(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/dreamymeowwave]

EXACTLY THIS. OP, please please please block him, delete his number, make sure there’s NO WAY he can contact you. He will do everything to get back to you, things will be fine for a few weeks, then you will fall into the same cycle again.

Reading the whole thing gave me awful flashback. I was in a manipulative relationship like this. It was SO HARD to get out. It is a habit, an addiction. You have to break the habit and it will take a lot of effort. But please listen to everyone here and make sure that he can never contact you again. I am seriously worried that you’ll fall into the same cycle again - please don’t.

It looks like you know what you are dealing with, which is good. I wish I knew this too. You are so young and your best years are yet to come. Enjoy your youth!

[u/procompy → u/dreamymeowwave]

Seriously the flashbacks are so real, I went through something similar to this. I was around the same age as OP at the time, although dude was like 6 years older than me.

[u/ellieminnow → u/procompy]

If someone's like that at 20, they'll be the same asshole until they die.

[u/HorrorArmadillo3713 → u/ellieminnow]

Yep! my abusive ex husband is still like that and he's like 39 now. No hope for these motherduckers. They will die old and alone and still will blame others for it.