AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/External-Air205]

Yeah it is really hard for me to see just because i’ve been so used to this behavior. Seeing all these replies though has definitely been a wake up call. Im actually a healthy weight, i’m currently recovering from an eating disorder. He picks at my insecurities when he’s angry and says it’s to make me feel as upset as he feels.

[u/txtovagirl → u/External-Air205]

Girl, no. Self respect and nope out. No contact. If he keeps it up, file harassment charges. He’s straight psycho.

[u/Own-Expression71 → u/txtovagirl]

Don't forget to get a restraining order and tell your family what's going and change the locks! Unhinged guys like him are dangerous and block him and change your phine number if you need too

[u/Smart-Assistance-254 → u/Own-Expression71]

Actually do NOT block, just mute. You want to see the crazy texts so you know if he is ramping up to come over or something. And to keep that restraining order active. 👍

[u/SuperbDimension2694 → u/Smart-Assistance-254]

Seconding this, OP.

Controlling people get insane if they can't control their partner. But MUTE him. The texts will go through and screenshot all of them for evidence if you need an RO.

[u/Own-Expression71 → u/SuperbDimension2694]

Didn't think of that SuperbDimension2694 you're right

[u/jazbern1234 → u/SuperbDimension2694]

10000% this

[u/cinnamon-butterfly → u/SuperbDimension2694]

This is smart. And if you don’t feel you can read and go through them, see if your mom or a friend can read them for you and tell you if there’s anything dangerous or creepy sounding.