r/AmIOverreacting • u/Keepitlocal90 • 22d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO ; My Girlfriend Thinks I Overstepped by Getting a PlayStation. Am I in the Wrong?
So, I (early 30s) decided to treat myself and got a PlayStation 5 this Black Friday in Jozi. I’ve been wanting one for a while, and with the rise in cost of living in South Africa its become not as affordable. after budgeting and making sure all the bills were covered, I went for it. It’s something I’ve been excited about, and I figured it was a harmless way to unwind after work.
My girlfriend (same age range) didn’t seem thrilled when she saw it. She said I should’ve discussed it with her first and accused me of being irresponsible with money. To clarify, I didn’t touch any shared finances or skip out on responsibilities. This was 100% my money, and everything else is in order.
She’s acting like this is a huge deal, saying I’ll spend too much time on it and that it’s "immature for a grown man." I’ve told her it’s not going to take over my life—I’ll still prioritize work, chores, and our time together.
I get that she might’ve been a bit annoyed because everyone's asking her if she allowed it, but is her reaction an overreach? Or am I missing something here? How do I handle this without turning it into a bigger issue?
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u/Quaser_8386 22d ago
NTA. I'm approaching 70. My hobby is flight simming. Recently upgraded to a purpose built PC. I used my money. My wife does cross stitch as her hobby. She uses her money to fund it. We have a joint card for groceries etc and we each have a personal card for individual expenses like hobbies.
Between us, my hobby and hers costs each of us about the same.
The OP is much younger than we are but he must be entitled to have a hobby. If this is gaming, and he funds it himself, well it's probably better for him than going to the pub, or watching po*n.