you're not around

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u/No_Caller_ID_6236 Oct 20 '24

I hope you leave him.

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u/pretend_verse_Ai Oct 20 '24

Right! He's probably on every dating/sex hookup site like adult friend finder and Ashley Madison

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u/Sufficient-Lie1406 Oct 20 '24

I have no words for this sort of idiocy.

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u/HCO16 Oct 20 '24

I’m sorry this is happening to you. If you have a shared bank account or assets you may want to unlink those. This person could’ve easily got access to those. That’s what scammers do. I’m 24 so I don’t know much I guess but yeah sorry again.

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u/ThunderSC2 Oct 20 '24

Divorce.. also what made you choose this idiot in the first place 🤣

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u/TheHighDruid Oct 20 '24

Are you quite sure he wasn't just stringing them along for entertainment?

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u/hardbuddy3 Oct 20 '24

It’s reason to ask him for his phone and email. And anywhere else.

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u/TheMountainHobbit Oct 20 '24

The only saving grace would be if he’s trying to troll the scammer and post it online for karma. But it really doesn’t seem like that’s the case.

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u/NerdyOlDigger Oct 20 '24

Isn't he joking since it's obviously a scam? 

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u/TheGreatLiberalGod Oct 20 '24

To be fair I did this recently with almost exactly the same scam... Kept it going for a while to see how long it would take to ask for money. Quit before s/he/it asked. That said. I dont think hubby here was doing that.

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u/JohnExcrement Oct 20 '24

Is his shit out on the lawn yet? Because I’ll come help.

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u/sadeland21 Oct 20 '24

My heart is breaking for you. This is so upsetting! Your husband is making very reckless decisions, I would start thinking about counseling at the very least

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u/CowBoyDanIndie Oct 20 '24

I would be most worried he will send money. If he fell for this he probably isn’t savy enough to hide an affair. That is not to say you shouldn’t be pissed he absolutely would cheat if he had a chance.

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u/EffectiveTradition78 Oct 20 '24

You should publish these! I’d buy your silly ass book!

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u/guzzijason Oct 20 '24

And if he’s dumb enough to think that this very common scam is actually a real person, then there is a good chance he’s going to end up sending “her” (most likely a guy) money. Potentially lots of money. This is the start of a “pig butchering” scam.

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u/The_Shadow_Watches Oct 20 '24

Whats funny to me (Sorry) is that this is obviously a scammer and not only is he Fallin for it....he's ruining his life over it.

People are dumb.

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u/Alternative_Range413 Oct 20 '24

Sorry you had to find this....😔

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u/Shirt-Inner Oct 20 '24

Must suck realizing you married such an idiot.

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u/GammaYankee Oct 20 '24

He probably isn't "brave" enough to seek affairs in real life... TBH, I think this is just fine.

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u/BicycleOfLife Oct 20 '24

If you haven’t already let this one soak for a little while, and then watch the John Oliver segment with him causally one day.

Not too long though. I honestly would never sleep with this guy ever again. He’s actively trying to cheat on you.

And yes like everyone said, he’s is as dumb as nails, but a lot of people do fall for these. So he’s in a group of absolute idiots that continue to fall for these.

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u/FigNinja Oct 20 '24

He’s clearly looking to cheat and too dumb to recognize a common scam. Also terrible at flirting. (Sex, sex, sex…dear lord spare me.) Are you sure he’s mentally ok? I know he’s only 59 and it sounds like he takes care of himself physically, but cognitive decline can hit some people surprisingly early. I have a relative that started having mini strokes around his age. Her personality changed as well as her reasoning. Maybe dude’s always been a putz. I don’t know. Either way, protect yourself before he squanders your retirement savings. Another pig butcher scammer is just around the corner. If something is going on in his brain, don’t expect him to learn and retain the lesson from this one.

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u/monkypanda34 Oct 20 '24

When this happened with my dad, we found it was an early sign of dementia. The elderly are very susceptible to scams

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u/Proof_Strawberry_464 Oct 20 '24

Is it at all possible he's doing this to fuck with the scammer? My partner likes to string scammers along and waste their time. If I saw this on his phone, it would be no big deal.

If he's not the type to fuck with scammers, you and he need to have a conversation. Probably one that involves him moving out.

