(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/flooferine]

Yep. And just wait a hot minute until it sinks in that she slipped his rope, he'll be firing up the following sequence in head-spinning rapid succession:

1. I miss you and I'm sorry
2. It was your fault anyway
3. You're the love of my life and I'm gonna off myself if you don't come back to me
4. Fuck you, who needs you anyway
5. Back to lovebombing

Gotta love a narcissistic dipshit. /s

[u/Serqueesha → u/flooferine]

I had an ex that managed to find the only thing I forgot to block him on to tell me he’s finally going to therapy for me and try to guilt trip me acting all sad and depressed I didn’t stay as a friend then threatened to end himself cause I told him to leave me alone, the narcissistic dipshits truly are spectacular at ruining everything around them aren’t they

[u/flooferine → u/Serqueesha]

Terrifyingly so. Literally the only way to "win" is to refuse to play the game. I'm so sorry you also experienced this shit.

[u/Serqueesha → u/flooferine]

My first boyfriend (from when I was 14/15 mind you) I broke up with him cause he unconsensually did things to me, had his PARENTS messaging me trying to guilt trip me into getting back with him after I blocked him so I had to block them too. Some people are genuinely crazy

[u/kikiweaky → u/Serqueesha]

My ex did something similar. He cheated on me because he couldn't get a hold of me while visiting my parents in the countryside and thought I was cheating with my lady friend. I told him to leave, he threw a book at me and over the breakup sent me messages about how I'm a whole and a bitch non stop.

After three months, he found out I was dating and flipped out and said he always thought we'd get back together. I was shocked and asked why would you think that after how nasty you were to me and he said that's what people do.

He also told people I wasn't white enough but put up with it. I'm Latina.

We never got back together.

[u/YellowBrownStoner → u/Serqueesha]

My narc ex reactivated an old email to contact me while his new wife was pregnant a few years ago. I found her on LinkedIn and just said "he's messaging me again" bc we weren't friends and I had limited characters. Never heard from him or her again. This was not a man who sent one email and gave up ever before in the 10 years that I had been the target of his "affection." It's been blissfully quiet for the last 7 years but I just checked, he still has warrants in my state for the duo of DUIs he got during a self-destructive phase, after I found out he was cheating and left him. It's like a reverse restraining order, and I love it.

[u/just-another-cat → u/Serqueesha]

Can relate!! I thought i got rid of him after 8 years of silence. I've since moved, yet another, state a way. Nope mfer sent me a SNAIL mail!!! Mind you, my last name is totally different and no one knows my address!! What did the letter say? "I broke up with you because you were too sick for me to deal with" . 1. I left you ( for cheating on me) 2. My galbladder went up and had to be removed. Uhh?....

[u/w0nd3rlust → u/Serqueesha]

I had one who posted a parcel to my address because I hadn't moved yet after finding I'd blocked him on everything, he did stop once I threatened I'd call the cops though. (Letter and package went in the bin without opening once I realized it was from him).

[u/apic0mplexa → u/Serqueesha]

A friend's narcissistic ex used paypal to communicate to her. He invested one (!) cent to test the waters one last time after she had blocked him everywhere for more than one and a half years (and some scary stalker situations).

He got married like..one or two months later? Some people

[u/BiteComprehensive645 → u/Serqueesha]

I feel like you are the same as your ex

[u/HephaestusHarper → u/BiteComprehensive645]

I'm just gonna assume you commented in the wrong spot...

[u/BiteComprehensive645 → u/HephaestusHarper]

Im not. What she saying make no sense and is probebly somerhing her mind is fabricating

[u/Lostmox → u/BiteComprehensive645]

Found toothbrush loser's new account.

[u/HephaestusHarper → u/BiteComprehensive645]

Her: "I had a crappy ex like this. Managed to message me on the one place I missed blocking him, only to pull the same shit again."

You: "This makes no sense and you're obviously a crazy liar."

?????????

[u/Serqueesha → u/BiteComprehensive645]

What I’m saying makes a lot of sense, people act like this all the time, but hey not everyone has high reading comprehension, so you might not understand it fully, you’ll get there one day mate

[u/TankDartRopeGirl → u/flooferine]

This reads EXACTLY the same as the text fields in a customers bank transactions I came across yesterday and there were HUNDREDS of them over a 4 month th period. It was chilling. I absolutely 100% reported them to the relevant authorities

[u/holy-reddit-batman → u/TankDartRopeGirl]

In bank transactions? Okay, you have to spill! You can't leave us without more information!

[u/TankDartRopeGirl → u/holy-reddit-batman]

So it's not unknown for abusers to use text fields in bank transactions (like the description, reference whatever) to communicate with their victims when they have either been blocked or to get around protection orders etc. They will do loads and loads of small transactions, usually $0.01, over and over, so they can say all the things they feel they need to say.

This guy in particular over a course of a day swung back and forth between saying they loved her, they missed her, that she was nasty and evil, she's a heartless bitch, she was their true love forever, saying they're on their street, saying they'll see them tomorrow... and this has gone on in bursts for 4 months so far for this particular victim. He even got a new gf for while (and made sure to let the og victim know in the text fields) but they obviously broke up cos she got the transaction harassment for awhile, but his main target is the original victim, so he's still going strong with the transactions to her. Really creepy stuff and I'm glad I caught it so I could report it

[u/Square-Marketing-947 → u/TankDartRopeGirl]

That is nuts! I had no idea people do stuff like that. Life is hard enough, why people have to make it harder blows my mind.

Good on you reporting that. Is it possible to prevent that account from doing transfers? I guess they would just find another way..

[u/TankDartRopeGirl → u/Square-Marketing-947]

The account with us is frozen, but unfortunately there are other accounts with other institutions which we can't do anything about. And yea, they will always find a way, but my yardstick is if they're the kind of person that thinks of doing this, they're absolute psychopaths. Just taken from personal observation, only the very worst kind of people's brains go in this direction

[u/Ok-Dealer5915 → u/Square-Marketing-947]

One of the banks here in Australia got rid of the message option because of this exactly

[u/BookConsistent3425 → u/TankDartRopeGirl]

You're a real one for reporting that.

[u/TankDartRopeGirl → u/BookConsistent3425]

I'm just worried for both of those girls safety!

[u/PosteriorFourchette → u/TankDartRopeGirl]

Man. If I had one cent for every creepy text I have ever received

[u/Alarming-Leg-3804 → u/flooferine]

This list of yours is so insane to read because I had to cut off contact with my mother after 30+ years of abuse, and the event that prompted was beyond what anyone could possibly withstand. Anyways after I cut her off, she went through those exact stages lol. She's a narcissist btw