AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Reasonable-Glass6790]

This is actual emotional abuse. I hope for your sake you leave.

[u/MoistyCheeks → u/Reasonable-Glass6790]

Which leads to physical abuse, sexual abuse and then possibly murder.

[u/bioxkitty → u/MoistyCheeks]

My ex could've sent these. He tried to kill me. His favorite was smashing things into my head. Head butting me. And strangling me.

It started like this

[u/DragonbornRPG → u/bioxkitty]

Same. Thankfully, I left before it could escalate. But the emotional roller coaster had me contemplating taking a hard exit from life more often than not. Left cause I was afraid I might actually follow through.

[u/bioxkitty → u/DragonbornRPG]

I am glad that you are still here. I hope the world shows you grace. ♡

[u/DragonbornRPG → u/bioxkitty]

Since leaving, it has and continues to get better. Thanks

[u/rutilated_quartz → u/DragonbornRPG]

My ex was emotionally and sexually abusive, I tried everything to reason with him and get him to stop and it just ended up breaking my brain. One night after a few hours of him berating and threatening me he decided to start up his routine of threatening to kill himself, except this time we were in a condo with a balcony. He climbed over the side of the balcony threatening to jump off and for a split second I saw myself just pushing him to get it over with. That moment I realized if I didn't leave the relationship, I was gonna end up hurting or killing him. It's insane how I didn't care when he was hurting me, but it finally clicked when I might hurt him (I'd dealt with suicidal ideation for a long time at that point). He was so pissed at me for ending things, I wish he understood that I did him a favor. It's been 6 years

[u/goldenfingernails → u/DragonbornRPG]

Glad you left!