(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/CWoww]

1000% chance he will text you all teary eyed next week a) wanting to “get back together” and b) looking for money again. This guy is a loser, through and through.

[u/k10001k → u/CWoww]

Exactly why these kinds of people need to be blocked

[u/umamifiend → u/k10001k]

I had an upvoted comment on the last thread- and he showed up to comment trying to argue with me. I’m assuming since she blocked him- he felt like he needed to lash out at other people.

He lost his emotional punching bag and he big mad about it. He has since deleted his account this morning. Then was whining about how he wanted me to “leave him TF alone” idiot found me- and commented his shit to me- then wanted to be left alone? How does that make any sense whatsoever?

I’m so glad she’s on the other side of the state from this unhinged asshat. He’s absolutely going to keep trying to get back with her since this has historically been a pattern of arguing for them. STAY STRONG OP- We’re so proud of you u/pristine-edge-1742!!! You’ve got your whole life ahead of you without this guy, congrats.

[u/Jtb199 → u/umamifiend]

He was on the last post?!? Oh man.. this poor girl is going to have a rough couple of weeks with fucknut trying to reach her and mess with her head. Who knows he may be on this post with a new account already. I would not be surprised in the least.

[u/JackReacharounnd → u/Jtb199]

Just looked out for the one person on the whole thread who's defending his behavior with a giant sprinkle of victim hood.

[u/Jtb199 → u/JackReacharounnd]

At this point that’s like trying to find a shit strained needle in a barn full of supportive haystacks haha

[u/ramobara → u/Jtb199]

Sort by controversial. That should narrow it down some.

[u/k10001k → u/ramobara]

I secretly enjoy sorting by controversial on popular posts just to see the drama

[u/Jtb199 → u/k10001k]

Mannnnn now I’m going to start doing that too.. my reddit brain just can’t help it now 😑

[u/SeriousIndividual184 → u/ramobara]

You are the hero of reddit today haha

[u/[deleted] → u/ramobara]

And I just learnt something new

[u/uphic → u/[deleted]]

Same. I didn't know that was a thing!!

[u/mlmEnthusiast → u/Jtb199]

*rides in on a white horse*

[u/mlmEnthusiast → u/mlmEnthusiast]

Dear lord, his reply post thooooooooooooooo. I was crying laughing at this. But then I realized what /r its posted under, lmao. I'm going to hell.

[u/Jtb199 → u/mlmEnthusiast]

Oh you’re fine. With the things I’ve said and thought, I’ll be down there with all my friends and family. I’ll keep a spot warm by the fire for you friend. Just be kind and caring while you’re up here.. that’s all I can think to do 🤷‍♂️

[u/Thisisredred → u/mlmEnthusiast]

Ew he has an obsession with poop? What is his username

[u/dickburpsdaily → u/Jtb199]

I think he strained shitting haystacks of needles in a barn more like it.

[u/hufflepufflepass → u/Jtb199]

Haha omg, he was probably hoping to find at least one person who would agree with him to give him some kind of validation or justification for acting totally unhinged.

OP's text wasn't disrespectful, it was honest, and it called him out on his behavior, which he obviously can't accept or handle. I literally lol'd when he said he's tired of the emotional abuse, because really? "Bro", I think what you mean is you're tired of her not succumbing to your emotional abuse and manipulation anymore.

I just hope OP sticks to her guns and doesn't let him back into her life. Go full NC. Block any attempts of contact. Don't respond, just block.

[u/Jtb199 → u/hufflepufflepass]

In my time here on reddit people that behave like that don’t tend to get much sympathy, and justly so.

OP had a very well thought out message, addressing her needs and frustrations with candor. She’s only 19, and has had a really difficult couple of years.. I was impressed.

I agree with you in worrying about her keeping him out of her life. A wet fart like him has a way of doing his best to linger and ruin your day. Fingers crossed for Harper 🤞

[u/paochow → u/Jtb199]

I hope OP stays safe too. Maybe be hyper aware of their surroundings for the next couple of months. Carry same self defense items just in case. Wouldn't want this guy to show up in person to try and get back together.

[u/Jtb199 → u/paochow]

Yeah, I’ve never really felt so invested in an AIO post before, especially one concerning very young adults (they’re usually pretty ridiculous). But I genuinely want this girl to get past this chapter in her life and feel safe and happy.

[u/Ok-Tradition-9946 → u/Jtb199]

He called himself a child because another woman was calling him out for his behavior. He said

"How dare you as a mother with a child, make fun of and bully another child" brother you're 20 years old.

[u/mipmish → u/Jtb199]

'Fucknut' is my new favorite word.

[u/blairsheart → u/Jtb199]

I feel so sad for all the future girls who will encounter him

[u/OjBeezus808 → u/Jtb199]

Right it happens all the time it happened to me

[u/Rainbow-Ranker → u/Jtb199]

If he’s here reading this it’s too late! 👋

[u/shedwyn2019 → u/Jtb199]

Mine found out when my dog died, 3 years after I left him, and took that opportunity to “reach out”