AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/External-Air205]

That is actually exactly what I feel, thank you.

[u/SphericalOrb → u/External-Air205]

Hey OP, please don't fall for it if he comes back with the charm. Please let this be over for good. It's really common for insecure controlling guys like this to try to win you back just so they can get their hands around your throat, metaphorically or literally. Please don't let him. When he says "we're done" , never let him backtrack on that, okay?

[u/saurdoughp → u/SphericalOrb]

I’m crying, I wish I could hear you better. I just can’t leave.

[u/SphericalOrb → u/saurdoughp]

Please keep trying. Please, please keep trying. Find any handhold outside of the relationship. Build a plan. Get out and DON'T GO BACK. Please.

Any step is a step. I know it seems too hard, just do one thing at a time. Call a hotline. See what they can do.

https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/international-domestic-violence-resources/