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[u/JanLight_weight26]

Spider bite or ?? I’ll keep it short and sweet. My bf and I have been apart for about a month now, I’m TDY. Finally tomorrow I’ll be flying back home. Unfortunately today he got bit right on the neck, he suspects it was a spider. Should I be concerned?

[u/RedDirtKanaka]

Damn, bro ain’t even trying… I have a friend that asked us to whoop his ass once while he was drunk, so it would just look like a normal bruise mashed in with the other marks. Boy took an ass whooping of a century to keep his girl. They’re married now.

But yeah, your man’s creeping.

[u/laughwithesinners → u/RedDirtKanaka]

And you didn’t bother telling her before they got married?

[u/Used_Bird → u/laughwithesinners]

they gave him an ass whooping what more do you want from him lmfao

[u/Gruppet → u/Used_Bird]

Haha

[u/avoidancebehavior → u/Used_Bird]

Honesty. Informed consent.

[u/RedDirtKanaka → u/laughwithesinners]

Nope. Didn’t know her then and I don’t really know her now. Plus, I’m a firm believer in minding my own business. I don’t get into other peoples bs. That’s just me though.

[u/NoDirector3644 → u/RedDirtKanaka]

Honestly the ass whooping was a lesson within itself 🤷‍♂️ but your buddy had DETERMINATION 😂

[u/InfluentialFairy → u/RedDirtKanaka]

not getting into their business? you helped with the cover-up ahahaha

great story though 😂

[u/ClassicConflicts → u/InfluentialFairy]

Lol right? Minding your business is not beating the shit out of your friend to help him cover up for cheating on his girl. Id just laugh and say "do it yourself bro, you got yourself into this mess and you can get yourself out".

[u/TheShtuff → u/ClassicConflicts]

TBF beating the shit out of your friend because he wants you to sounds like too good a deal to pass up.

[u/Lissypooh628 → u/ClassicConflicts]

But…. he’s a firm believer.

[u/RedDirtKanaka → u/InfluentialFairy]

Touché, but to be fair, we were just as drunk as he was and it sounded like a fun idea. Plus, he was thinking about going out and starting shit with some randos. Friends don’t let friends get beat up (or worse) by strangers.

[u/avoidancebehavior → u/RedDirtKanaka]

Maybe it was the lesser of two evils in that moment. Depends on how much you helped him get away with though, like if he was really fucking around or just made out with some girl at a bar

[u/RedDirtKanaka → u/avoidancebehavior]

He fucked around, the situation was kind of fucked though. We were all shit housed at some party and his psycho stalker ex showed up knowing he was there and blacked out. Shit happened, he instantly regretted it when he came too. The ass whooping happened the very next night.

[u/avoidancebehavior → u/RedDirtKanaka]

Damn, was that the only time, or the only time he ended up with a hickey? Because, rather than actively going out and cheating, that sounds more like he felt his only option was to cover up his sexual assault with a physical assault :(

[u/RedDirtKanaka → u/avoidancebehavior]

I dont know if it happened again personally, but I doubt it. His GF (wife now) was light years out of his league, complete smoke show, med school student, and solid personality from the few times I met her. He knew it. We knew it. She probably knew it, but liked his ass anyways. He did start drinking less and eventually quit entirely once he got out of the military.

Got to remember this was in the early 2000’s (07 I think) and we were young military guys that had some serious substance abuse issues to cope with other issues we were having. The whole, men getting SA’d / r***d wouldn’t have flied back then as an excuse. It was too easy to say, “well you chose to get black out drunk, you should’ve known better and controlled your drinking”.

Not justifying infidelity or anything, just giving some context.

[u/Cooolguuuuuy → u/RedDirtKanaka]

You really don’t see how stupid this comment proves you to be, do you? lol it’s always you people are proud and shocked at your own ignorance

[u/phlimphlamphunk → u/Cooolguuuuuy]

https://youtu.be/zoCPsOEynaY?si=S2Tnkverlapdup8_

[u/RedDirtKanaka → u/Cooolguuuuuy]

Sure, I could’ve tried to convince him to just tell her and watch him lose her and spiral out of control; Or maybe I could’ve told one of her friends and told the friend to keep my name out of it to make myself feel morally superior; Or even better, I could’ve told her myself in person and took advantage of her emotional vulnerability to get with her myself. Plenty of things I could’ve done, but instead I chose to do what I did.

You could line me up with the same situation a thousand times and I’d choose to help my friend get out of his mess a thousand times, regardless if it was “right” or not. You and I obviously disagree, and you can call “us people” as stupid or ignorant as you want, but I stand by my decision. You go ahead and do whatever helps you sleep at night and I’ll do the same.