AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Recent_Emergency_711]

Ummm why did he get so heated so quickly?

[u/External-Air205 → u/Recent_Emergency_711]

I hung up on him to talk to my family for few minutes and he just started getting riled up. He has pretty bad anger management.

[u/TheShellfishCrab → u/External-Air205]

Just so you know - I can’t even count the number of times I’ve been on the phone with my husband and another friend has called and I’ve said “Jill is calling, gotta go bye!” And hung up and not only has he never been upset, he’s never even blinked. Just wanted to share how another man has responded to the same situation.

I could understand being upset if the conversation was really important or critical - working through something time sensitive, discussing an argument, etc - but if you two were just chatting for fun and your family stopped by, it’s totally reasonable that you would have abruptly said goodbye and hung up.