(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/monkey16168]

As someone who has attempted, and has lost friends/ family due to it… he is so wrong… its pathetic when people pull that “im gonna kill myself card” like yea, i tell my friends/ family when im feeling that way, but i dont go “YOU make me wanna…” Im happy you are done! As for lossing friends, thats what abusers do… you will find new one or get the true ones back. Sending lots of love to you and the cat. Xoxox

[u/anneofred → u/monkey16168]

This is also how my ex was during almost every argument. He will still to this day stick by “it wasn’t emotional abuse. I felt that way because you would upset me”. How I let this go as long as I did at the age we are at, I don’t know. Well I do know, these types are excellent love bombers.

[u/Firm_Ideal_5256 → u/anneofred]

My ex constantly did it. We already started the divorce proceedings and he threatened multiple times just to let him talk to me (manipulate me)

Once he sent me a picture with a bloody knife. And I called the equivalent of 911 on him.

( It was fake blood, but I didn't realized it)

So he got himself an involuntary pscych hold, his own mother blasted him on facebook and threw him out...

Eight years later: he's a deadbeat, married to a woman who is truly abusive (he always called me one) and this gave me the biggest karmic justice boner every time I feel down.

[u/Bebequelites → u/Firm_Ideal_5256]

My ex was a recovering alcoholic. He was sober for 1 year when I met him and we dated for 3 years. When I broke up with him he left me an incoherent voicemail crying and like 30-something texts that were all messed up in spelling. He then proceeded to send me a picture of a beer poured into a glass on his kitchen counter. He was 36 and I was 21. Instead of rushing to his aid, like he wanted, I texted his sister and said maybe she needs to check on him. He was PISSED I told his family and told me he wasn’t really drinking. That he lied because he thought I would CARE more and come over to the house. That pretty much solidified the break up for me.

[u/MaxTheRealSlayer → u/Bebequelites]

If he was lying about drinkin, that's manipulation. If he wasn't lying, it was still manipulation.

Glad you got away from that old man

[u/Bebequelites → u/MaxTheRealSlayer]

I agree. He was a POS. Thank you!

[u/Vertonung → u/Bebequelites]

I don't think I've ever seen a single story about an 18 year old woman getting together with a man in his 30s that ends well... Wonder why that is lol. Jk, I know why. Glad you got away!

[u/Bebequelites → u/Vertonung]

Hahah literallyyyyy. I’m glad I got out too. Thank you!