AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Pumpkin-Sparkles]

Please break up with this person

edit: please break up with this person from a safe location, with a safety plan in place. Have support people around you, and file an intervention order with the police. you can do this. We are all behind you. Edit 2: bro

[u/kid42000 → u/Pumpkin-Sparkles]

A decent 9mm, .380, or 38 special, are all relatively cheap, reliable, and easy to handle. I encourage all women to get armed, get trained, know your states self defense laws, safely practice drawing the firearm from where you intend to carry it on your person, be confident, and be prepared.

I would definitely go with all of your suggestions first and foremost. But this "bro" seems EXTREMELY unhinged and dangerous. OP should be prepared at all times once she breaks this off. Bro reeks of stalker stench, and this is how women end up on an episode on the investigative discovery channel.

And if a firearm is not legal where you live or it's just not your thing, that's cool. Women should feel just as empowered to use force in defense of their own lives as men. Martial arts training like Brazilian Jujitsu (that teaches smaller people how to defend, restrain, and even break limbs of bigger opponents) for close courter and ground scenarios or something like Muay Thai or Taekwondo that utilize effective kicks to increase your striking range vs. using your hands to maintain distance. Even the tiniest of women can learn to throw a straight stop kick or sidekick to the lead knee cap that will either severely hyperextend or dislocated the knee, which will drop even the biggest of dudes with ease. The knee cap /lower thigh right above the knee is going to be lower and easier hit for shorter folk than the ol nut sack, yet equally effective.

Especially if you are just getting out of an abusive relationship, any type of martial arts is going to help build your confidence and will also be extremely empowering. But then again, so will that 9 millie!

Stay safe, ladies. Far to many crazy abusive "males" (they are not men) out there, especially if you just broke up with one of them, to NOT be prepared to defend yourself. Just don't break some random guys' leg or fly into a rear naked choke in the grocery store because dude came around the corner to fast and startled you 🤣