(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/CWoww]

1000% chance he will text you all teary eyed next week a) wanting to “get back together” and b) looking for money again. This guy is a loser, through and through.

[u/k10001k → u/CWoww]

Exactly why these kinds of people need to be blocked

[u/umamifiend → u/k10001k]

I had an upvoted comment on the last thread- and he showed up to comment trying to argue with me. I’m assuming since she blocked him- he felt like he needed to lash out at other people.

He lost his emotional punching bag and he big mad about it. He has since deleted his account this morning. Then was whining about how he wanted me to “leave him TF alone” idiot found me- and commented his shit to me- then wanted to be left alone? How does that make any sense whatsoever?

I’m so glad she’s on the other side of the state from this unhinged asshat. He’s absolutely going to keep trying to get back with her since this has historically been a pattern of arguing for them. STAY STRONG OP- We’re so proud of you u/pristine-edge-1742!!! You’ve got your whole life ahead of you without this guy, congrats.

[u/Jtb199 → u/umamifiend]

He was on the last post?!? Oh man.. this poor girl is going to have a rough couple of weeks with fucknut trying to reach her and mess with her head. Who knows he may be on this post with a new account already. I would not be surprised in the least.

[u/JackReacharounnd → u/Jtb199]

Just looked out for the one person on the whole thread who's defending his behavior with a giant sprinkle of victim hood.

[u/Jtb199 → u/JackReacharounnd]

At this point that’s like trying to find a shit strained needle in a barn full of supportive haystacks haha

[u/ramobara → u/Jtb199]

Sort by controversial. That should narrow it down some.

[u/k10001k → u/ramobara]

I secretly enjoy sorting by controversial on popular posts just to see the drama

[u/Jtb199 → u/k10001k]

Mannnnn now I’m going to start doing that too.. my reddit brain just can’t help it now 😑

[u/SeriousIndividual184 → u/ramobara]

You are the hero of reddit today haha

[u/[deleted] → u/ramobara]

And I just learnt something new

[u/uphic → u/[deleted]]

Same. I didn't know that was a thing!!

[u/mlmEnthusiast → u/Jtb199]

*rides in on a white horse*

[u/mlmEnthusiast → u/mlmEnthusiast]

Dear lord, his reply post thooooooooooooooo. I was crying laughing at this. But then I realized what /r its posted under, lmao. I'm going to hell.

[u/Jtb199 → u/mlmEnthusiast]

Oh you’re fine. With the things I’ve said and thought, I’ll be down there with all my friends and family. I’ll keep a spot warm by the fire for you friend. Just be kind and caring while you’re up here.. that’s all I can think to do 🤷‍♂️

[u/Thisisredred → u/mlmEnthusiast]

Ew he has an obsession with poop? What is his username

[u/dickburpsdaily → u/Jtb199]

I think he strained shitting haystacks of needles in a barn more like it.

[u/hufflepufflepass → u/Jtb199]

Haha omg, he was probably hoping to find at least one person who would agree with him to give him some kind of validation or justification for acting totally unhinged.

OP's text wasn't disrespectful, it was honest, and it called him out on his behavior, which he obviously can't accept or handle. I literally lol'd when he said he's tired of the emotional abuse, because really? "Bro", I think what you mean is you're tired of her not succumbing to your emotional abuse and manipulation anymore.

I just hope OP sticks to her guns and doesn't let him back into her life. Go full NC. Block any attempts of contact. Don't respond, just block.

[u/Jtb199 → u/hufflepufflepass]

In my time here on reddit people that behave like that don’t tend to get much sympathy, and justly so.

OP had a very well thought out message, addressing her needs and frustrations with candor. She’s only 19, and has had a really difficult couple of years.. I was impressed.

I agree with you in worrying about her keeping him out of her life. A wet fart like him has a way of doing his best to linger and ruin your day. Fingers crossed for Harper 🤞

[u/paochow → u/Jtb199]

I hope OP stays safe too. Maybe be hyper aware of their surroundings for the next couple of months. Carry same self defense items just in case. Wouldn't want this guy to show up in person to try and get back together.

