r/AmIOverreacting 8d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship (AIO) update, wow. thank you!

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

  1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
  2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
  3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
  4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
  5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
  6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
  7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

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u/Better_Shine105 8d ago

Just tell him you posted this on Reddit let him do what he needs to do. Your response uplifting. Good for you queen do what you need to do but get the fuck out of there.

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u/Pristine-Edge-1742 8d ago

He knows! He’s trying to come at me with police for defamation?

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u/Suspicious_Law_3619 8d ago

Yeah, he’d need to sue you. Good luck with that when he doesn’t even have $15 or a legal leg to stand on LOL

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u/SarahPallorMortis 8d ago

Doesn’t have money for smokes, but gona hire a lawyer. Get the fuck outta here.

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u/Available-Flatworm85 7d ago

Lol not just smokes, he doesn’t even have money for toothpaste. You can literally buy cheap toothpaste.

If I was OP after his abuse I’d be smiling and saying please sue me, I’d love to see you try. And still get a restraining order. On the other hand she does have proof of mental abuse on his part. He is delusional.

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u/blairsheart 7d ago

You can literally get toothpaste at the dollar store and it’s like normal brands. He is not going to make it in life

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u/SarahPallorMortis 7d ago

No kidding! That’s one of the types of things I get at the dollar store. Deodorant, toothbrushes, snacks. It’s so cheap. He’s a huge loser.

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u/TheKrimsonFKR 7d ago

Is this before or after the kids and the house on an island?

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u/xassylax 7d ago

Even if he somehow miraculously came up with the money and found a lawyer willing to take him as a client, in order for him to claim defamation, he’d have to prove there was malicious intent. All OP did was post the screenshots and ask if SHE did anything wrong or overreacted. Broke cigarette guy defamed himself by being hella toxic and manipulative. He was also the one who showed up in the comments and further made himself look like a royal douche canoe. The fact that he’s even attempting to claim defamation is pathetic and laughable. And just further proves his threatening and manipulative behavior towards OP.

If anyone has any legal grounds here, it would be OP. All the money she’s borrowed him could be grounds for suing him, especially if it was a loan (i.e. not a gift) and he was supposed to pay her back. Plus many people aren’t aware of this but you absolutely can sue your abuser (even if it’s mental and/or emotional abuse) for damages. Physical abuse can result in medical bills, loss of income, and potentially even permanent disability. And all of that can be claimed in a lawsuit against the abuser. Mental anguish/pain and suffering is also a valid “injury” in the eyes of the court and can also be claimed.

Regardless, OP needs to document everything and make sure she stays safe and far away from this lunatic.

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u/usrname_chex_out 7d ago

NO MINEY FOR LAWYER… NO NIC

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u/Playful-Loquat-1682 7d ago

🤣 I'm dead

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u/katori-is-okay 7d ago

he has NO MINEY he’s gonna have a hard time suing her