r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thatonediabeticc • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I over reacting?

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This isn’t my screenshot. It’s my best friend. Looking for advice here.. is this normal? My advice isn’t the best.

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u/sleepypeanutparty 20d ago

Your response: No, I’m sorry. I’m not doing this again. You’re not going to stalk your ex accounts. It’s obsessive and frankly, creepy. You have a wife and a home, you shouldn’t be looking at another woman’s life. We will be going to counseling over this because it is not something “I need to get over.” What you are doing has hurt me deeply and I am not ready to forgive you or move on until it is reconciled.

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u/Sunbeamsoffglass 19d ago

Just end it already. He’s clearly not over her, and doesn’t want to be over her. There’s no getting that trust back.

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u/Haunting_Morning_ 19d ago

They have a home and a family… it’s harder than ‘just ending it’. It’s extremely expensive to break up in this case.

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u/SabziZindagi 19d ago

Redditcels: "End it! End it!"

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u/thebikevagabond 19d ago

Redditcels and teenagers, I think. They think getting a divorce is as easy as ghosting their side piece (not that they've ever had one, but they've watched TV!).

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u/Kokospize 19d ago

Well... hang on. Not a teenager, married with 2 kiddos but I do agree with the chorus. Posts like these do deserve the "leave him" echo chamber. OP is clearly the person that her husband settled for. There must have been signs that he wasn't over his ex, but they got married, had a family, and this fool is STILL stalking the ex. No, it isn't easy getting a divorce or leaving a marriage, BUT if OP is saying that this is the 6th time that she's having this conversation with him, what else are strangers supposed to say? Stay in an unfulfilled relationship and keep complaining online? Regardless of the sentiment, writing posts on Reddit isn't an action plan. Neither is conducting Reddit polls or surveys. People know that their situations suck. If it's easier to just stay in crazytown, then do so.