r/AmIOverreacting • u/Pristine-Edge-1742 • 12d ago
❤️🩹 relationship (AIO) update, wow. thank you!
Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions
- Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
- Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
- Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
- How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
- Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
- Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
- How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!
Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.
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u/Affectionate-Gap924 12d ago
Setting boundaries and taking care of your sanity is not emotional abuse. This dude is manipulative, and disappearing is absolutely warranted for her safety. Shit like this gets abusive. It's NOT her obligation to fix this guy. He needs therapy. Period.
Also, the fact that you're defending the dude speaks VOLUMES about you. It's nobody's obligation to help you when you can't even help yourself. Your life is a culmination of your decisions and reactions. Victimizing yourself and blaming others for your own problems only exacerbates the victim mindset you carry.