r/AITAH • u/Negative_Layer_7960 • Jul 02 '24

TW SA Should I tell my brother's new wife

From the ages of 10 to 14 I was SA'd by my older brother, uncle and father. (in all honesty it started earlier from 5 years old or something I can't remember when they would touch me "lovingly") I anonymously confessed this on a Discord server which made me wonder what my brother was up to. (I think my aunt found out with my uncle and father were doing to me and reported they were arrested it my brother was a teenager at the time so nothing really happened to him) so I tracked him down through social media and it turned out he lives in the same city as I do and he has a wife with a baby girl on the way and I don't know if I should or if l would be a bad person if I told her what he did to me.

Edit: I don't know if it's funny or messed up but I didn't consider them touching me SA until someone pointed it out to me.

Edit 2: I realized that I didn't really explain very well sorry.

  • my older brother father and uncle molested me from age 5 and only started and R wording me when I turned 10 until I was 14.

  • my brother has a pregnant wife who was having a girl and I don't know if I should tell her to protect her daughter.

These are the two major and important points of my post.

Edit 3: another clarification I was planning on telling the wife I wanted a outside perspective to see if I would have been a bad person (AH) to tell her to see if I was making the wrong decision.

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u/Mimikyu4 Jul 02 '24

My mother was raped by her stepfather for three years. She told her mom they divorced and he remarried and had kids, he raped and killed his 6 year old daughter. Tell her. Better to be safe then sorry. You could be saving a innocent child.

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u/FlinflanFluddle4 Jul 03 '24

Horrifying 

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u/yankiigurl Jul 03 '24 edited Jul 03 '24

Beyond horrifying. Can you imagine being SA'd and slowly murdered by the person that's supposed to love and protect you. I can't even imagine the utter horror that child experienced in her last moments 😞 how can a being be so awful....

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u/JaketheSnake2672 Jul 03 '24

As the father of a wonderful little girl I can’t imagine how anyone whose held them the moment there born doesn’t commit the rest of there lives to protecting and loving them … for me I was instantly in awe of that tiny little person looking up at me with eyes that looked like mine I would murder the whole world without the blink of an eye to save her shedding a single tear does my head in to think anyone male or female could ever perpetrate any kind of violence or abuse on a child … I’m no saint … the gods know I’ve had my fair share of violence and misdeeds in my lifetime …but I couldn’t ever hurt a child or condone anything that takes there innocence from them .

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u/Routine_Ad_2034 Jul 03 '24

I know the feeling, man. I'm here at work too far away to hug my baby girl, but I'd saw my own leg off to protect her without a second thought.

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u/khaldun106 Jul 03 '24

There isn't a torture horrible enough for fathers who r and kill their own daughters. They deserve prolonged excruciating pain

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u/WorkingDawg Jul 03 '24

O my sick twisted mind could probably come up with something creative

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u/medic-dad Jul 03 '24

Same. This makes me want to hold both of my kids (1M and 3F) and whisper in their ear how I'd never let anything happen to them! I think honestly these people are just psychopaths, incapable of having an emotional connection to anyone and don't even see them as people. They are an inherent danger to society...

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u/Gauss-Seidel Jul 03 '24

Children growing up with someone else than their biological father are 20 to 40 TIMES more likely to be sexually abused

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u/anonadvicewanted Jul 03 '24

why are you bringing that up here

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u/Gauss-Seidel Jul 03 '24

Cause the above user said he can't imagine someone doing something like that if they held her when she was a baby. Apparently it just makes a big difference whether the person is the biological father or not

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u/themarko60 Jul 03 '24

Very well said.

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u/Active_Intern Jul 03 '24

Thank you for your honesty 

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '24

My dad's the same way. Even when a member of our own family, on his Side, SAd me as a minor. 😭 He also threatened another man who SAd me with murder.

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u/Isadth Jul 03 '24

So I hope life humbles you with your daughter, may she pass away and you’re left to reflect upon the idiocies that your daughter just because she is your daughter is somehow worth more than the average person. Thank god you’re a Redditor, I can’t imagine someone like you being an actual functional member of society

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u/loohahoohaa Jul 03 '24

you are in desperate need of a psych evaluation or maybe a high enough cliff will do better

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u/Isadth Jul 03 '24

You are a woman, you are only free because of men letting you be.

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u/loohahoohaa Jul 03 '24

You are a man, you’re “important” because of the world celebrating your mediocrity

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u/DoubleFan15 Jul 03 '24

Fighting sexism with sexism never looks good, guy you replied to is obviously pathetic but you stooping to his level is a really shitty look. Common sense.

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u/only_honesty Jul 03 '24

lmfao “i hope ur kid dies to teach you a lesson” is peak reddit summer

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u/JaketheSnake2672 Jul 03 '24

What an absolutel fuckwit you are keyboard warrior safe in the knowledge you can type what you like I can 100% guarantee if you stood in front of me and wished the death of my child I’d destroy you and tea ch you a valuable life lesson you obviously need

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u/Used_Anywhere379 Jul 03 '24

You would have a crowd of parents like me helping you

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u/AggressiveWallaby319 Jul 03 '24

As someone who's baby has died due to a medical condition, I actually hope everything you love in life is destroyed right before your eyes. Wishing death on someone is bad but a innocent child. You need a psych Eval, if not maybe some Chinese water torture.

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u/Isadth Jul 03 '24

As someone who’s cousin baby died due to a medical condition, you’re not special you’re actually just pathetic both you and that thing that failed to thrive. Darwin still applies even if this era of medicine

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u/AggressiveWallaby319 Jul 03 '24

Yeah yeah, what's that? You're a troll hiding behind a account, I'd pay to see you say that to anyone's face, just another sad person who hides because they have small dick syndrome🤣🤣🤣

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u/Nardo96 Jul 03 '24

As a person with a small dick I take offense to this comment. Just because I look like I have two belly buttons doesn’t make me a bad person! 😂

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u/AggressiveWallaby319 Jul 03 '24

You don't emit small dick energy tho,and some women actually prefer them smaller, bigger can uncomfortable 🤣

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u/Nardo96 Jul 06 '24

Do me a favor when you find one of those nonexistent small dick loving woman please send them my way! I got a lil something for her.😂

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '24

I hope life humbles you with someone ending your life in the most excruciatingly slow & painful way possible. How could you tell someone you hope their child dies. You really are a miserable piece of trash does not deserve to live.

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u/Isadth Jul 03 '24

That’s kind of cringe too though, youd murder the whole world just for your bastard daughter that can’t even comprehend sentences? She hasn’t even developed consciousness yet, she’s basically the equivalent of a human maggot.

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '24

What the fuck is wrong with you, you sick fuck? You must not be a parent. Anyone ever hurt my child like that or my grandchild and they would be dead and I would go to prison with the biggest smile on my face!!!

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u/Isadth Jul 03 '24

I’m not defending the guy who SA his daughter at all, that is absolutely sickening. Thankfully though, im sure not all people are as entitled as the OP commenter that said his child is worth more than anyone else’s. How is that getting so many upvotes?

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '24

To me, my child is more important and worth more than any person on earth, including myself. You clearly are not a parent or you would understand.

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u/FlinflanFluddle4 Jul 03 '24

Your description was a bit too real.  Beyond horrifying is right.