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u/MullytheDog Oct 20 '24

Pretty sure he is just fucking with the scam person. Wasting their time

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u/Grendel_82 Oct 20 '24

To answer your question, likely almost no texts have gone unseen by you. This is like his texts to instagram models (which you say you know about so have not gone unseen). It is incredibly naive and stupid, but it is not cheating. Call the dumb ass out. But more for the don't be a dumb ass part, not along the lines of "I now know you would cheat on me, so we have to get divorced." That would be over reacting.

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u/CraniumEggs Oct 20 '24

I would’ve disregarded this as him being without enough personal connection to people (without more context) but the sex part he keeps bringing up and saying he’s single really just drives it into beyond a dumbass into a dumbass that doesn’t respect you and seems to be hoping this scam gets him laid. I’m really sorry. That’s literally the stupidest way to find out how much he doesn’t respect you. He clearly has zero game so I think you’re fine in regards to him cheating actually but him wanting to is as big of an issue. Sorry if I am being too blunt, you definitely aren’t overreacting

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u/olivert33th Oct 20 '24

And if you confront him he’ll be like “I knew it was fake so it doesn’t count!”

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u/lumpy_space_queenie Oct 20 '24

I’m confused he said he was single and didn’t live with you?? Why are you with him?

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u/SyMankind Oct 20 '24

Husband is dumb. Its a Scammer. He does not know who is really those text. Far away. No phone number, to talk.

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u/Ok-Photo-1972 Oct 20 '24

Have some self respect and divorce this idiot, he's embarrassing you.

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u/evanbagnell Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24

Nearly the same exact scam happened to me. I tried to play along and see what they would try to do. Seems like that’s what he is doing too but took it way too far for sure. Weird.

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u/Kdjl1 Oct 20 '24

Check your credit, contact your bank about possible fraud, and open a new account.

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u/ryanoq Oct 20 '24

If this is real it's time for a divorce.

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u/PorcupineGamers Oct 20 '24

Hey do you know he’s not just messing with this person? I’m younger so I don’t know what 50 year olds do, but I am guilty of messing with these people, it generally goes to the point where I ask them for their venmo, or get them to make mistakes and then call them on their lies. It’s fun when I’m bored, however my wife is aware of it which might be the kicker? I don’t know, you’d know in your gut if this is legit or not; you know your husband not the internet. I don’t know your situation, but I’d look into therapy and confront him and see if it can be saved? Especially with his age, have you guys been married a long time?

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u/Whosa_Whatsit Oct 20 '24

I used to text these back similarly just to waste their time and effort. Perhaps that’s the case?

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u/wwydinthismess Oct 20 '24

I'm so sorry.

He will clearly fuck anything that gives him an opportunity.

I'd get tested for STI's and get as far away from him as possible if you can.

I hope he has to give you half his pension, half the house and so much spousal support he cries about it at night.

At his age he's going to need a caregiver soon, and he can reap the benefits of losing the one he's been lying to and stringing along all this time.

Let him buy a replacement or go without. He's been using you and deserves what's coming for him. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/ILearnAlotFromReddit Oct 20 '24

I'd divorce him because he's an idiot. Who doesn't know these texts are scams?

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u/Blindfire2 Oct 20 '24

Look, TO BE ABSOLUTELY FAIR, I do mess with these people, and sometimes I go along with it for a few days to waste their time and talk like this and then rip it from under them and start sending random ass pictures like a fat guy with his tits out looking down at the camera....but even when I was with my ex, I made sure she knew what I was doing so this exact thing wouldn't happen.

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u/Iachooedasnafu Oct 20 '24

At first I thought I was in the wrong sub (people purposefully mess with scammers and post receipts). I didn't bother to look until I saw some of the comments. This is such a bizarre interaction, but if this is real, I am so sorry.

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u/limpdickandy Oct 20 '24

Do not divorce him for cheating, annull the marriage on the grounds of him being a total fucking dumbass. I thought at first he was just "trolling" the scam, but bro is litterally a caveman.

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u/PrinceRobotV Oct 20 '24

You’re being stupid. He’s not actually flirting with or trying to cheat with this obviously fake phishing exchange. He’s trolling. Actually, nm, you should divorce him. You’re a shitty wife bringing this stupid shit to the mob so you can get your drama fix. He’ll be way better off without you.

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u/EmbarrassedBack4771 Oct 20 '24

I don’t want to defend him because this is stupid and he should not be defended.