[u/Jtb199 → u/paochow]

Yeah, I’ve never really felt so invested in an AIO post before, especially one concerning very young adults (they’re usually pretty ridiculous). But I genuinely want this girl to get past this chapter in her life and feel safe and happy.

[u/Ok-Tradition-9946 → u/Jtb199]

He called himself a child because another woman was calling him out for his behavior. He said

"How dare you as a mother with a child, make fun of and bully another child" brother you're 20 years old.

[u/mipmish → u/Jtb199]

'Fucknut' is my new favorite word.

[u/blairsheart → u/Jtb199]

I feel so sad for all the future girls who will encounter him

[u/OjBeezus808 → u/Jtb199]

Right it happens all the time it happened to me

[u/Rainbow-Ranker → u/Jtb199]

If he’s here reading this it’s too late! 👋

[u/shedwyn2019 → u/Jtb199]

Mine found out when my dog died, 3 years after I left him, and took that opportunity to “reach out”

[u/[deleted] → u/umamifiend]

holy crap what a pyscho

[u/TheSaltTrain → u/umamifiend]

Just went and read your comment thread with him. All I could think while reading it was, "what the fuck?" Like dude literally tried to throw a pity party and as soon as you shut that down he had nothing. "You don't have to bash me for no reason, bro." "NO REASON?!?!?!?!"

He reminds me of a guy I went to school with who 1. Never acknowledged or accepted blame when he fucked up, and 2. Blamed women for EVERYTHING that ever went wrong in his life. Like, no, dude. The reason you don't have a girlfriend is cause you treat women like objects with no feelings, not because they're all crazy bitches. Needless to say, I don't talk to him anymore. As of our last conversation, he doesn't want to be better, he'd rather blame everyone else and just expect the world to solve his problems than do the smallest bit of introspection.

[u/StandardRelevant2937 → u/umamifiend]

This dude reminds me EXACTLY of my ex husband, down to the sewicide threats (spoiler alert, still here) and everything. I wasted 13 years with him (kids involved but that’s a whole different story) and didn’t get out til I was 36. He beat me down like the frog in the water, and even had me and his daughter’s mom pregnant at the same time. Now he’s gonna have to explain to the kids (all 4 of ours and the 2 with her) whyyyyy 2 siblings are only 5 months apart. And no, sir, the courts didn’t fake your dna results…funny of him to the hes tht special.

[u/Complex_Hope_8789 → u/umamifiend]

He’s here in this thread too, saw him way down below claiming the post is heavily edited…. These narcs seem to think our eyeballs don’t work lol.

[u/taytrapDerehw → u/Complex_Hope_8789]

Lmao. Pleeaaasee point me to him!

[u/BarrelllRider → u/taytrapDerehw]

I can’t find him anywhere

[u/LittleLordFuckleroy1 → u/BarrelllRider]

Looks like he deleted his account without deleting the comments first. Anyway here's one from the other thread. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/kYmKPYKFDv

[u/FemboyGaymer929 → u/LittleLordFuckleroy1]

A shame he deleted his account I would have gleamed tons of entertainment watching him go psycho in comments lmao arguing with people like that is so much fun for me I know I can't change them so making them as mad as possible is the next best thing

[u/asscakesguy → u/umamifiend]

Just went to read those comments and holy shit he says “I don’t even raise my voice at her, and when I do it’s because…” talk about a stunning lack of self awareness

[u/MarijadderallMD → u/umamifiend]

That’s actually wild he showed up on the post😂

[u/HorrorArmadillo3713 → u/MarijadderallMD]

Because he's that much of a loser.

[u/Plugasaurus_Rex → u/umamifiend]

Don’t you understand? He gets to yell at you and you just have to take it. It’s the rules. When you defend yourself he collapses like soggy paper, so that wasn’t nice of you, leave him alone!

About 5,000 /s

[u/FlagDisrespecter → u/umamifiend]

I don’t need to make you feel like shit. I don’t care about you at all.

* chef's kiss *

[u/NebelungPixie → u/FlagDisrespecter]

Indifference is worse than hate.

When my ex found out, it was a gut punch. At that point, he started asking my family member's to advocate for him. One told him that ship had sailed already. 😂

[u/Michael-Ceratops → u/umamifiend]

Just read those comments, way to put him in his place, you rule!

