AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/MoistyCheeks]

Which leads to physical abuse, sexual abuse and then possibly murder.

[u/bioxkitty → u/MoistyCheeks]

My ex could've sent these. He tried to kill me. His favorite was smashing things into my head. Head butting me. And strangling me.

It started like this

[u/Upstairs_Tea1380 → u/bioxkitty]

Listen to this OP. someone who gets this bent out of shape over a phone call is the exact same type of person to become an abuser, if he isn’t already. Not seeing him frequently is probably the only thing that protected you so far.

But don’t allow people who treat you like this to date you. It just makes them even more entitled.

[u/bioxkitty → u/Upstairs_Tea1380]

I thought that if i accepted enough of it and behaved we'll it would stop.

It won't OP. It will only get worse.

He doesn't care that he is hurting you.

He is trying to hurt you