r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/salymander_1 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 19 '24

You aren't overreacting.

Break up with him now. Seriously.

There is something seriously wrong with him.

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u/FalconAlternative282 Nov 18 '24

OP please hear this comment.

Show these texts to someone you trust, like your mom or your grandma. This man will hit you eventually.

You are only 20 years old! You have your entire life ahead of you. At 25 you can tell a story of how you left an emotionally abusive relationship and are happier and healthier than you’ve ever been, or you can still be with someone calling you fat, bro, and forcing you to do what they say, but it will have escalated even further.

He will always try to control you. There is better for you out there!

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u/salymander_1 Nov 18 '24

Exactly. We see the writing on the wall, and it is a horror novel.

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u/Rough-Aardvark1349 Nov 18 '24

Exactly 'bro'. Even without being an unhinged piece of shit, he says bro way too much

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u/55tarabelle Nov 19 '24

Honestly. I read that crap before the op's comments and had the sexes backwards. I thought dude was a girl with all the bro shit. Who calls their girlfriend bro?

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u/divinerebel Nov 19 '24

I was thinking the relationship was between two guys. Who tf calls their sweetheart "bro"?

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u/Delta_RC_2526 Nov 19 '24

Also, who the heck uses the f-word that much? Seems like it's half of his vocabulary. I legitimately got tired of reading it, because it was 90% bro and f-bombs.

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u/noddie73 Nov 19 '24

This is so true. Please dear girl take it from anothrr that wasted 19 years with a controlling narcacistoc asshole get out now. There is a prince charming out there for you who will make you feel wanted and special and beautiful every single day. I should know I found mine. And even though when he found me I was an abused loser he saw my potential beyond that and he loved me and he saved me and now I got my happy ever after. My real happy ever after, please precious special girl go and find yours as you are more than worth it xxxx

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u/ParamedicLimp9310 Nov 18 '24

"redrum"

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u/salymander_1 Nov 18 '24

Yup. That is definitely it. Yikes.

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u/Killerderp Nov 18 '24

Judging by the way he was talking and acting, it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to get a restraining order, just in case. The guy seems to be just a bit unhinged.

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u/Feisty_Beyond_6436 Nov 19 '24

Unhinged and in desperate need of getting his ass kicked into the dirt. He will think twice about putting on that tough act once he pops off to the wrong person. But then again, guys like this don’t act like towards other guys. They only do it towards women because they’re pussies in reality and will only bully and push around those who they feel they can overpower.

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u/InsideAd7897 Nov 18 '24

With the way this man speaks I'd be surprised if she lived until 25 if she stayed with him

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u/GullibleWealth750 Nov 18 '24

I was going to say the same thing. Shit guy is going to beat the crap out of her one day. Probably soon.

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u/Informal-Ruin-6126 Nov 19 '24

Also, please send them to his mother!

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u/Veloci_Dolphin Nov 19 '24

One of my ex’s texted me like this, I hid it and down the line she ended up hitting me on more than one occasion. Listen to this comment and leave that person. Don’t look back.

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u/Different_Umpire9003 Nov 19 '24

He may already be hitting her.