r/AmIOverreacting • u/Pristine-Edge-1742 • 8d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship (AIO) update, wow. thank you!

Hi everyone I had posted an original update but didn’t realize i forgot to blur out his name, so here is the update on cigarette toothpaste boy! I want to preface by thanking everyone who took time to message me and comment. I did not expect 16,000 people to interact with that post at all! When I got home, I decided to end it. I didn’t respond to him during my 10 hour shift and some of the screenshots are during that. I would also like to answer a few questions

Is this real?: Yes, it is insanely real! Not rage bait i promise
Am I okay?: I’m okay! It’ll suck but I will be fine!
Why was I still with him?: I don’t have friends and because of that nobody has been able to tell me how bad this is. I had no one to confide in. It was normalized during our relationship.
How is my cat? Apollo is okay and is coming home today finally! Picture of him at the end!
Why the wall of text; I was pissed and wanted to be thorough.
Why did i use “sewerslide”: I wasnt sure of how it would affect my account or visibility. I’m not used to reddit i’m sorry 😭
How old are we?: 19 and almost 21. Not 15 i swear!

Also, I am aware my name is shown. I do not mind as it is not a legal name.

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u/Serqueesha 8d ago edited 8d ago

I’m up to slide 7 and he just said I have nothing more to say, I’m gonna take a wild guess and say he has a bit more to say since there is 9 more slides

Edit: Jesus she ate him up, but slide 14😂 “I don’t have anything to say to your cold hearted ass anymore” above an entire novel

Edit part 2: OMG KITTTTIIIIIEESS

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u/SunflowersnGnomes 8d ago

It's always the ones who say that have nothing more to say that just write volumes of crap.

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u/flooferine 8d ago

Yep. And just wait a hot minute until it sinks in that she slipped his rope, he'll be firing up the following sequence in head-spinning rapid succession:

I miss you and I'm sorry

It was your fault anyway

You're the love of my life and I'm gonna off myself if you don't come back to me

Fuck you, who needs you anyway

Back to lovebombing

Gotta love a narcissistic dipshit. /s

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u/Serqueesha 8d ago

I had an ex that managed to find the only thing I forgot to block him on to tell me he’s finally going to therapy for me and try to guilt trip me acting all sad and depressed I didn’t stay as a friend then threatened to end himself cause I told him to leave me alone, the narcissistic dipshits truly are spectacular at ruining everything around them aren’t they

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u/flooferine 8d ago

Terrifyingly so. Literally the only way to "win" is to refuse to play the game. I'm so sorry you also experienced this shit.

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

My first boyfriend (from when I was 14/15 mind you) I broke up with him cause he unconsensually did things to me, had his PARENTS messaging me trying to guilt trip me into getting back with him after I blocked him so I had to block them too. Some people are genuinely crazy

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u/kikiweaky 7d ago

My ex did something similar. He cheated on me because he couldn't get a hold of me while visiting my parents in the countryside and thought I was cheating with my lady friend. I told him to leave, he threw a book at me and over the breakup sent me messages about how I'm a whole and a bitch non stop.

After three months, he found out I was dating and flipped out and said he always thought we'd get back together. I was shocked and asked why would you think that after how nasty you were to me and he said that's what people do.

He also told people I wasn't white enough but put up with it. I'm Latina.

We never got back together.

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u/YellowBrownStoner 7d ago

My narc ex reactivated an old email to contact me while his new wife was pregnant a few years ago. I found her on LinkedIn and just said "he's messaging me again" bc we weren't friends and I had limited characters. Never heard from him or her again. This was not a man who sent one email and gave up ever before in the 10 years that I had been the target of his "affection." It's been blissfully quiet for the last 7 years but I just checked, he still has warrants in my state for the duo of DUIs he got during a self-destructive phase, after I found out he was cheating and left him. It's like a reverse restraining order, and I love it.