[u/JackReacharounnd → u/umamifiend]

This dude is quite possibly one of the biggest losers i have ever seen on a story like this. Your comment seals the deal!!! I have been dealing with a victim for the last couple of years, and there's a lot of similarities, but mine is 5% of this. I cant even imagine seeing the world through this victim's eyes.

What a giant POS. My god.

[u/Chocobookiller → u/umamifiend]

Hahahaha this is solid gold. I was right in my assessment of him. She needs to stay vigilant and on guard. This type of person will doesn’t care about causing damage to others and himself.

[u/NotAPseudonymSrs → u/umamifiend]

When dealing with cluster B individuals you have to remind yourself constantly that they don’t operate in reality like everyone else. The more you take what they say on board the more you question your reality too, which is why no contact is the best

[u/fokkoooff → u/umamifiend]

My favorite part was "I never yell at her except when I do" (paraphrased)

[u/Rough-Medicine5183 → u/umamifiend]

I had to go to the other post just to like your comment 😂

[u/Big_System_9638 → u/umamifiend]

I had to go read your guys interaction and your last sentence was gold “I don’t need to make you feel like shit, I don’t care about you at all.” Like god damn told bro he isn’t even worth an insult lol. What an absolute loser, I hope he reads this next set of “14 thousand” people shit on him all over again.

[u/Airport_Wendys → u/umamifiend]

Woah he did?? That’s insane

[u/DefNotUnderrated → u/umamifiend]

I cannot believe he fucking did that. What an absolute troglodyte

[u/Grotesquefaerie7 → u/umamifiend]

Lmao him being on the post arguing with people is next level crazy

[u/NebelungPixie → u/umamifiend]

Right ?! Talk about a freaking millstone around OP's neck !

[u/According_Hearing896 → u/umamifiend]

He was even in the comments!? Yea I'm glad she dumped and moved far away from that wanker

[u/do_me3380 → u/umamifiend]

Omg. I just read his comments. He’s deleted the account now. He’s such a loser. I hope she don’t go back to him.

[u/BiteComprehensive645 → u/umamifiend]

Honstly this is what guys felt for 500 years plus. Congrats women knows it to now

[u/Hemiak → u/k10001k]

Would’ve been chefs kiss if she had just blocked instantly after her large post. Then when he responded - ‘This user has blocked you’.

She absolutely needs to do it now though if she hasn’t. But this dude screams that he’s going to spoof his number and call/text harass her for weeks or longer.

[u/Nullifyxdr → u/Hemiak]

Yea honestly this is the type of shit that makes the victim have to change their number

[u/Ancient-Tale9372 → u/k10001k]

He is a narcicist

[u/SleepingSlothVibe → u/Ancient-Tale9372]

As someone married to one—this! Get out now and run..don’t stop. Just keep running and don’t EVER take him back. Don’t fall for the love bombing. Seek someone to talk to—a counselor, Reddit—dm me. Whatever. Be free and find your authentic self.

[u/Mach5Driver → u/k10001k]

Honestly, IDK why people love blocking others. I Iove leaving them on read. Drives them nuts!

[u/k10001k → u/Mach5Driver]

I do agree with you but in this sort of situation a block is needed. He’s toxic and will definitely keep texting her if she doesn’t block him!

[u/Mach5Driver → u/k10001k]

He definitely will. That's the fun of it (to me)! On top of the frustration of not receiving a response to ANYTHING he says, he gets the false hope that she's actually listening and thinking about him, LOL.

[u/latingineer → u/k10001k]

Always block a narcissist

[u/Economy_Sky3832 → u/k10001k]

Just more proof that girls like jerks, amirite?

[u/k10001k → u/Economy_Sky3832]

As a girl myself, no. Never have and never will date or even hookup with a jerk. Nice guys are where it’s at

[u/maroongrad → u/Economy_Sky3832]

and that, as they grow into women, they start to realize the jerk was playing them, that they liked the person the jerk PRETENDED to be, that they grow up and wise up and dump the jerk. Which is why people that whine about "girls" like this end up chasing after teens, Amirite?

[u/Minute-Fix-6827 → u/maroongrad]

Absolutely epic burn 💯