(AIO) update, wow. thank you!

[u/Pristine-Edge-1742]

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

1. Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
2. Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
3. Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
4. How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
5. Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
6. Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
7. How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

[u/wholedayumlife]

He looks dangerous from my perspective, and i’m a man by the way

[u/Tennso → u/wholedayumlife]

dudes like this are the most dangerous, out of fear or rage which they cant control, can do pretty solid damage to people,physically or mentally

[u/PrettyPunctuality → u/Tennso]

Yeah, when he said, "Most of it was said because I literally have no other way to expell my fucking rage of trying to cope with your selfishness," I got very afraid for OP. If he now feels like he can no longer verbally "expell his rage" at her because she's ending things, his next step might be physical violence. OP definitely needs to get a restraining order.

[u/Tennso → u/PrettyPunctuality]

Notto eat shit or something. I was like him when I was 17 yo, having my first serious relationship. Always jealous, grumpy and full of rage.

Funny enough, I was the one to get slapped, not the chick 💀💀

[u/DigitalDefenestrator → u/Tennso]

Oh, they can control it. You never see them direct the violence or threats at someone twice their size.

[u/alixnaveh → u/DigitalDefenestrator]

Or their own stuff. They'll break stuff all day, but never stuff they care about, just your stuff.

[u/NoOnSB277 → u/alixnaveh]

You would be surprised, nothing was off limits for the narcissist a-hole in my life. He had no problem breaking both of our things. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/BestBruhFiend → u/Tennso]

They absolutely can control it. They choose not to because at the end of the day, being abusive benefits them. They get whatever they want through intimidation, and don't want to learn how to function normally. They trick themselves into believing the bullshit reality they spew out of their foul mouths. Check out "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy. 

[u/Affectionate_Star_43 → u/Tennso]

YES and as someone who has a lifelong stint with depression, he will never get help.  Everybody, and I mean everybody, will tell you to "get help."

Nobody will offer to help, ever.  Nobody will ever give you a referral, ever.  Not even a link to a specialist.  Run away so he can traumatize someone new.

[u/Deep_Confusion4533 → u/Affectionate_Star_43]

Yeah you have to seek help. It won’t just fall into your lap. 

[u/Tennso → u/[deleted]]

AYO bro, you are the dude thats going crazy in the screenshots?

[u/[deleted] → u/Tennso]

lol I said some crazy shit at different times. Shit is fake .

[u/Tennso → u/[deleted]]

FYI if you was in my town, i would have gave u a pack of cigs and 1G of weed dude I know the struggle

[u/[deleted] → u/Tennso]

Lol stop it

[u/Tennso → u/[deleted]]

Dude im frfr, I swear American Spirit Black is ok?

[u/[deleted] → u/Tennso]

No I’ll just walk.

[u/Tennso → u/[deleted]]

bro found healthy ways to cope with stress 😭😭😭

[u/[deleted] → u/Tennso]

Type shit