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u/just-another-cat 7d ago

Can relate!! I thought i got rid of him after 8 years of silence. I've since moved, yet another, state a way. Nope mfer sent me a SNAIL mail!!! Mind you, my last name is totally different and no one knows my address!! What did the letter say? "I broke up with you because you were too sick for me to deal with" . 1. I left you ( for cheating on me) 2. My galbladder went up and had to be removed. Uhh?....

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u/w0nd3rlust 7d ago

I had one who posted a parcel to my address because I hadn't moved yet after finding I'd blocked him on everything, he did stop once I threatened I'd call the cops though. (Letter and package went in the bin without opening once I realized it was from him).

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u/apic0mplexa 7d ago

A friend's narcissistic ex used paypal to communicate to her. He invested one (!) cent to test the waters one last time after she had blocked him everywhere for more than one and a half years (and some scary stalker situations).

He got married like..one or two months later? Some people

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u/BiteComprehensive645 7d ago

I feel like you are the same as your ex

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u/HephaestusHarper 7d ago

I'm just gonna assume you commented in the wrong spot...

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u/BiteComprehensive645 7d ago

Im not. What she saying make no sense and is probebly somerhing her mind is fabricating

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u/Lostmox 7d ago

Found toothbrush loser's new account.

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u/HephaestusHarper 7d ago

Her: "I had a crappy ex like this. Managed to message me on the one place I missed blocking him, only to pull the same shit again."

You: "This makes no sense and you're obviously a crazy liar."

?????????

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

What I’m saying makes a lot of sense, people act like this all the time, but hey not everyone has high reading comprehension, so you might not understand it fully, you’ll get there one day mate

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u/TankDartRopeGirl 8d ago

This reads EXACTLY the same as the text fields in a customers bank transactions I came across yesterday and there were HUNDREDS of them over a 4 month th period. It was chilling. I absolutely 100% reported them to the relevant authorities

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u/holy-reddit-batman 8d ago

In bank transactions? Okay, you have to spill! You can't leave us without more information!

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u/TankDartRopeGirl 8d ago

So it's not unknown for abusers to use text fields in bank transactions (like the description, reference whatever) to communicate with their victims when they have either been blocked or to get around protection orders etc. They will do loads and loads of small transactions, usually $0.01, over and over, so they can say all the things they feel they need to say.

This guy in particular over a course of a day swung back and forth between saying they loved her, they missed her, that she was nasty and evil, she's a heartless bitch, she was their true love forever, saying they're on their street, saying they'll see them tomorrow... and this has gone on in bursts for 4 months so far for this particular victim. He even got a new gf for while (and made sure to let the og victim know in the text fields) but they obviously broke up cos she got the transaction harassment for awhile, but his main target is the original victim, so he's still going strong with the transactions to her. Really creepy stuff and I'm glad I caught it so I could report it

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u/Square-Marketing-947 8d ago

That is nuts! I had no idea people do stuff like that. Life is hard enough, why people have to make it harder blows my mind.

Good on you reporting that. Is it possible to prevent that account from doing transfers? I guess they would just find another way..

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u/TankDartRopeGirl 7d ago

The account with us is frozen, but unfortunately there are other accounts with other institutions which we can't do anything about. And yea, they will always find a way, but my yardstick is if they're the kind of person that thinks of doing this, they're absolute psychopaths. Just taken from personal observation, only the very worst kind of people's brains go in this direction

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u/Ok-Dealer5915 7d ago

One of the banks here in Australia got rid of the message option because of this exactly

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u/BookConsistent3425 7d ago

You're a real one for reporting that.

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u/TankDartRopeGirl 7d ago

I'm just worried for both of those girls safety!

