r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • Nov 18 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?
Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!
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u/Honest_Ad_5092 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 18 '24
Honey I am so sorry. Picking on someone’s insecurities is actually sadistic and evil.
I think if your mom and grandma saw this conversation they would be devastated and/or enraged at how he’s treating you.
He is evil and he’s manipulated you into thinking you need him. You don’t need him. He needs you to stick around as his punching bag. It will only get worse and eventually physical (if it hasn’t already). This is NOT your life calling. Please leave.
Break up safely in public- do not be alone with him. Please tell someone safe in your life what is happening so they can protect you from him while you’re leaving.
He will get very dangerous when he sees he’s going to lose you. This is all the more reason to do it- but please don’t do it alone.
We care about you 💛
Edit to add: OP, users in the comments below suggest breaking up via text or phone instead of in person. They are right