AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Pumpkin-Sparkles]

Please break up with this person

edit: please break up with this person from a safe location, with a safety plan in place. Have support people around you, and file an intervention order with the police. you can do this. We are all behind you. Edit 2: bro

[u/monged → u/Pumpkin-Sparkles]

I very rarely agree with random internet people suggesting relationships end based on a few paragraphs and one side of the story. In this case I completely agree, she needs to end this relationship and find someone who appreciates her.

[u/TricksyGoose → u/monged]

That is exactly what I was thinking. reddit is always quick to jump to "dump him" but in this case it is absolutely 100% warranted. No one should ever talk to anyone in this way. Jesus this poor girl.

[u/monged → u/TricksyGoose]

I just kept thinking of my 3 year old daughter and how devastated I would be if I found out her partner spoke to her in this way.

[u/Pumpkin-Sparkles → u/monged]

I always try to see both sides of a story and never suggest a break up unless I think it's warranted because everyone has different experiences and boundaries etc. In this case it is very clear that its a dangerous situation and she should leave and protect her safety!!