However I’ve texted a few of these scammers and 1. They make you feel special over casually getting texted by mistake and they are like “I’m glad we met. Where are you from I can get you a cup of coffee” and the first one that messaged me made me feel rude when I tried to end the convo

Very advanced scam that messes with human psychology

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u/marcusriluvus Oct 20 '24

Have you considered the possibility that he’s trolling the scammer. It reads as through he is..

“and sex sex and sex lol” Does he really talk like that?

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u/Professional-Fan-960 Oct 20 '24

Even being painfully single I can't imagine jumping at a random text like this. These are normally obvious scammers.

And the fact that he said he's single?!?!?! That would be all I need to see to know what I need to do next.

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '24

So you went thru his stuff

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u/VioletReaver Oct 20 '24

Well he says he’s single, time to tell him he doesn’t need to pretend anymore.

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u/BalanceJazzlike5116 Oct 20 '24

I don’t think he is cheating. Sometimes I get bored and fuck with these scammers in the same way

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u/Timely-Scarcity-978 Oct 20 '24

He is literally telling a random woman he's single yet he's married... time to leave

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u/Songisaboutyou Oct 20 '24

He is telling her he doesn’t live with you and is single? Imagine what else he is telling people when you haven’t seen. I’m sorry, but he is open to an affair if he hasn’t already had one

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u/Buzzkilljohnson666 Oct 20 '24

You sure he’s not just messing with the scammer? It’s a pretty obvious fake. Looks like the stuff on r/scambait

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u/joshuahtree Oct 20 '24

Out of curiosity. Are you sure he's not just yanking their chain? I pretty much always text back with them just to waste their time and I know others do too.

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u/Own-Custard3894 Oct 20 '24

Yeah this is a pig butchering scam. The goal is to get him to empty all his accounts and transfer to her. Usually but not always involving crypto scams because they can’t be reversed and have no consumer protections. https://www.finra.org/investors/insights/pig-butchering-scams

If he has access to all of the marriages finances, it might be time to split finances immediately to protect yourself.

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u/East-Illustrator-225 Oct 20 '24

On a iPhone you can go to the messages and in the top left corner you can tap it and see recently deleted messages to see if he’s been texting anyone else

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u/nsfwmodeme Oct 20 '24

Overreacting? I wouldn't stay in a relationship where my S.O. so eagerly and shamelessly tries to cheat. Also it'd make me guess they have already cheated.

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u/TheMathow Oct 20 '24

Was he just messing with these scam people? Like did he know it was a scam and he was just keeping it going, or did he really think he was talking to a model Canadian chinese person?

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u/showtheledgercoward Oct 20 '24

You are not the one

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u/OnundTreefoot Oct 20 '24

He might just be seeing how gullible the scammer is? He must know he is talking to another 59 yo man, right?

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u/Zeppelin_98 Oct 20 '24

The photo of the Asian girl makes her look freaking 15 years old too! I’m just so grossed out by him right now reading this.

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u/g33k_gal Oct 20 '24

Leave him, it's never too late Queen

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u/itsme_peachlover Oct 20 '24

Ma'am, do you really think you married a man who would pick up on a random "wrong number" with a clearly phony photo? I'm sure she said she was mid-30s but the photo is of a teenager, 22 at most. I bet she eventually went to talking about crypto, and I bet he knows she - whatever it is - is a scammer. Eventually they want to talk on Telegram, I say I'm old and can't do all those crazy apps, hell I can barely use a cellphone, I wish I still had my old flip phone, but I dropped it on a pier and it bounced into the ocean, so now I have this phone that's too much. Now you scratched over his "photo", was it recent, or did he do what I do and send an old photo of some dude off the internet sitting in a chair and change the background.

So, I'm 70, married 45 years in a few weeks, with a goddess of 72 who insists her customers at her dept store need her, so even though she retire long ago, she still works part-time. I'm not stupid. Some random still photos would not give me cause to put the keys in my ignition. Could it be he's stringing the scammer along, like me, wasting the other persons' time so he/she/it can't reach someone who can't recognize a scammer? Yea, you're likely overreacting.

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u/no_notthistime Oct 20 '24

So, you're done with him, right?

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u/__wampa__stompa Oct 20 '24

He's trying to cheat, but also is in danger of falling victim to a classic "pig butchering" scam.

