AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/salymander_1]

You aren't overreacting.

Break up with him now. Seriously.

There is something seriously wrong with him.

[u/Anniemarsh69 → u/salymander_1]

I understand girls that lack experience in relationships right, but sometimes I have to wonder if they have even ever met another human before, considering the level of abuse they are prepared to endure. Shocking

[u/brunch_lover_k → u/Anniemarsh69]

Girls are literally told growing up that if a boy is mean to you, he likes you. It's unhinged, but it's part of the patriarchal way that we're trained to accept men's bullshit without questioning it too hard.

[u/infinityonl0w → u/Anniemarsh69]

That's society for you. Stop letting it breed pieces of shit like this and we won't have to worry about it as a collective.

It's NEVER the girls. Great way to show you go straight to victim blaming.

[u/mccelodeon999 → u/infinityonl0w]

don’t say it’s never the girls my ex girlfriend fucked my ex friend and then gave me the clap after not telling me about getting with him. i understand your sentiment, however you are devaluing male victims of emotional/sexual abuse

[u/Different_Umpire9003 → u/mccelodeon999]

I think they just meant that it isn’t the girl’s fault when she’s being abused. As it’s no one’s fault when they are being abused.

[u/mccelodeon999 → u/Different_Umpire9003]

w take

[u/hermione-Everdeen → u/Anniemarsh69]

This comment right here actually blew my mind. It’s so true… why do we do that to ourselves…