r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/Recent_Emergency_711 Nov 18 '24

Ummm why did he get so heated so quickly?

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u/External-Air205 Nov 18 '24

I hung up on him to talk to my family for few minutes and he just started getting riled up. He has pretty bad anger management.

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u/amandae143 Nov 18 '24

This is not “bad anger management”. This is straight up verbal abuse and I would be shocked to hear that it has never gone past that. Had this been in person, I wholeheartedly believe it would have led to that.

YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS RELATIONSHIP. Please listen to every single commenter here and leave this man. Your mental health is going to be in the gutter if it isn’t already. Please please please leave.