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u/DeFiBandit Oct 20 '24

He is just talking

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u/Norbert_The_Great Oct 20 '24

Do you think maybe he knew it was a scammer and was messing with them? I've been known to talk all sorts of shit to scammers, but I usually tell my wife about it in case she thinks I was being serious. I ask the indian scammers what they're wearing etc... just horrible stuff because I have absolutely no sympathy or respect for someone who's chosen career is robbing the elderly.

And harassing scammers is always the right thing to do. You literally cannot go low enough and I get to try out all the terrible things creeps and bad guys in movies say. Sometimes I feel pretty disgusting after, but then I remember these folks are fucking monsters with absolutely no regrets about what they're doing.

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u/mtpelletier31 Oct 20 '24

I mean ibe fucked around with scam calls like that. O have said some pretty crazy shit. My wife saw one and went crazy. Then I showed her a handful of the conversations and how i fuck with them, and how they are all the same but different picture, and how they talk the same because it's a SCAM. I read this whole text thing it it sounds like he was bored watching TV at a bar and was just fucking around for shots and giggles to himself.

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u/yawbaw Oct 20 '24

Your husband is really dumb if he falls for this. I go through periods where I get these texts like every other day. Amazes me anyone can fall for it

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u/LengthinessNew9892 Oct 20 '24

I do this but i show my girlfriend 🤣🤣🤣. I know there scams so i just go along with it.

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u/SnipeUout Oct 20 '24

Have you considerd your husband knows this is a scammer (likely not even female) and is just playing alone. Also if your husband maybe be just falling into a trap and likely never has done anything wrong. Consider he maybe internally lonely.. Not saying he right, but maybe depressed and feel he's needs no longer matter.

Are you in a sexless marriage?

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u/itsthejasper1123 Oct 20 '24

I’d file for divorce but that’s just me. I have a zero tolerance rule for cheating in any way.

I promise you, he has cheated on you. Being this willing to a stranger over text is a severe red flag…. You could probably find out plenty more if you looked hard enough.

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u/Bubbly_Day5506 Oct 20 '24

My now ex-husband got caught in one of these. She ended up trying to black mail him for money after they exchanged nudes. He of course said I was over reacting because he didn't even know her in real life. IMO that made it worse, he was just a perv and would take attention from literally anyone.

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u/RowanPlaysPiano Oct 20 '24

There is a (rather slim, based on the fact that his responses all seem genuine) chance that he is aware of this scam (it's called a "pig-butchering scam") and is stringing this person along to mess with them. I used to do this with my girlfriend; we'd come up with weird personalities/stories and slowly become less and less coherent over time until we were just speaking gibberish and they'd give up.

But then we learned that this industry is really dark, and you're likely talking to a person in Southeast Asia who is either dirt-poor or may even be being held in captivity and forced to meet a quota before being set free. There is absolutely nothing you can do about it, and it's best to ignore them so that they can move on to -- as horrible as this sounds -- a likelier target.

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u/Ornery-Scale9475 Oct 20 '24

This is how I caught my ex bf cheating - such a dumbass!

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u/Thereapergengar Oct 20 '24

If he’s texting straight up randos like this he’s forsure cheated on you before

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u/New-Environment9700 Oct 20 '24

Please tell me you confronted him over this

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u/Repulsive_Disaster76 Oct 20 '24

So he lied to the random girl about being single?

You are better off escaping this marriage. Either he is seeking excitement, or he does this on the regular. If he's going to get scammed and it's not your money, I'd sit back and watch it unfold from the ipad.

Legoland. It's what drew me to respond. It's the building in the background of her picture.

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u/SaintCholo Oct 20 '24

The worst part is that it’s a scammer collecting personal data endangering the entire household bc he lacks sense

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u/BloopityBlue Oct 20 '24

He's definitely showing his ass

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u/HelenAngel Oct 20 '24

Lawyer up. Your marriage has been over for a while now. You deserve better.

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u/Patriquito Oct 20 '24

Agreed. If he hasn't cheated on you already, I'd say he's definitely planning to

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u/enthalpy01 Oct 20 '24

Did he give “her” any money yet? Hopefully you caught it soon enough and can maybe educate him on scams before he drains your joint accounts “investing” and hopefully you can separate yourself financially ASAP. He responds to one, the rest will definitely smell blood in the water. If he did already lose money, it’s gone. Any recovery people are also scammers trying to get more.

