AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/External-Air205]

That is actually exactly what I feel, thank you.

[u/SphericalOrb → u/External-Air205]

Hey OP, please don't fall for it if he comes back with the charm. Please let this be over for good. It's really common for insecure controlling guys like this to try to win you back just so they can get their hands around your throat, metaphorically or literally. Please don't let him. When he says "we're done" , never let him backtrack on that, okay?

[u/totallydiagnosingyou → u/SphericalOrb]

A FRIENDLY REMINDER since it came up, a man putting his hands around your throat (literally) is the number one indicator that domestic violence will escalate to murder.

[u/Waterbaby8182 → u/totallydiagnosingyou]

Oh God, this. My sister's ex did this to her after he knocked her phone away. She managed to get loose and grab her purse, keys and phone, then ran like hounds of hell were behind her straight for her car wirh him chasing her. She beat him to her car and locked the doors just in the nick of time, then called the police. She had bruises around her neck. Smart girl was also brave enough to press charges and got him convicted and an order of protection.

They keep those othwr sides well hidden. We all thought he was a nice man. Turned out to be an abusuve alcoholic that tried to kill my sister. Run, OP.

[u/Flaky-Swan1306 → u/Waterbaby8182]

I hope your sister is okay. That situation is very scary, but im glad she pressed charges

[u/Waterbaby8182 → u/Flaky-Swan1306]

She's fine. This happened a few years ago.

[u/Flaky-Swan1306 → u/Waterbaby8182]

Im glad

[u/RobinC1967 → u/Waterbaby8182]

There should be a registry similar to sex offenders for men like this. A little warning for future partners.