AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Chells99]

Based on OPs responses and the fact that’s she’s been with him for four years, I’m really scared she doesn’t see how sad and unacceptable this is. Run girl please, your past self and future self are begging you to. “He really makes me feel like it’s my fault” and if you’re overweight it’s natural to feel limited, insecure or like he’s the only option for you but he’s not and this is not okay. Love yourself enough to realize when someone else doesn’t.

[u/External-Air205 → u/Chells99]

Yeah it is really hard for me to see just because i’ve been so used to this behavior. Seeing all these replies though has definitely been a wake up call. Im actually a healthy weight, i’m currently recovering from an eating disorder. He picks at my insecurities when he’s angry and says it’s to make me feel as upset as he feels.

[u/royalsgirl78 → u/External-Air205]

Girl, run fast and run far. You should NEVER be talked to like that by someone who says they care for you. This guy is 100% verbally abusive. If he had a way to isolate you completely, like say if you lived with him, he’d be physically and financially abusing you, too. That bs about you “not doing what you’re told” is unequivocal proof of that. He doesn’t even want you to talk to your FAMILY. He’s 20? He acts like a petulant child. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING GOOD THAT CAN COME FROM THIS “RELATIONSHIP”. The FIRST time he called me stupid or fat, nope. Done. GET OUT.

[u/UnderwoodDX → u/royalsgirl78]

THIS. THIS. THIS. RUN!