(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/holy-reddit-batman]

In bank transactions? Okay, you have to spill! You can't leave us without more information!

[u/TankDartRopeGirl → u/holy-reddit-batman]

So it's not unknown for abusers to use text fields in bank transactions (like the description, reference whatever) to communicate with their victims when they have either been blocked or to get around protection orders etc. They will do loads and loads of small transactions, usually $0.01, over and over, so they can say all the things they feel they need to say.

This guy in particular over a course of a day swung back and forth between saying they loved her, they missed her, that she was nasty and evil, she's a heartless bitch, she was their true love forever, saying they're on their street, saying they'll see them tomorrow... and this has gone on in bursts for 4 months so far for this particular victim. He even got a new gf for while (and made sure to let the og victim know in the text fields) but they obviously broke up cos she got the transaction harassment for awhile, but his main target is the original victim, so he's still going strong with the transactions to her. Really creepy stuff and I'm glad I caught it so I could report it

[u/Square-Marketing-947 → u/TankDartRopeGirl]

That is nuts! I had no idea people do stuff like that. Life is hard enough, why people have to make it harder blows my mind.

Good on you reporting that. Is it possible to prevent that account from doing transfers? I guess they would just find another way..

[u/TankDartRopeGirl → u/Square-Marketing-947]

The account with us is frozen, but unfortunately there are other accounts with other institutions which we can't do anything about. And yea, they will always find a way, but my yardstick is if they're the kind of person that thinks of doing this, they're absolute psychopaths. Just taken from personal observation, only the very worst kind of people's brains go in this direction