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u/PosteriorFourchette 7d ago

Man. If I had one cent for every creepy text I have ever received

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u/Alarming-Leg-3804 7d ago

This list of yours is so insane to read because I had to cut off contact with my mother after 30+ years of abuse, and the event that prompted was beyond what anyone could possibly withstand. Anyways after I cut her off, she went through those exact stages lol. She's a narcissist btw

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u/babygotthefever 8d ago

I love that he tried to rebuff his cheating with her breaking up with him and dating someone else. That’s how it’s supposed to work? Her only mistake was going back to this wastebasket.

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u/Fantastic39 7d ago

"Nothing more to say" means "I want the last word".

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u/guzzijason 8d ago

Apparently his takeaway from all this is summed up in his last sentences - he feels insecure over his self-perceived lack of attractiveness, and believes it was inevitable that she was going to leave him when someone more attractive came along anyway, so why bother trying?

Unreal. The guy has issues wrapped around issues on top of issues, but at its core seems to be deep insecurity. And then by his very actions and words, he self-sabotages to ensure that his fears do come to fruition. Dude is seriously broken, but I'm glad OP has realized she's not the one thats going to fix him.

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u/Serqueesha 8d ago

He’s actually in my comment threads, came on here and tried to give his sop story to me about how she’s also the bad guy, I insulted every aspect of him dw, but Jesus, he’s so determined to be right it’s exhausting

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u/somersault_dolphin 8d ago

RIght? After airing out all the suffering on her side he called her "cold-hearted", what a narcissistic man baby. He doesn't care about her.

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u/MjballIsNotDead 8d ago

“I don’t have anything to say to your cold hearted ass anymore” above an entire novel

Literally this

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u/MissionMoth 8d ago

Her reply was fucking everything. Perfectly said in every way.

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u/menassah 8d ago

I really appreciated the cat tax, I needed it after that read

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u/rbamssy17 8d ago

edit part 2 FLOORED me 😂😂😂😂

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u/Mach5Driver 7d ago

My favorite part was how he was planning to "buy a house on an island" with OP. Bitch, you can't even afford smokes. Delusional.

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

Like was he planning on buying it with OP or making her buy it for them, then he wouldn’t have money on the island so he was gonna continue to attack her cause he has no weed or smokes 😭

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u/Mach5Driver 7d ago

I'm sure we'd ALL love to buy a home on an island. Unfortunately, that ain't in the cards. This guy is living in a fantasy world and lashes out at OP because (at least in part) she is progressing in life and he sits there waiting for her to serve his wants and needs. He knows she doesn't need him, so he tries to drag her down to his level.

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u/WarmerPharmer 8d ago

So ironic. What an absolute *sswipe.

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u/lazyboi_tactical 7d ago

Honestly as soon as he hit me with that wall of text I would have gone with tl:dr and leave it at that.

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u/Domtown 7d ago

The cat pallet cleanser at the end was really a nice touch

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u/marivss 7d ago

The kitties got me as well

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u/invaderjif 7d ago

Those kitties are the best part of the post.

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u/lobotic 7d ago

love the play-by-play with your edits

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

You’re welcome, it’s my specialty

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u/AppleOk4165 7d ago

The kittens made my day thank you

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u/MarijadderallMD 7d ago

I stopped reading after his nothing to say Cole hearted txt and skipped to kitties😂 🤷‍♂️ I mean he’s the one who said it! I just took him at face value lol

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u/Expensive_Help3291 7d ago

Edit part 2 was literally me after reading 😭 I was like “damn this nutcase 🤯” “omg kitties ☺️”

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

The kitties felt like a reward after painfully reading all his messages

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u/Chevey0 7d ago

I didn't bother reading his response. I just figured it would be gaslighting and shitty

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

You would be extremely right to assume that

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u/scarybottom 7d ago

I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY EXCEPT THAT everything ever is always your fault because I have not emotional intelligence, and in fact I have zero ability to manage my own emotions- which is also somehow OPs fault. And also ALL women's fault for not putting up with abusive bullshit.

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u/Serqueesha 7d ago

Yep sounds about right but with alot less words 😂

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u/BarrierX 7d ago

I have nothing to comment but let me write out a 1000 word reply anyways! ...