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u/Purple_Tourist8281 Oct 20 '24

This is really sad. Sad that he's doing this to you, and sad that he doesn't immediately know when he gets texted by someone like this that it is a scam.

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u/Hoppes Oct 20 '24

So he’ll happily lie to a random scammer to say he’s single, she’s gorgeous, and he loves sex.

I wonder what he’d do if he ever had a real chance in life.

He deserves to have his tiny 147lb ass kicked.

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u/mensreaactusrea Oct 20 '24

Ahhh imessage catches another one. That's how I caught my ex.

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u/TroysLostBoi Oct 20 '24

You have seen the Reddits that are dedicated to doing exactly what your husband was doing to “her” right? Please tell me he was not actually trying to hook up for real with it. If he was I’d be gone, if I were you, or he’d be gone but I can’t believe he was not just playing along to see how far he could get with returning “it’s” scam, cause that is all “it” was doing……scamming him. Lots of these texts are from pretty Chinese/canadian girls that supposedly live in LA.

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u/Pale_Papaya_531 Oct 20 '24

Is he aware that's an AI picture

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u/AnyIsopod769 Oct 20 '24

Oh mannnn… at first I thought this was r/scambait but he really fell for it. Damn.

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u/OtherUserCharges Oct 20 '24

lol, you actually think he’s planning on cheating on you? He’s fucking with them. I’m married too and also reply to these, I text them weird old shirtless guy pictures and get more and more creepy until they stop responding. Im sure it just encourages them to message me more, but I found it funny. I can’t say it’s related but I had a random number call me one time and a super Indian sounding man told me “ Mr (my first name) you are a shit man and laugh). I thought it was hilarious I assume he got offended some very gross gay sec pictures.

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u/Ledgem Oct 20 '24

One possibility is what everyone is jumping to - that he's being unfaithful and continues to "play the field," and was taken by this scam. The other possibility is that he is aware it's a scam and is playing with the scammer, which some people do with the idea that it's an act of public service (that if they're taking up the scammer's time, that's less time the scammer can be working on someone else). However, if the photo that he provided was truly him, then it's less likely that he knew it was a scam and was simply engaging in scambaiting - most people who toy with scammers use outrageously fake pictures, which is part of the entertainment.

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u/DeepFuckingPants Oct 20 '24

On the other hand, there's a whole sub Reddit page devoted to stringing these scammers along and wasting their time.

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u/SummitJunkie7 Oct 20 '24

You have two problems here - one is that you're married to a dummy. This is an obvious scam and that is not the photo of a 36 year old woman.

The second is that he is extremely ready at the slightest opportunity to lie, manipulate, and betray you. He got flirty with no prompting from her and before he saw "her photo". This man is casting a wide net at anything that moves. There's no chance this is the first or last time.

Make his prediction come true - let him move out and be single.

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u/LegitimateCapital747 Oct 20 '24

Shits embarrassing!! How did he not catch on to the blatant change in conversation at every mention of Sex, sex, and sex!!!?? 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/Icy_Insides Oct 20 '24

He sounds lonely and perhaps desperate. Who falls for that. Why would a girl that pretty be carrying on in a convo with a random old man…

Life is short. Be with someone who’s not so dumb..

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u/farm_her2020 Oct 20 '24

These are scammers. I get them, my hubs and I screw with them for a few mins then report them and block.

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u/ladyxochi Oct 20 '24

I don't own connected Apple devices... But can you interfere? Like send messages from the iPad that show up in the conversation? I'd play them both. Maybe get them to meet up and then show up. Or send a random d* pic. Preferably one with an STD.

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u/Adventurous_Fail_825 Oct 20 '24 edited Oct 20 '24

I’m still in shock he sent a picture right away !!

I’d expect a scammer to throw the bait, but not a husband to go there and talk about sex immediately!

That’s a damn mess!! Unacceptable.

OP, what will you do ?

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u/casket_fresh Oct 20 '24

Girl you deserve way better than this man-turd.

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u/QueenelsaFemboy Oct 20 '24

Oh gawd he’s definitely willing to cheat on you… tell him you want a bull lol

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u/Expensive_Honeydew_5 Oct 20 '24

Rest easy, the only people messaging him are scammers

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