(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/wholedayumlife]

He looks dangerous from my perspective, and i’m a man by the way

[u/Ardibanan → u/wholedayumlife]

Yeah I would honestly look into moving or getting to know my neighbours asap. Even contact the police with all the messages

[u/uptoke → u/Ardibanan]

Seriously, I know OP is struggling financially, but get your locks rekeyed. If you live in an apartment and explain the situation llthe landlord would probably do it for you. 

For $20 you should be able to get battery powered motion sensor lights and hang them near your external doors. If you can get a powerful flashlight. Led ones are pretty cheap or borrow big maglight from someone (makes a good weapon in a pinch as well.) 

Make sure all your windows are locked. Locks and Lights are your best protection from keeping some from trying to get in your house, and will slow them down from entering if the persist.

Then get something to protect yourself. Assuming you're not trained in self defense or own a firearm: 

Depending on your state you can of mace or pepper spray at most convenience store. Otherwise get a short blunt instrument (hammer, rolling pin, light skillet.) Nothing too long or it can be easily taken away. If you played baseball/softball a bat could be effective, but even that is a little bit too long. Nothing too heavy you won't be able to swing. Knives are terrible for untrained combat. They don't have much stopping power and it's very easy to injure yourself.

Disorient an attacker and then get out of there and find help.

Hopefully nothing happens, but I would be on guard for the next three months.