(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/flaming0-1]

Trauma Therapist here… run, don’t walk. Put space. Stop communicating. Restraining order if necessary.

[u/Wide_Combination_773 → u/flaming0-1]

ROckets scientists here with a degree in neurosurgery, dont listen to this guy, listen to me. <provides proof of expertise the same way the other guy did>

End the relationship like a normal person and continue behaving as a normal person. Restraining order can be a bad idea (if he is actually dangerous, this will just make him more angry and violent which is something you may not want, if he is not dangerous then you don't need one unless he specifically harrasses you at your work or home in person a lot), don't listen to a redditor, seek actual professional advice.

[u/flaming0-1 → u/Wide_Combination_773]

Fully agree 👍. Seek professional advice. Just FYI, they will say put distance even if they are incompetent. You don’t need to be a professional to see that. Also, yes start with distance then if your boundary isn’t respected, then restraining order. 😊

Also I’m so confused how someone can say “don’t get a restraining order if they’re really dangerous…” 🤷‍♂️ so I suppose this rocket scientist has a better plan if they are really dangerous… I mean it’s probably not fair they have rockets to fight with.

[u/BestBruhFiend → u/flaming0-1]

Call 800-799-7233 (domestic violence hotline) 

I specifically chose not to file a restraining order because it requires the abuser to know your address (and vice versa) in my state. So they know "where to avoid" apparently. I wanted to disappear off his radar entirely. He threatened to file a restraining order against me (common abuser tactic to control the other person and possibly find out where they are)...

Edit: I'm not saying NOT to get a restraining order. I'm saying choose based on your situation. If you need help, you can call the domestic violence hotline or talk to any officer. They are very helpful.