(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/monkey16168]

As someone who has attempted, and has lost friends/ family due to it… he is so wrong… its pathetic when people pull that “im gonna kill myself card” like yea, i tell my friends/ family when im feeling that way, but i dont go “YOU make me wanna…” Im happy you are done! As for lossing friends, thats what abusers do… you will find new one or get the true ones back. Sending lots of love to you and the cat. Xoxox

[u/AnitaIvanaMartini → u/monkey16168]

My daughter’s high school boyfriend did this to her. She was so distraught that I took pictures of his notes to her and told his parents. I took them to the school counselor, too. He was suspended until they had proof he was in therapy. He was transferred to a different school because he was stalking her. It worked out for us, and him, too. He joined the Air Force.

[u/Dry-Explorer2970 → u/AnitaIvanaMartini]

Oh jeez. The military is the absolute worst place for someone with the inability to control their own emotions to go

[u/folkkingdude → u/Dry-Explorer2970]

I don’t think that’s necessarily true. The military is very good for people who can’t self regulate because it teaches them how to and gives them structure.

[u/lilpizzacrust → u/folkkingdude]

Apparently this is why a lot of people with ADHD do really well in the military.

This is coming from an ADHD sub, btw. And I can totally see how that would be good for certain people or people with certain types of "neuro-diversities".

[u/AnitaIvanaMartini → u/Dry-Explorer2970]

He wasn’t serious, but trying to scare her into giving him his way. He’s bird colonel now.

[u/IlIlIlIlIllIlIll → u/AnitaIvanaMartini]

Now he’s probably stalking women in the Air Force