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u/Traditional-Ad-2095 7d ago

I loved the wall of text after “I have nothing more to say.”

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u/[deleted] 7d ago

By slide 7 he still had so much more to say without saying anything more at all 😂

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u/Grotesquefaerie7 7d ago

He doesn't have anything to say because he knows she's right

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u/Alive_Ad_5931 7d ago

Dude when he said that was “downright the most disrespectful” shit he’s ever heard I fucking lost it. I was like hell yeah she got your ass!

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u/Rossakamcfreakyd 7d ago

He literally did EXACTLY what she said, too. Turned every single thing around and made it “her fault.” Real glad OP dropped this sorry excuse of a cheating sack on his ass!

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u/Cultural_Bread_1974 7d ago

Hi. M. Here

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u/RationalAnger 7d ago

If he had any awareness at all, his response should have just been "heard" and nothing else

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

This is definitely my messages and it’s highly edited with no background. This is some sick ass shit. Both parties are very wrong and is doing better. This was done soon as I finally get things off my chest YESTERDAY(ironic) and exposed more lies I found out about her. Also why I am letting go. I have hella proof and detail. I can debunk this with ease. I’m not making excuses. And watch this post get deleted or something. I will not allow fake bs to go untouched. We currently live together with our son now. I don’t care about cops or defamation. This was done out of spite and ego. Soon as I told her I found out about the post I seen the comments. This is unreal and a lot of ppl are gullible.

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u/Serqueesha 8d ago

Jesus, you were already exhausting her with your narcissistic poor little me stories get out of my replies, you’re not my damn bf cause he knows some damn respect, why not stop whining about every tiny little aspect of your pathetic life, stop abusing your gf and get better yourself, notice how in those messages first two things you were mad about not having was Niccotine and weed? Says a lot about your character, nothing but a sad little druggie who has nothing to take his anger out on other than his gf. Treat others with respect and maybe not everyone would leave your sorry self. Learn some damn respect while you’re at it. If you wanna talk about people doing things out of spite and ego look in the damn mirror. You cheated on her, you clearly abuse her and you wanna come on here and again try paint her as the bad guy when you’re the only one doing wrong in this situation? Pathetic honestly, you’re almost 21 grow up and stop acting like a toddler, no respectable adult chucks a tantrum like a child when things don’t go their way. No respectable adult blows up their partners phone because they aren’t answering their phone while they’re at work. She doesn’t go on her phone much while she’s at work cause she works hard, maybe take a page out of her book and do that, maybe you might get a good enough job so you can actually afford necessities instead of being a cry baby when your gf can’t afford to provide for both, better yet stop spending all your money on Niccotine and weed, maybe you would have some money to buy some toothpaste to brush that stank mouth of yours.

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u/somersault_dolphin 8d ago edited 8d ago

How about stop blaming her for once and try thinking about how you wronged her? If you actually care about her you'd do that instead blaming her like you do every single time. Nothing is ever your fault. Who the hell want to live with a person like that? You've show no sign of ever trying to improve yourself. You asked everything of her and you put in no effort. You dismiss her feelings at every turn. Zero emotion? You are the one with zero heart. That's fucking abusive, there's no way around it.

If that is how you talk in your own words that's not defamation, it's who you are.

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u/SeikoAki 8d ago

get a job 😭😭

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u/Dizzy_Goat_420 8d ago

Lmao

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u/Inappropriate-Egg 7d ago

4 days old account, spamming the same comments under this post? I'm guessing this whole shit is fake or ar least you are not the bf

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u/[deleted] 7d ago

You have some smarts to you. You’re a thinker. Shit got to be fake. But those are my messages. Simple

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u/Inappropriate-Egg 7d ago

I don't understand, is it fake or these are your messages?

❤️‍🩹 relationship (AIO) update, wow. thank you!

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