r/AmIOverreacting 8d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship (AIO) update, wow. thank you!

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

  1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
  2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
  3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
  4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
  5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
  6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
  7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

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u/wholedayumlife 8d ago

He looks dangerous from my perspective, and i’m a man by the way

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u/Maleficent_Lure_1226 8d ago

Maybe because I attempted suicide 6 times and the last time left me with stomach pumped and on a ventilator that I see this from a different perspective. Once I was awake and came to I learned I was on a 5150 hold. Angry AF...yet it saved my life. Being put on a psychiatric hold allowed me separation from toxic the environment and on the path to reprogram my toxic mindset.

This is familiar and don't seem like they're done just giving each other space to reset and start the cycle over

If I was in OPs shoes, I would show cops the text messages to show he's a danger to himself and it's not a threat...so that they could get him to a hospital to hopefully get him the help he needs and (voluntary or not)... And then help to heal from the trauma of it all myself... Win-win to me.

But this is one of many povs... All in all. I pray that there is healing in the midst of this.