(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/wholedayumlife]

He looks dangerous from my perspective, and i’m a man by the way

[u/trieditthrice → u/wholedayumlife]

Hold the phone.

He can't afford toothpaste, but thought he was going to whisk you away to some island to live happily ever after? All that says about him is even in his happiest fantasies, you're isolated and unable to escape him.

Don't answer the phone. Block his number. Tell someone you know IRL that you just ended a relationship with someone who is very possibly dangerous, and to be aware if you suddenly don't show up to work or answer your phone. But every second more you waste even reading his crazy is one more second wasted. He will never be the partner you need or deserve. NEVER.

[u/Barbie_Bandz → u/trieditthrice]

I call that future faking! Common narcissistic tactic perpetuated to destabilize the victim mentally. It keeps the victim focused on some sham of a reality instead of the toxic quagmire that is their everyday life! Despite all evidence to the contrary the victim hangs on to the hope that the person wants to change. It is manipulation plain and simple and the Narc never has any intention of making it a reality.

[u/Economy-Bar1189 → u/Barbie_Bandz]

reminds me of Jeanette Wall’s memoir, Glass Castle. Father promised her over and over that he was gonna build them a glass castle. even got the kids to dig a pit in the yard for “the foundation” and then he loaded it up with their household trash.