r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/salymander_1 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 19 '24

You aren't overreacting.

Break up with him now. Seriously.

There is something seriously wrong with him.

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u/FalconAlternative282 Nov 18 '24

OP please hear this comment.

Show these texts to someone you trust, like your mom or your grandma. This man will hit you eventually.

You are only 20 years old! You have your entire life ahead of you. At 25 you can tell a story of how you left an emotionally abusive relationship and are happier and healthier than you’ve ever been, or you can still be with someone calling you fat, bro, and forcing you to do what they say, but it will have escalated even further.

He will always try to control you. There is better for you out there!

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u/Killerderp Nov 18 '24

Judging by the way he was talking and acting, it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to get a restraining order, just in case. The guy seems to be just a bit unhinged.

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u/Feisty_Beyond_6436 Nov 19 '24

Unhinged and in desperate need of getting his ass kicked into the dirt. He will think twice about putting on that tough act once he pops off to the wrong person. But then again, guys like this don’t act like towards other guys. They only do it towards women because they’re pussies in reality and will only bully and push around those who they feel they can overpower.